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Old 02-05-2016, 08:34 PM
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Originally Posted by Mish View Post
We will all be there with you holding your hand beautiful Nic. I have used the excuse of being on antibiotics for a throat infection (that interact with alcohol) before as a reason for not drinkng. I haven't drummed up the courage yet to say Im not drinking because I cant drink sensibly. Not that i ever have to. Use whatever excuse gets you through beautiful girl. xxxx
Yes I think I might end up with a bit of a tummy bug next weekend lol!!! It's just easier isn't it.
Wish I had the guts to tell the truth but I can't. Maybe one day when I'm comfortable with not drinking I'll be able to say I'm a non- drinker with confidence.... Xxx thanks X.
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Old 02-05-2016, 08:35 PM
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There are some great tips here - for any social occasion Nic

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Thanks Dee- will take a look for sure xx
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Old 02-05-2016, 08:37 PM
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Originally Posted by Caramel View Post
Well that was weird, I had such a good post compiled and when I went to post it I became logged out and lost it! Trying again:
Lisa - best wishes for your psychologist referral.
Nic - are you able to byo e.g. Pellegrino or other mineral water, cranberry juice, whatever you like? Hope you enjoy catching up with your UK relatives and I hope they know to wear hats and sunscreen!
Odelle - nice to see a list of names all in one place. I would not want to have my birthday date listed.
Hi caramel- it's next weekend so I can definitely prepare in advance. My Mum will make sure I have alternatives to drink...
The rellies are really going to suffer this week poor things- hottest Feb in years apparently!!! Thanks so much for the reply xxx
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Old 02-05-2016, 08:40 PM
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Originally Posted by Odelle View Post
Going back through this and the previous thread, I listed names of users who posted to the Class of January 2016 thread(s). Some members post infrequently, some may have joined the February Class thread, and some are MIA. If I missed anyone, please give a shout out and I will add your name.

Bandicoot2
Beerbgone
Benice
Bluedog97
Cahabr
Caramel
CarrieBradshaw
ClearCut
Delilah1
Dickensen
Emme99
Eyeshake
GramParsons
GriffyS1989
Gypsytears
Haris2014
illi1111
JCNY
Jhend
JL2014
JulySeaCoast
KDBnSLC
Kiki0615
Lisatryingagain
Loopylou
Lulu212
M1A1
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Meshelly
Mesober35
Mish
Nic233
NZK9Lady
Odelle
Olivia2011
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Patricia68
Pedro1234
ProudPenguin
RallyAly
RogerKlotz
Sadie1
SandyO
Sean30
Shantilove
SillyHuman
SoberinSyracuse
Steve3929
Strangeangel
StrongBird
StrugglingJim
Sunflowerlife
Thumpalumpacus
TigerLili
Tnek97
Tnt44
Trees39
Vanaprastha
Zeebs
ZeldaFan

We could do more with the list, depending on how everyone feels about it. My past experience with posting sobriety dates is that it can be a deterrent to someone who has slipped to make the announcement and have then have their date reset. If it’s okay with everyone here, we can each track our sobriety time and give a shout out when a milestone has been reached so that others can acknowledge the achievement. How do you feel about listing dates of birth, month and day?

Hi Odelle, I have absolutely no problem listing my date of birth, date of sobriety or any other dates...but I would be concerned that those who slip or are struggling a little may feel embarrassed or give up...
Recognition is important to make us feel like we have achieved something great but only when we are travelling well.....
Good on you for taking the time to keep track of all of us.. We are a very active group xx
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Old 02-05-2016, 08:53 PM
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Hello everyone---super tired but wanted to check in for accountability before heading to bed. Today was weird-- I've had a slight headache for the past few days and now just feel off.
No reason for it as I'm eating clean, drinking tons of water, little stress and generally sleeping very well but it's still a very unsettling feeling. Maybe my body and brain still struggling to heal even though at Day 36 I hope I'm past the initial detox? Did research PAWS today but it seems too early for that.
So after slogging through some paperwork and other computer related projects I went to a yoga class and got some good cardio in on the treadmill. Came home and tried a you tube video with a combo of pilates / yoga (one of our class members posted it--thank you!), drank more water and tea, ate a healthy dinner with hubby, then soaked in epsom salts/hot bath for awhile.
That weird feeling has calmed down but now I feel it's time to be on the alert for AV! Maybe today was a whisper?

Anyway, so good to read everyone's posts! So glad everyone struggling reached back out to our amazing supportive group. And congrats to everyone feeling really good right now!

Odelle - great job compiling our class. That must have been very time consuming and thanks for doing that! Saw some names and felt sad they haven't checked in lately but overall we have a great group and I feel we are doing a great job staying in touch, celebrating our milestones and reaching out for support when needed.

Sun - Here are the links we talked about regarding the leptin and insulin. As I suspected the sales pitch comes in the 3rd & final video - but there is some very good info in all 3 so as I hear on SR so often, take what works and leave the rest Not sure how long these will be available but for now they are on you tube.

https://susanpt.leadpages.co/feb-2016-plc-1-video-page/
https://susanpt.leadpages.co/feb-2016-plc-2-video-page/
https://susanpt.leadpages.co/feb-2016-plc-3-video-page/

Take care all and wishing everyone a Good Sober weekend!
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Old 02-05-2016, 09:01 PM
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Sun--No sorry, they are not on you tube. Just on the bright line eating web site.
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Old 02-05-2016, 09:09 PM
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I'm tired and ready to turn in too, good night all, have a safe and sober weekend!
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Old 02-05-2016, 09:18 PM
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Goodnight Odelle, and thanks for putting the class list together. Would have taken you ages!
Nic, if a simple no doesn't suffice, which I suspect it won't, I'd go with taking antibiotics for an ear infection or something. Try not to let it stress you out through the week. You are doing fantastically and it's great you are finding so much support.
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Old 02-05-2016, 11:00 PM
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Well, there I go again. I was going to make this a happy post and ended up making it all about me me me and my stupid issues. I don't want to come across as the perpetual whiner, the sob story, the girl who is always complaining. I don't like being that person anymore.

Looking forward to the days when I can forgive me, love me, adore me, and care for me naturally. When does that day get here?
Sweetie, we all carry baggage, we all have past sins which demand self-forgiveness, we all have the need to vent on occasion.

You're not coming across as "the perpetual whiner" -- you're coming across as a human being. Your issues, and how you deal with them, well, that ain't "stupid". Having the bravery to discuss difficult emotions not only helps you deal with them, it helps us deal with ours.

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Old 02-05-2016, 11:13 PM
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I went to an event last night and I drank. I had two glasses. I knew I would. It was an event I felt I had to go to, fully knowing that it would stir up very painful feelings for me.

Truthfully I don't feel guilty that I drank last night. Which makes me wonder maybe I shouldn't be on here. I know my life is better without alcohol, but I am not beating myself up at all about last night.

I am going to see a dr next Wednesday to get a referral for a psychologist who specialises in PTSD. I got the verbal recommendation for this psychologist over a year ago, and haven't acted on it. I am afraid I will have to go into all that horrible **** from the past and not actually come out the other side feeling better about it.

I could have reached out here for support in the days leading up to the event last night, as I knew a few days ago I would probably drink there. But I chose not to, not wanting to have to think about the whys of why I would have a drink there. Its just very painful.

I am very proud of all of you who are staying strong and choosing to face things without booze. Be very proud of yourselves also.
The fact that you posted this here means to me that you think you belong here.

Sobriety doesn't seem like a straight-up rocket-shoot to me -- it's not like they do the countdown and send you off and there, everything's fixed.

A couple of weeks ago I was in the chat meeting on Friday night and the topic was persistence. We each need to remember that word. Just because we faltered doesn't mean we should throw in the towel,
any more than stubbing our toe means we should stop the hike. Persistence. Internal discipline, motivation, and the refusal to accept what has been heretofore the norm.

You should be here. And you should yourself be proud of being here. Take a hand up, get back on your feet, and let's walk a little more.

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Hey lovelies,
I'm going ok- already stressing about a family function I have to attend next weekend. Definitely don't feel strong enough to be around a bunch of drunk people but my Aunty and uncle are over from the uk so have little choice.
It's really worrying me how to handle it and can't even think of any plans to put in place. Mum knows I'm not drinking(it's at her place) She even offered not to drink either - which will solve nothing lol
Any suggestions? I'm known as the one who loves her drink- me saying his time that I'm not drinking as I'm trying to lose weight will not cut it.
It's going to be an Aussie all afternoon BBQ affair
Hiya Nic, if I were in your shoes I'd simply say, "no thanks, I've decided to stop drinking" and if any awkward questions get asked, tell the person that you'll be happy to discuss it at another, more appropriate time.
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Old 02-05-2016, 11:51 PM
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Goodnight Odelle, and thanks for putting the class list together. Would have taken you ages!
Nic, if a simple no doesn't suffice, which I suspect it won't, I'd go with taking antibiotics for an ear infection or something. Try not to let it stress you out through the week. You are doing fantastically and it's great you are finding so much support.
I already feel better after all of your wonderful advice!!ill try not to think about it until I have to but I will definitely have firm plans in place
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Old 02-05-2016, 11:52 PM
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Originally Posted by Thumpalumpacus View Post
The fact that you posted this here means to me that you think you belong here.

Sobriety doesn't seem like a straight-up rocket-shoot to me -- it's not like they do the countdown and send you off and there, everything's fixed.

A couple of weeks ago I was in the chat meeting on Friday night and the topic was persistence. We each need to remember that word. Just because we faltered doesn't mean we should throw in the towel,
any more than stubbing our toe means we should stop the hike. Persistence. Internal discipline, motivation, and the refusal to accept what has been heretofore the norm.

You should be here. And you should yourself be proud of being here. Take a hand up, get back on your feet, and let's walk a little more.



Hiya Nic, if I were in your shoes I'd simply say, "no thanks, I've decided to stop drinking" and if any awkward questions get asked, tell the person that you'll be happy to discuss it at another, more appropriate time.
If only it was that easy with my Family...
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Old 02-06-2016, 12:01 AM
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My familys not easy either Nic - nearly a decade on I'm still refusing drinks.

After a while it got to be a point of honour with me - I simply would not drink and let them 'win'.

If you really feel you might slip at this get together can you meet your uncle and aunt somewhere else maybe on a different day?

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My familys not easy either Nic - nearly a decade on I'm still refusing drinks.

After a while it got to be a point of honour with me - I simply would not drink and let them 'win'.

If you really feel you might slip at this get together can you meet your uncle and aunt somewhere else maybe on a different day?

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Oh Dee I'm going to make sure I don't slip. If I get closer to next weekend and still feel as anxious- I will say I'm unwell and reschedule for another time(they're here for a few weeks) but I am driving there with my boys, so wouldn't drink drive anyway..
I'll get there later than everyone and hopefully just have the strength to say no. (Whether that be through an excuse of anti biotics, tummy bug or whatever)
I guess posting here to you all is making me think ahead and be accountable. I don't want to have to deal with any surprises..that's when I do slip
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MISH- congratulations on 1 week!!! Just realised!!! Way to go honey!!!! Well done xxxx
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Old 02-06-2016, 12:37 AM
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If only it was that easy with my Family...
It may not be that easy, but boundaries are useful things to draw.

At any rate, stay strong, ma'am.
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Old 02-06-2016, 12:40 AM
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Originally Posted by Thumpalumpacus View Post
It may not be that easy, but boundaries are useful things to draw.

At any rate, stay strong, ma'am.
I will definitely stay strong Thumpa- thanks xx
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Old 02-06-2016, 02:40 AM
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Nic - I'd have a non/alcoholic drink that looks like a drink if you don't want to say you've quit. Saying you've quit usually leads to people wanting you to drink. Drink out of the good ole Red Solo Cup and who's to know what's in it !

Good luck! Getting thru the party is fairly easy. We just had one of those family functions. Afterwards seemed to get more tough. Your mom can be a big support. My husband was a big support as he isn't drinking either. I actually enjoyed not drinking at our function. We both are known as enjoying our drink too. I could almost feel eyebrows rising!!!

Thanks for all the posts!

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Old 02-06-2016, 03:46 AM
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Av came out hard this week. Drank Wednesday and then last night. Wednesday was fine, last night wasn't, but not bc of me being drunk. My marriage is really suffering bc my husband thinks I don't care about him (long story) I do care and I'm feeling frustrated and very sad. We got in a fight last night, but instead of staying out and drinking more, I went home to bed. So I'm happy I did that. Staying sober today. I'm young, 30, and my husbands 28 and I just don't think we're ready for marriage. He's always mad at me. Thanks for listening.
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Yes I think I might end up with a bit of a tummy bug next weekend lol!!! It's just easier isn't it.
Wish I had the guts to tell the truth but I can't. Maybe one day when I'm comfortable with not drinking I'll be able to say I'm a non- drinker with confidence.... Xxx thanks X.
It's a tough situation to be in but I think with practice it will be easier. Do whatever you feel comfortable doing for now- if that means making something up like a cold, headache, or maybe saying you are on antibiotics, you could do that. Or you could just say "I' think I'll just have a soda for now" when the first person offers. In the end, I don't think anyone would harp on you for not drinking, especially if they are self absorbed in their own intoxication.

Ugh, it's tough. I hope you can find a way to get through this without being too stressed out about it. Good luck and just remember that it is more prevalent in your head, and that others may not even have the reaction you are expecting. xoxo
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