Class Of January 2016 Support Thread part 5
Oh Sandy, I really feel for you. It’s so hard having in-laws living with you, I know. Years ago, my BIL would come to stay with 9-10 months and work for my husband, and then he would go home to Greece for 2-3 months. This went on for around 15 years. A few years we had his cousin staying with us too.
Rant away hon, you need to vent! Is this a temporary living arrangement for you, or is it long term? Either way, you’ll need to set some boundaries soon, otherwise the resentment will eat you alive.
Rant away hon, you need to vent! Is this a temporary living arrangement for you, or is it long term? Either way, you’ll need to set some boundaries soon, otherwise the resentment will eat you alive.
Nic, I’m not in AA but speaking for myself, I think that would be a generalized statement, not everyone is going to go through the same WDs or recovery. My last quit (’14) went strong until I caved in the 8th month, so I’m with Thump, I’m going to keep my guard up for at least the next 20 years or so.
Sandy, hope things get better for you regarding MiL. Like you, I don't like others in my kitchen when I'm cooking (unless she's extra-special and it's a cooking date, right?) so I can definitely feel you there.
Nic, I don't know the answer to your question ... I'm inclined to keep my guard up all the time now, after my recent lapse.
Nic, I don't know the answer to your question ... I'm inclined to keep my guard up all the time now, after my recent lapse.
Nic, I’m not in AA but speaking for myself, I think that would be a generalized statement, not everyone is going to go through the same WDs or recovery. My last quit (’14) went strong until I caved in the 8th month, so I’m with Thump, I’m going to keep my guard up for at least the next 20 years or so.
my biggest trigger is in the kitchen right now. My mother-in-law! She is a lovely lady but she lives with us and it's a public holiday here today so we are both home. I've already been out and about taking much longer than needed to just be out of house. I hate her living with us. I can't potter around the house. Or even make myself a sandwich! I was going to try to make a meat sauce but I can't now. My usual reaction would be to hide in my room and drink. Now I'm just hiding in my room! I won't drink and I'm annoyed with myself for doing that as a reaction but I need to find another way to get rid of the frustration. Yelling in my head to get the hell out of my house is not working. Arghh! I hate days off!!
Anyway, rant over. So sorry. I know people are going through real issues but I just had to let it out of my head before it manifests into my old solution.
Everyone is going really strong. Sorry about the job Odelle, but you have a great perspective. I want to quit smoking too but worried about the weight before my dance recital. Is anyone on the no smoking thread using stop smoking aids such as Champix tablets or is everyone going cold turkey?
THE card has been sent, Thump. Very romantic. I wish you all the best. I love how you call people ma'am. Very endearing!
Thanks for reading. Take care.
Anyway, rant over. So sorry. I know people are going through real issues but I just had to let it out of my head before it manifests into my old solution.
Everyone is going really strong. Sorry about the job Odelle, but you have a great perspective. I want to quit smoking too but worried about the weight before my dance recital. Is anyone on the no smoking thread using stop smoking aids such as Champix tablets or is everyone going cold turkey?
THE card has been sent, Thump. Very romantic. I wish you all the best. I love how you call people ma'am. Very endearing!
Thanks for reading. Take care.
Days off and change of routine can be difficult. Stay strong-you're doing so well.... Big breaths.... Could you maybe take a nice walk and escape for a little while?? Sending huge hugs and love xx
It's supposed to be long term, but I can't live like this. I don't want to be the one responsible for kicking her out and I don't want to put it on my husband either. Best solution would be for HER to decide to leave and we'll support her anyway we can. It's just frustrating but since I vented on here , the anger has gone. Quite an amazing website!
Nic, I don't know the answer either sorry. It's good to be aware of it though. Last night I googled PAWS and found some really interesting information on it. I'll try and send the link if I can.
Nic, I don't know the answer either sorry. It's good to be aware of it though. Last night I googled PAWS and found some really interesting information on it. I'll try and send the link if I can.
ADVICE WANTED PLEASE-
I'm new to the whole AA thing.(not recovery in general as I've been around a little while!!!!) I do have a great sponsor but she has a LOT of rules which I understand. One thing she keeps saying to me is that I am now in my most CRUCIAL time for relapse in the next 2 weeks. I'm not seeing her until Monday, but is this a well known thing? It's made me feel a little anxious as I'm feeling great.
Is there a time in early sobriety that we are at the greatest risk of relapse(statistically).. I know it's a bit of a generalised question.... I just presumed I was over the worst being on day 32... and that I should just keep me guard up anyway
Thanks
I'm new to the whole AA thing.(not recovery in general as I've been around a little while!!!!) I do have a great sponsor but she has a LOT of rules which I understand. One thing she keeps saying to me is that I am now in my most CRUCIAL time for relapse in the next 2 weeks. I'm not seeing her until Monday, but is this a well known thing? It's made me feel a little anxious as I'm feeling great.
Is there a time in early sobriety that we are at the greatest risk of relapse(statistically).. I know it's a bit of a generalised question.... I just presumed I was over the worst being on day 32... and that I should just keep me guard up anyway
Thanks
I found the first three months were a little up and down. That's not bad when you put it against the decades I drank.
By month 4 things got a lot more constant and calmer for me.
Hang in there
D
Ask me six months ago if I could endure a breakup even as I was entering sobriety, and I would have laughed loudly as I cracked open another cold one. Even at this early stage, recovery has equipped me, I think, with plenty of tools to handle difficulties that previously would have overawed me: Mindfulness, gratitude for (and that means also the ability to find) the good things in my life, and a growing serenity about circumstances beyond my control.
With that knowledge comes the strength to change what I can: myself, right now.
Knowledge truly is power. I owe so much to you guys, and to the wider group of members here. Y'all are the best.
Thanks Dee. On the whole I'm feeling great!!! I certainly have my moments but it is a day by day process. I'd just never heard that I'm in a bigger danger zone at 4-6 weeks and wondered if it was a well known fact i had missed the memo about! lol!
I saw the Dr. yesterday to have my liver checked out as the numbers are a little elevated. He is not worried but I'm having more extensive bloodworm and an ultrasound just to check on things. He said it was very good that I had quit drinking and that he would have expected my numbers to come down at this point with no drinking. He believes it's my weight (a little high) that is causing the issue. I have to lose some weight. SURE! I have a giant sweet tooth. I think it's almost easier for me to give up the wine than the dessert
Waaaaahhh!!
Anyway, he told me something scary! He wants to rule out hepatitis, especially C, because if a person has C even ONE drink a month can cause five times the liver damage. Sobering (see what I did there?)
Have a great day, my January classmates!!
My doctor just called with the results of my blood work from last week. Liver enzymes were slightly elevated but stable. He said I just need to say away from alcohol and fatty foods and exercise. I've been sweating bullets for a week.
I never want to worry about this again... EVER!
6 weeks on Friday!
I never want to worry about this again... EVER!
6 weeks on Friday!
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Nic-
I'm going to agree with your sponser! I had 30 days in the first time I quit and decided that I had control and had a drink. It ended with a week long binge. Lesson learned... No need to be anxious. I wish I had been warned about the 30 day trigger. Just up your game a bit and stay close and you will be fine
Knowledge is Power!
I'm going to agree with your sponser! I had 30 days in the first time I quit and decided that I had control and had a drink. It ended with a week long binge. Lesson learned... No need to be anxious. I wish I had been warned about the 30 day trigger. Just up your game a bit and stay close and you will be fine
Knowledge is Power!
Yesterday was Ash Wednesday and the discussion the night before in my house was around what they decided to give up.
My 12 1/2 year old gave up her phone except to be able to text or call me after school, no social media, apps, games, or texting with friends, that is huge for her.
My 11 year old was going to give up all sweets, but once she realized that meant no donuts on Saturday or Aunday morning she revised it to no candy.
My 8 year old gave up candy.
My husband is undeccided still.
I have decided that giving up wine will count this year, and I decided to follow this advice from a quote I saw:
During Lent
Fast on Criticism, and
Feast on Praise
Fast from self-pity, and
Feast on joy.
Fast from ill-temper, and
Feast on contentment.
Fast from jealousy, and
Feast on love.
Fast from pride, and
Feast on humility.
Fast on selfishness, and
Feast on service.
Fast from fear, and
Feast on Faith.
-Anonymous
Whether or not we recognize the season of Lent I thought the words above were good ones.
Happy Thirsday everyone!
My 12 1/2 year old gave up her phone except to be able to text or call me after school, no social media, apps, games, or texting with friends, that is huge for her.
My 11 year old was going to give up all sweets, but once she realized that meant no donuts on Saturday or Aunday morning she revised it to no candy.
My 8 year old gave up candy.
My husband is undeccided still.
I have decided that giving up wine will count this year, and I decided to follow this advice from a quote I saw:
During Lent
Fast on Criticism, and
Feast on Praise
Fast from self-pity, and
Feast on joy.
Fast from ill-temper, and
Feast on contentment.
Fast from jealousy, and
Feast on love.
Fast from pride, and
Feast on humility.
Fast on selfishness, and
Feast on service.
Fast from fear, and
Feast on Faith.
-Anonymous
Whether or not we recognize the season of Lent I thought the words above were good ones.
Happy Thirsday everyone!
That's a great quote, Delilah. Just what I needed to read. Thanks. When I was a kid we followed Lent. I remember giving up peanut butter and hot chips!
I've had a bit of a blah day today. I'm not going to dwell on it anymore. I'm off to bed on day 18 and tomorrow will be a better day.
Good night/day everyone.
I've had a bit of a blah day today. I'm not going to dwell on it anymore. I'm off to bed on day 18 and tomorrow will be a better day.
Good night/day everyone.
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I'm off today and tomorrow, will get to work on my cab build in a bit after coffee and shower. I hope everyone here has a beautiful day!
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