One Year & Over Part 42
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I am nothing but a drunk. I thought my intellect and the better life I had gained under sobriety would help me make it through. But not enough. Back to square one, back to the undies. Tomorrow will be day 1, I hope.
Love you all.
Love you all.
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Join Date: Nov 2012
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(((Drake))) ♥
You have the tools. You know what to do. And you know we love you.
Can you call your sponsor? Maybe get to a meeting tomorrow....put yourself in the hands of people who want to and can help you.
One step at a time. One day at a time. It's going to be alright.
♥
You have the tools. You know what to do. And you know we love you.
Can you call your sponsor? Maybe get to a meeting tomorrow....put yourself in the hands of people who want to and can help you.
One step at a time. One day at a time. It's going to be alright.
♥
Magsie
Join Date: Oct 2013
Location: UK
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Morning overs
Sassy, I agree with the you, we always learn something new from itchy.
I remember my mum used to fight my battles. If I told her any of my problems. I was mortified, I was only wanting to talk it out with her and she went and tried to sort it out for me without telling me first. Bless her, she was doing what mums do, protecting her flock. After that I didn't share any of my worries or concerns and I was always fine when she asked. My mum couldn't let go of us, I think she was controlling though, even after her death it took a long while to break the umbilical chord.
Completely different senario to yours sassy and I wasn't comparing just remembering.
Hiya Wolfie! Hope you're well! I haven't seen 'stranger things' looks good!
Hope it's a good Sunday for us all!
Sassy, I agree with the you, we always learn something new from itchy.
I remember my mum used to fight my battles. If I told her any of my problems. I was mortified, I was only wanting to talk it out with her and she went and tried to sort it out for me without telling me first. Bless her, she was doing what mums do, protecting her flock. After that I didn't share any of my worries or concerns and I was always fine when she asked. My mum couldn't let go of us, I think she was controlling though, even after her death it took a long while to break the umbilical chord.
Completely different senario to yours sassy and I wasn't comparing just remembering.
Hiya Wolfie! Hope you're well! I haven't seen 'stranger things' looks good!
Hope it's a good Sunday for us all!
Magsie
Join Date: Oct 2013
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Sounds lovely, Suze. Mine is just beginning, it nearly 7am. Just been putting rubbish out and it's raining! Just for a change.
Mine's going to be similar to yours Suze. Nice and relaxing.( without Mr Sun, by the looks of it!) lol.x
Mine's going to be similar to yours Suze. Nice and relaxing.( without Mr Sun, by the looks of it!) lol.x
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Originally Posted by DrakeCKC 
I am nothing but a drunk. I thought my intellect and the better life I had gained under sobriety would help me make it through. But not enough. Back to square one, back to the undies. Tomorrow will be day 1, I hope.
Love you all.
Love you all.
The things that pulled me out of the quicksand in the earliest days were no longer working by the time I quit. I had to use a lot more effort and be willing to try a lot more things to escape the maelstrom.
Sounds like you're at that acceptance phase too Drake.
and..if I may, you're much more than 'just a drunk'. We all are
D
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(((Drake))) you are definitely so much more than just a drunk, as are we all. You can and will come out the other side of this, a little older and a lot wiser X
Itchy, I totally agree. When we hit our teens we see our parents differently. We notice their flaws and faults for the first time. Teenage angst seems to exaggerate that until we feel like we hate them for being the person they are, for inflicting the life they have on us, for not understanding us. And we are never, ever ever going to be like them. At some point we ought begin to mature, see that everyone has faults and flaws, not just our parents. Everyone makes mistakes. We are not the sum of our upbringing unless we allow ourselves to be. At some point we have to take control and responsibility for the person we are now. For some that happens early on in adulthood, for others rather later. For me it took into my mid thirties, as my first husband drunk that he was, was something of an enabler. Not wanting to take responsibility for his own addiction, he chose to allow me to believe my father was the engineer of all my problems. The current Mr T. does not do that. He expects me to accept my own responsibilities and own my traits.
I have more of my father in me than I care to admit ( although I do & the current Mr T can even make me laugh about it) but I try to change the aspects of my personality that I don't like. I also used to find myself turning into 'Kevin the teenager' https://youtu.be/Lqm8JGnSshE
around him. Funny, in recent visits I have become more mature and accepting of his behaviour. And he is becoming more like Kevin!
Have a shining Sunday my friends
Itchy, I totally agree. When we hit our teens we see our parents differently. We notice their flaws and faults for the first time. Teenage angst seems to exaggerate that until we feel like we hate them for being the person they are, for inflicting the life they have on us, for not understanding us. And we are never, ever ever going to be like them. At some point we ought begin to mature, see that everyone has faults and flaws, not just our parents. Everyone makes mistakes. We are not the sum of our upbringing unless we allow ourselves to be. At some point we have to take control and responsibility for the person we are now. For some that happens early on in adulthood, for others rather later. For me it took into my mid thirties, as my first husband drunk that he was, was something of an enabler. Not wanting to take responsibility for his own addiction, he chose to allow me to believe my father was the engineer of all my problems. The current Mr T. does not do that. He expects me to accept my own responsibilities and own my traits.
I have more of my father in me than I care to admit ( although I do & the current Mr T can even make me laugh about it) but I try to change the aspects of my personality that I don't like. I also used to find myself turning into 'Kevin the teenager' https://youtu.be/Lqm8JGnSshE
around him. Funny, in recent visits I have become more mature and accepting of his behaviour. And he is becoming more like Kevin!
Have a shining Sunday my friends
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Good (mid) morning all, the sun has arrived in UK Mags, nice.
Itchy you are amazing, compassionate, wise, a good teacher. I still feel new to this group and just getting to know you all, I feel VERY lucky.
Have a great Sunday.
xx
Itchy you are amazing, compassionate, wise, a good teacher. I still feel new to this group and just getting to know you all, I feel VERY lucky.
Have a great Sunday.
xx
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