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Old 02-09-2016, 04:36 AM
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Originally Posted by stevepearce View Post
Hi everyone. Another sober day here. Max at the crèche. Ruben at school. So a bit of me time, after I've done my cleaning obviously. Broached the subject of when we are going to move with my wife this morning and we agreed to put the house on the market in March. I can't wait it's always been a dream of mine to live by the sea. And Sete, where we are moving to, is and old fishing town on the med coast. One thing I have noticed, my interaction with other, I'm learning how to do it again. Sometimes I think I think people are Mis interpreting the emotion behind what I say. I can be joking and they think I'm not and visa versa. Strange ? Anyway have a great day everyone. Congrats on your sober time.
That sounds like a positive step forward Steve!!! Sounds lovely... Hopefully your house will sell quickly and you can start your new life with your family... Xx
Well done on 7 weeks too
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Old 02-09-2016, 06:47 AM
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Waking up today in a funk, from a drinking dream.

In it, I'm housesitting for my mom. My buddy Tim is there, and so, oddly, is my dad, though they're still divorced. It's approaching Valentine's Day, and my dad is in the living room drinking and wrapping presents, so Tim and I go in there to talk with him, and we start drinking -- me knowing that I'm breaking my sobriety. And then it dawns on me that I cannot call my girlfriend (in my dream we're still together, it felt like) because I'm drunk ... can't call her on Valentine's Day, what a row my drinking will be causing now.

What a sh***y way to wake up. I can't even text her about it (even though we're on friendly terms), as it would seem like I'm "pressuring" her. What my drinking has cost me ...
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Old 02-09-2016, 09:04 AM
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Good morning January friends! 40 Days for me and I know several others today. Thank you so much for all of the support, whether you are on Day 1 or 101, each of your stories, comments, and support has helped me get to this point. Onward and upward!!!
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I have read so many post on drinking dreams, and I have to admit, I have never had one. How strange is that?

Thump, I am going out on a limb here, but this is what I suggest. Go to Hallmark and get the gal a card, not a mushy Valentine, but one that expresses your feelings on regrets and lets her know that she is on your mind. No text or ecard, send the card through the mail and send a simple spring floral arrangement. Personally, I think it would do you both good!
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Old 02-09-2016, 09:18 AM
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Originally Posted by Thumpalumpacus View Post
Waking up today in a funk, from a drinking dream.

In it, I'm housesitting for my mom. My buddy Tim is there, and so, oddly, is my dad, though they're still divorced. It's approaching Valentine's Day, and my dad is in the living room drinking and wrapping presents, so Tim and I go in there to talk with him, and we start drinking -- me knowing that I'm breaking my sobriety. And then it dawns on me that I cannot call my girlfriend (in my dream we're still together, it felt like) because I'm drunk ... can't call her on Valentine's Day, what a row my drinking will be causing now.

What a sh***y way to wake up. I can't even text her about it (even though we're on friendly terms), as it would seem like I'm "pressuring" her. What my drinking has cost me ...
Thankfully it was just a dream Thump, I have had one or two of those and it is a disconcerting feeling when you wake up!
You are doing well, keep it up!!!
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Old 02-09-2016, 09:18 AM
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Happy 40th Delilah!
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Old 02-09-2016, 09:21 AM
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Originally Posted by Odelle View Post
Happy 40th Delilah!
Thanks! I know there are several of us. Where are the other 40 Day January peeps???
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Old 02-09-2016, 10:33 AM
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Originally Posted by Odelle View Post
I have read so many post on drinking dreams, and I have to admit, I have never had one. How strange is that?

Thump, I am going out on a limb here, but this is what I suggest. Go to Hallmark and get the gal a card, not a mushy Valentine, but one that expresses your feelings on regrets and lets her know that she is on your mind. No text or ecard, send the card through the mail and send a simple spring floral arrangement. Personally, I think it would do you both good!
I've ordered the flowers.

I sent her a long letter a couple of weeks ago regarding the wrongs I've done here, and my remorse and regrets. We're in contact enough that she knows how I feel.

She's in Alanon, and is clearly building and maintaining boundaries in our relationship. I understand that, and have no one to blame but myself for it. That doesn't keep it from hurting. She won't tell me that she wants to be with me once my sobriety has taken stronger root. I understand her skepticism, and have told her as much -- but that doesn't keep it from hurting.

Part of me thinks I need to walk away, and part of me doesn't want to leave her for the world. While we're on good terms and do still say "I love you", it's hard for me to escape the feeling that she doesn't mean it like I do. And that hurts.

Sorry to clutter the thread with my whining this morning. I have made my own bed, and it's time to sleep in it.
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Old 02-09-2016, 12:32 PM
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Originally Posted by Delilah1 View Post
Thanks! I know there are several of us. Where are the other 40 Day January peeps???
Here, Miss!
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Old 02-09-2016, 12:35 PM
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Originally Posted by Thumpalumpacus

Part of me thinks I need to walk away, and part of me doesn't want to leave her for the world. While we're on good terms and do still say "I love you", it's hard for me to escape the feeling that she doesn't mean it like I do. And that hurts.
Personally I think you just need to give it, and her, some time. No need to make decisions, just see how things play out.


Sorry to clutter the thread with my whining this morning. I have made my own bed, and it's time to sleep in it.
.. And try not to dream
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Old 02-09-2016, 12:36 PM
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Originally Posted by Odelle View Post
I have read so many post on drinking dreams, and I have to admit, I have never had one. How strange is that?

Thump, I am going out on a limb here, but this is what I suggest. Go to Hallmark and get the gal a card, not a mushy Valentine, but one that expresses your feelings on regrets and lets her know that she is on your mind. No text or ecard, send the card through the mail and send a simple spring floral arrangement. Personally, I think it would do you both good!
Lovely advice. I shall be heeding parts of it!
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Old 02-09-2016, 12:37 PM
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Originally Posted by Delilah1 View Post
Good morning January friends! 40 Days for me and I know several others today. Thank you so much for all of the support, whether you are on Day 1 or 101, each of your stories, comments, and support has helped me get to this point. Onward and upward!!!
❤️Delilah


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Old 02-09-2016, 12:59 PM
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I guess I am 40 days, too!!! Wow! Congrats to the 40'ers

Not easy today. I really want some wine. I know I won't drink it and I don't really want it so much as I miss it SO much.
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Congratulation on 40 days Delilah, Mav and Julyseacoast!!!
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Congratulations on 40 days, JSC!!!

You've got company with missing my go-to, chase the blues away feeling, wine, cigarettes, sleep it all away kind of day. BUT, instead I recall the Hallmark character Maxine, an elderly, crusty gal with a cigarette dangling from her mouth and drink in hand. That is not how I want to be remembered!

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Congratulations MAV, 40 days is awesome!
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Thanks everyone for the encouragement. Congratulations to everyone with a milestone. Have a great day everyone!
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Congratulations on 40 days Delilah , Mav and Julysea xx

Drinking dreams are awful- I still get them every couple of days but I ALWAYs get bizarre, real vivid dreams (similar to the crazy pregnancy dreams some of us girls will relate to) we've put our brains through a lot by drinking so I guess it's to do with our healing X
Thumps sending lots of hugs- Valentine's Day is tough when you're not with the one you love xx

Day 31 here..powering through
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Hi all - need ur help! Just finished a very long day of interviews and am about to get to the airport for my flight home. I keep thinking to grab a glass of wine in the club since I have a few hours to kill.

Please remind me why this one glass is a bad idea. It sounds like heaven already ... Biggest craving and test yet.
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