Dee74

Oh still battling a little - the heat is knocking me around a bit too - but I'm basically ok, Snooz

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venuscat

aussieblue mentioned how hot it is there...hard to believe when we are in such cool conditions here.
Yes Snooz, I know you said it was hot there as well, which does not bode well for me, so I kind of did this...

Glad you are (almost) OK Dee, and I hope your AC will help you this summer.

SnoozyQ

Hahahahahhahahahaha , I LOVE you Venus xoxox you and I are kindred heat hating spirits xo

venuscat

We should move to Tassie.

SnoozyQ

Beks hoing there next week , let's stow away in her suitcases

SnoozyQ

I really need to make changes in my life . I'm not happy but I can't pay for this house alone. Do I want to be in a relationship with someone who just wants to play video games all day ?

There is no intimacy as I feel resentment, that's not good for any relationship.

Do we share the house and he does his thing and I do my thing ?

That way the financial l side is in order

Omg ...my life is a shambles ...I need help , I need opinions , I just don't know how to fix this.

Please be as blunt and honest as you need to be. No beating around the bush

venuscat

It might be worth considering couples counselling before you make any kind of decision here Snoozy love...I know this has been suggested already, but it does sound like a good idea. ♥

Dee74

I'm not a relationships expert, W. but you're obviously not happy Snooz - I presume you've tried to talk to Shaun...

I don't know whats next if it's not counselling for you both, or even just for you.

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SnoozyQ

Thanks :-( I just don't know anymore. The breakdown of a relationship is so sad. I don't need 5 kids though , I have 4 already xx

SnoozyQ

It's the same old thing , I air my grievances , he's great for 2 weeks , cleans up the yard , mows the lawn , then ...stagnant ..it all turns to poo again

venuscat

Did your phone battery die Snooz? Still up if you want to chat again...

I'm sorry it's all so tough right now. I do think that no matter what, it would help you to talk to a counsellor about this love.

SnoozyQ

Sorry sweetie it died , I'll call you again when it's charged up. I don't have much credit tho , so it'll be a quickie lol xx

SnoozyQ

I've seen councellors in my time and they just don't do it for me .

venuscat

Just text anytime love and I'll call you. I have a great plan. ♥

Croissant

Snooz, I'm in no position to give any advice, but can only say what I've observed....and you never mentioned this in your 2 sober years? So, I would ask was it such a problem before? Or is it just now? The other thing is, that video games can be addictive, and it IS affecting Shaun's relationship with you, so yes, it can't be swept under the rug.

All that being said, it's a cold world older and by yourself. Not that you'd be looking for a new partner as such, but everyday things....like growing older without a kindred spirit. Someone to chat about your problems with etc......for all their problems, relationships can be worth the effort. I guess I'm just saying, be careful of what you might be forsaking?

Soberwolf

Snooz I love your profile pic you have awesome profile pics - The whole you & Sean things is down on the Xbox I think ? so I have a solution

Tell Sean how happy he makes you in them 2 weeks and obviously that you want that period extended as you love interacting with him

Tell him if your up for this that every now & then youl play some Xbox with him

How about me asking for you two to set a date night of romance ie the cinema, steakhouse, stuff like that

Or you Sean get all the kids together and go theme park ?

Sorry if I'm completely wrong hun XO

SnoozyQ

Wolfy , you are a darling :-)

There is absolutely no way in hell I would play Xbox , it's not my thing , but I'm not against those who do.

Shaun just blocks everything out like he is the only one in the house. It's almost like he doesn't know we exist.

But then at 10 to 6 every night without fail , his alarm goes off, he has a shower , spends -0 minutes sitting next to me , where I sarcastically say oh wow here us my daily 10 minutes .

I'm bored , life is boring. No councelling can help this , but thank you for your advice xx

SnoozyQ

Thanks Crois , but we don't talk much anyhow so I feel like im alone. He is engrossed in his own little virtual world, killing lots of stuff.

I come home from work , as soon as I walk in the front door , he goes to have a shower cos he knows I'm pissed. He gas spent the whole day doing **** all.

As soon as he hears me drive up he switches off.

I get a gut ache driving into my street after work.

When I have a go at him and ask him to blow vac or clean the gutters , he disappears ...then I find him in bed. He's so lazy.

It's just boring I just can't go on like this

Holly is getting so uncomfortable with the tension in the house I fear she may go back to her Dads


Sigh ...I'm sorry to make this about me :-( Xx

SnoozyQ

Sorry I dong want this to be about woe betide me. I'm just glad j could get it off my chest with you guys . Oh and Wolfy he never wants to go anywhere,even to walk the dogs. He's rude when the girls come over . He doesn't even leave the PC to say hello . They all feel so awkward around him. He makes them feel ubcomfortable

Soberwolf

Sorry Snooz I didn't explain my theory properly I know you hate Xbox but by playing it with him I was hoping it might highlight to him exactly how much time is wasted on video games I didn't mean for you to try to like video games

Before I started reading again I had an Xbox 360 thing is I would never play it when I had Mrs sw for company

What if you asked Shaun to curb his limit when your around ?

Really sorry Snooz