One Year and Over Club Part 21
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Morning all, and it's a chilly one here. I've got the joys of scraping ice from the car windscreen in a minute....
Work was fine yesterday, my boss was polite and friendly but I'm on my guard now. H reckons that when she was texting me over the weekend she was drinking. Could be. She isn't one of us but alcohol does change our perceptions as we all know!
Itchy I'm sorry to read of your problems with your ear, and I will pray for it only to be a temporary thing. Are you moving? Sorry I'm so out of the loop!
I'm trying to eat a bit more healthily at the moment. I've survived on rubbish for the past month or so and had no motivation to cook or eat, but yesterday I had breakfast for the first time in months and took a healthy lunch to work. Last night was the first time in ages that I didn't fall asleep before 8 pm. Go figure...
Have a good day everyone...xxx
Work was fine yesterday, my boss was polite and friendly but I'm on my guard now. H reckons that when she was texting me over the weekend she was drinking. Could be. She isn't one of us but alcohol does change our perceptions as we all know!
Itchy I'm sorry to read of your problems with your ear, and I will pray for it only to be a temporary thing. Are you moving? Sorry I'm so out of the loop!
I'm trying to eat a bit more healthily at the moment. I've survived on rubbish for the past month or so and had no motivation to cook or eat, but yesterday I had breakfast for the first time in months and took a healthy lunch to work. Last night was the first time in ages that I didn't fall asleep before 8 pm. Go figure...
Have a good day everyone...xxx
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Two things: my boyfriend/ex boyfriend/best friend just told me has a new girlfriend. So I told him not to contact me anymore which is really awful.
AND I decided to go to Budapest. I've given Berlin a fair try. It's not for me. Budapest is the new up and coming arty expat place, and it's way cheaper. I can exist on my copywriting income much easier there and have more freedom, and I'm tired of disdainful Germans and living with all the hipsters of the world.
Off to work!
(Hi everyone have a lovely day.) Oh yeah the date was lovely, but I am SO not ready for anything romantic, I realize now. Oh well.
AND I decided to go to Budapest. I've given Berlin a fair try. It's not for me. Budapest is the new up and coming arty expat place, and it's way cheaper. I can exist on my copywriting income much easier there and have more freedom, and I'm tired of disdainful Germans and living with all the hipsters of the world.
Off to work!
(Hi everyone have a lovely day.) Oh yeah the date was lovely, but I am SO not ready for anything romantic, I realize now. Oh well.
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Location: German Village, Columbus with my love ♥
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I'm so sorry about your ex InPar. 
And I think your decision to no longer speak to him can only be good for you.
And I LOVE the Budapest news...now that sounds exciting!!!!
V xx
And I think your decision to no longer speak to him can only be good for you.
And I LOVE the Budapest news...now that sounds exciting!!!!
V xx
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Edit: Hi Andy!
IP, sounds like a good decision and yes the Germans can come across a demeaning because many are, just like anywhere. But their language with all the hard consonants sounds like they are angry when just saying hi how are you today. Hungary ha ben the hot spot even in the 90s when we were there. I heard they speak excellent English too. I forget how young you are and the Germans do think they are the best arbiters of fashion and taste. You will remember the god friends though, a they will you. We still write and now email with several froends from 20 year ago.
Hey guys,
I went to the ENT guy. He doesn't seem to care or have many alternatives. Now he is telling me it is not responding and the culture came back Pseudomonas Auriginosa. I hope yours doesn't turn out to be this one.
Pseudomonas ear infection - Ear, Nose & Throat - MedHelp
Hey Jen,
No I am not moving now. When my in laws no longer need us here we want to move back to Colorado where we were stationed for three years. It is dry and wonderful there. Here it's moldy, humid, extremely hot with high humidity. No seasons just humd cold and humid hot with a couple of weeks in Spring and Fall that are gorgeous.
God for you, nutrition and getting rid of all the sugar makes all the difference!
Dot,
It does hurt. An ache from the middle of my forehead and wraps around my right ear, and into my jaw and throat. The ENT guy treated it like nothing and just vacuumed it in his office, then gave m Cipro finally three weeks in, and did a culture and sensitivity test that confirmed P. Aueriginosa. I'm an ex lab tech. When I came into his office it was after going to the ER my GP recommended on a Saturday, taking a week of Amoxicillan, and ear drops. He said don't worry it will clear up in a few days. But if you are concerned we will make an appointment for you and call if it is healed. The ER guy said it would clear in a few days too. Then the ENT guy said the same thing twice just sucking it out saying that should do it. Then he gave me drops which did not work either for the past week. I went in to the appointment a bit angry as his three time three day cure hadn't.
So I asked him today again after he said it wasn't responding to anything so he changed to say it was a fungal infection after getting back a positive for P.A. culture but the lab must have messed up the inoculation as enough did not grow to show which drug it is sensitive to. So he goes from telling me it is bacterial to he will treat it as a fungal? I left angry to go get the scrip for Diflucan. But my regular doc was on the way and I asked if I could see him. She signed me in and even though they were bending over backwards to fit me in, the waiting room had a full house. I waited until I realized I would not make it to the base pharmacy on time if I waited as they closed at five. So I thanked the recept. And headed to the AF Base two miles away but rush hour. I was going the opposite way of the rush and made it there by 4:10, plenty of time to fill the script.
They use an online secure medical program now instead of writing paper scripts. The last three times the Military Pharmacy said it wasn't there but another tech found it and told me it was there the whole time but it is new and everyone isn't good with it yet. They said it was the doctor's office both times in the past but then magically found it. This time they didn't. This was after waiting about four minutes by my watch while the two clerks for that station had a wonderful tim telling funny stories with me fuming. Finally one of the others sees me out there and points behind her telling her someone is waiting. My look could almost kill. Then when they said no way, I called the doc' again. Hi nurse started going through how it is not their and I very low and coldly interrupted her and slowly said, so even the could care less nurse could understand it. I told her I was paying them to treat me, not for me to troubleshoot their administrative problem. I said I did not want to hear the labor pains, just show me the baby! I would be there, to pick up my paper prescription before 5. She started to say something and I didn't let her start and said have it ready, thank you and hung up on her. I was furious! My hearing is gone, and in danger of not coming back and now my doc's nursing staff want to play the victim instead of the concerned don't worry we have you covered professionals.
When I got there the receptionist said to wait she'd see if it was OK for me to go back, and then came back. The nurse that didn't want to give me anything other than excuses started saying how she sent it and, and, I very low and slow told her not to tell me why she can't show me how you can. It was 4:50 and thinking my doc was there I drove as he's on the way to the Interstate I take home from town. He was closed but a Pt. coming out opened the locked door I walked in and asked if he was still there and could I see him? They asked, came back, in processed me and my doc said never worry, day or night when I need him he is there for me no problem. Besides he had just finished his last Pt. So had I stayed earlier it would be this time anyway. I told him what had gone on, and he assured me that I would get my hearing back. He had his nurses give me two shots in my hip, and gave me three more scripts and said they won't cause a problem with each other so to take the other Doc's Diflucan pills ordered too. I asked if I needed to go back to the specialist and he said "no I'll get you healed and your hearing back. My military retirement has no co-pay on base but I was glad to pay 32 bucks co pay at a civilian pharmacy to start the meds ASAP!
Those shots are doing something already, it is 1:55AM and I've had all my meds.
I used to teach assertiveness training and am very centered and assertive. I don't ever act out my frustration violently in word or body. That usually just insures resistance. Even when furious as I was today, I don't go aggressive. My SH and kids know that when I get quiet that I'm furious. But will clearly ask them for what want, and then move on. I have not been as frustrated or given poor treatment as today. If my hearing comes back fine. All's well that ends well. But if my hearing is gone he'll next hear from my lawyer, in England I think you call those necessary evils Solicitors? Tomorrow I will derive some pleasure in calling and canceling my next appointment. And I am sure they will be glad to see me go. I will ask for copies of my treatment be sent to my GP and if they need a signature, they get another visit from me but this time on my schedule.
SW,
What did your culture come back. Reading all the posts on the above link, I hope neither of us take a year to heal and then have chronic reinfections in life. At least now I know a home remedy if it recurs first, before I go see the doc. Of course we will discuss it if/when we get this licked.
Mags!
Hi! You can't cut everyone a sprout until thy earn it. I am generous and treat each person with respect trust and dignity first, then demand it in return. I am gentle and supportive but don't suffer users without walking away for good once established.
I'm willing to take the consequences of my respect and friendliness. As they must do as well. That keeps me from being sucked in where no good s coming, just energy draining. I give it first, they earn it second as must I.
See my life is too short to get bogged down by users or those who do others evil. My definition of evil is anyone who derives pleasure from harming another/s, in word or deed. That includes but is not limited to gossips, jealous acts to hurt the person envied. Getting even is worse than the original harm. I don't pay harm forward. I don't enable evil people.
But after doing all I can, giving respect, and not getting any in return, it gives me great relief to fire them, ask them to leave and not come back, and block emails and calls. I don't avoid them and try to hide if our paths cross. No ones makes me Change my errands or hangouts out of some sort of fear of a confrontation or shame. I have ha a few try to talk to me in a public place to force a response. In a normal tone of voice I tell them to please carry on but talk to anybody but me and mine and maintain eye contact until they turn away in silence, but no threat. I don't have the right to tell them to leave either. I pay forward the good fortune I've had with a little help from my friends. I don't have enemies, just a very few cyphers along the way.
I hold honor, loyalty, and integrity above all else. My honor code of not lying, cheating, or stealing, nor tolerate among us anyone who does, was never violated even at my worst drinking stage.
Folks mistake discipline with punishment. This is what stymies untrained parents and leaders until they are taught. If discipline is punishment then what is self discipline? Self flagellation? Nope. Discipline is the acceptance and adhering to a set of values and standards generated from self respect, respect for others, and all forms of respect are earned, not inherent in any position. Once you know a set of values, discipline is generally learned, both formally and informally, through external discipline. Parents discipline their children by telling them stories like Aesop fables and explaining what boundaries were broken, what lessons learned when very young. Once external discipline is learned, the child or basic trainee, another form of immature adolescent, without realizing it, sets his standards by them and adheres to them. The external discipline becomes self discipline. So what about punishment. Simple. Punishment are the consequences of not adhering to the values and standards be that keeping state secrets, or a three year old behaving in public, self discipline is only learned by repetition, respect for our charges, and holding them firmly, consistently, and fairly.
Reward adherence, when discipline is necessary don't wait, correct them as you'd want to. Praise in public, criticize in private.
We have to know what we want, to formulate and test our own standards of honor, fairness, and accountability.
Punishment is what we use, when discipline fails. Yelling to correct with no respect or patience for children is not discipline. It is self indulgence and if you do it in anger, evil.
OK! I got my rant out, and made a long post. Thanks for being here. You know even us folks with a lot of years sober get alot from our little band of miscreants and mischief makers.
I remain,
Itchy.
(No really, my skin has been itchy since the infection started.)
RZ,
Shize!
IP, sounds like a good decision and yes the Germans can come across a demeaning because many are, just like anywhere. But their language with all the hard consonants sounds like they are angry when just saying hi how are you today. Hungary ha ben the hot spot even in the 90s when we were there. I heard they speak excellent English too. I forget how young you are and the Germans do think they are the best arbiters of fashion and taste. You will remember the god friends though, a they will you. We still write and now email with several froends from 20 year ago.
Hey guys,
I went to the ENT guy. He doesn't seem to care or have many alternatives. Now he is telling me it is not responding and the culture came back Pseudomonas Auriginosa. I hope yours doesn't turn out to be this one.
Pseudomonas ear infection - Ear, Nose & Throat - MedHelp
Hey Jen,
No I am not moving now. When my in laws no longer need us here we want to move back to Colorado where we were stationed for three years. It is dry and wonderful there. Here it's moldy, humid, extremely hot with high humidity. No seasons just humd cold and humid hot with a couple of weeks in Spring and Fall that are gorgeous.
God for you, nutrition and getting rid of all the sugar makes all the difference!
Dot,
It does hurt. An ache from the middle of my forehead and wraps around my right ear, and into my jaw and throat. The ENT guy treated it like nothing and just vacuumed it in his office, then gave m Cipro finally three weeks in, and did a culture and sensitivity test that confirmed P. Aueriginosa. I'm an ex lab tech. When I came into his office it was after going to the ER my GP recommended on a Saturday, taking a week of Amoxicillan, and ear drops. He said don't worry it will clear up in a few days. But if you are concerned we will make an appointment for you and call if it is healed. The ER guy said it would clear in a few days too. Then the ENT guy said the same thing twice just sucking it out saying that should do it. Then he gave me drops which did not work either for the past week. I went in to the appointment a bit angry as his three time three day cure hadn't.
So I asked him today again after he said it wasn't responding to anything so he changed to say it was a fungal infection after getting back a positive for P.A. culture but the lab must have messed up the inoculation as enough did not grow to show which drug it is sensitive to. So he goes from telling me it is bacterial to he will treat it as a fungal? I left angry to go get the scrip for Diflucan. But my regular doc was on the way and I asked if I could see him. She signed me in and even though they were bending over backwards to fit me in, the waiting room had a full house. I waited until I realized I would not make it to the base pharmacy on time if I waited as they closed at five. So I thanked the recept. And headed to the AF Base two miles away but rush hour. I was going the opposite way of the rush and made it there by 4:10, plenty of time to fill the script.
They use an online secure medical program now instead of writing paper scripts. The last three times the Military Pharmacy said it wasn't there but another tech found it and told me it was there the whole time but it is new and everyone isn't good with it yet. They said it was the doctor's office both times in the past but then magically found it. This time they didn't. This was after waiting about four minutes by my watch while the two clerks for that station had a wonderful tim telling funny stories with me fuming. Finally one of the others sees me out there and points behind her telling her someone is waiting. My look could almost kill. Then when they said no way, I called the doc' again. Hi nurse started going through how it is not their and I very low and coldly interrupted her and slowly said, so even the could care less nurse could understand it. I told her I was paying them to treat me, not for me to troubleshoot their administrative problem. I said I did not want to hear the labor pains, just show me the baby! I would be there, to pick up my paper prescription before 5. She started to say something and I didn't let her start and said have it ready, thank you and hung up on her. I was furious! My hearing is gone, and in danger of not coming back and now my doc's nursing staff want to play the victim instead of the concerned don't worry we have you covered professionals.
When I got there the receptionist said to wait she'd see if it was OK for me to go back, and then came back. The nurse that didn't want to give me anything other than excuses started saying how she sent it and, and, I very low and slow told her not to tell me why she can't show me how you can. It was 4:50 and thinking my doc was there I drove as he's on the way to the Interstate I take home from town. He was closed but a Pt. coming out opened the locked door I walked in and asked if he was still there and could I see him? They asked, came back, in processed me and my doc said never worry, day or night when I need him he is there for me no problem. Besides he had just finished his last Pt. So had I stayed earlier it would be this time anyway. I told him what had gone on, and he assured me that I would get my hearing back. He had his nurses give me two shots in my hip, and gave me three more scripts and said they won't cause a problem with each other so to take the other Doc's Diflucan pills ordered too. I asked if I needed to go back to the specialist and he said "no I'll get you healed and your hearing back. My military retirement has no co-pay on base but I was glad to pay 32 bucks co pay at a civilian pharmacy to start the meds ASAP!
Those shots are doing something already, it is 1:55AM and I've had all my meds.
I used to teach assertiveness training and am very centered and assertive. I don't ever act out my frustration violently in word or body. That usually just insures resistance. Even when furious as I was today, I don't go aggressive. My SH and kids know that when I get quiet that I'm furious. But will clearly ask them for what want, and then move on. I have not been as frustrated or given poor treatment as today. If my hearing comes back fine. All's well that ends well. But if my hearing is gone he'll next hear from my lawyer, in England I think you call those necessary evils Solicitors? Tomorrow I will derive some pleasure in calling and canceling my next appointment. And I am sure they will be glad to see me go. I will ask for copies of my treatment be sent to my GP and if they need a signature, they get another visit from me but this time on my schedule.
SW,
What did your culture come back. Reading all the posts on the above link, I hope neither of us take a year to heal and then have chronic reinfections in life. At least now I know a home remedy if it recurs first, before I go see the doc. Of course we will discuss it if/when we get this licked.
Mags!
Hi! You can't cut everyone a sprout until thy earn it. I am generous and treat each person with respect trust and dignity first, then demand it in return. I am gentle and supportive but don't suffer users without walking away for good once established.
I'm willing to take the consequences of my respect and friendliness. As they must do as well. That keeps me from being sucked in where no good s coming, just energy draining. I give it first, they earn it second as must I.
See my life is too short to get bogged down by users or those who do others evil. My definition of evil is anyone who derives pleasure from harming another/s, in word or deed. That includes but is not limited to gossips, jealous acts to hurt the person envied. Getting even is worse than the original harm. I don't pay harm forward. I don't enable evil people.
But after doing all I can, giving respect, and not getting any in return, it gives me great relief to fire them, ask them to leave and not come back, and block emails and calls. I don't avoid them and try to hide if our paths cross. No ones makes me Change my errands or hangouts out of some sort of fear of a confrontation or shame. I have ha a few try to talk to me in a public place to force a response. In a normal tone of voice I tell them to please carry on but talk to anybody but me and mine and maintain eye contact until they turn away in silence, but no threat. I don't have the right to tell them to leave either. I pay forward the good fortune I've had with a little help from my friends. I don't have enemies, just a very few cyphers along the way.
I hold honor, loyalty, and integrity above all else. My honor code of not lying, cheating, or stealing, nor tolerate among us anyone who does, was never violated even at my worst drinking stage.
Folks mistake discipline with punishment. This is what stymies untrained parents and leaders until they are taught. If discipline is punishment then what is self discipline? Self flagellation? Nope. Discipline is the acceptance and adhering to a set of values and standards generated from self respect, respect for others, and all forms of respect are earned, not inherent in any position. Once you know a set of values, discipline is generally learned, both formally and informally, through external discipline. Parents discipline their children by telling them stories like Aesop fables and explaining what boundaries were broken, what lessons learned when very young. Once external discipline is learned, the child or basic trainee, another form of immature adolescent, without realizing it, sets his standards by them and adheres to them. The external discipline becomes self discipline. So what about punishment. Simple. Punishment are the consequences of not adhering to the values and standards be that keeping state secrets, or a three year old behaving in public, self discipline is only learned by repetition, respect for our charges, and holding them firmly, consistently, and fairly.
Reward adherence, when discipline is necessary don't wait, correct them as you'd want to. Praise in public, criticize in private.
We have to know what we want, to formulate and test our own standards of honor, fairness, and accountability.
Punishment is what we use, when discipline fails. Yelling to correct with no respect or patience for children is not discipline. It is self indulgence and if you do it in anger, evil.
OK! I got my rant out, and made a long post. Thanks for being here. You know even us folks with a lot of years sober get alot from our little band of miscreants and mischief makers.
I remain,
Itchy.
(No really, my skin has been itchy since the infection started.)
RZ,
Shize!
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I am confused Itchy. I looked up this infection.
It is important that a doctor select an effective antibiotic. A doctor may send a specimen from the patient to a laboratory first for testing in order to be more certain. The laboratory will then test the specimen to find out which antibiotic will work the best.
So why on earth aren't they doing all they can here????
Did they do this? And are the shots you got the new antibiotic that is supposed to help?
I think you said they are helping....
I'm so sorry you are going through all of this love.
OK...I read your post again, so I think the answer is yes. They did all of this, and have hopefully found the right antibiotic.
I hope this gets better for you, and sooner rather than later.
V xx
It is important that a doctor select an effective antibiotic. A doctor may send a specimen from the patient to a laboratory first for testing in order to be more certain. The laboratory will then test the specimen to find out which antibiotic will work the best.
So why on earth aren't they doing all they can here????
Did they do this? And are the shots you got the new antibiotic that is supposed to help?
I think you said they are helping....
I'm so sorry you are going through all of this love.
OK...I read your post again, so I think the answer is yes. They did all of this, and have hopefully found the right antibiotic.
I hope this gets better for you, and sooner rather than later.
V xx
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Itch, I noticed that the comments said that the fungus can't live in acidity, and that hydrogen peroxide helps it to go away. Is that the home remedy you mentioned?
InPar--Budapest sounds promising. Glad it is cheaper there.
As far as the ex goes--
InPar--Budapest sounds promising. Glad it is cheaper there.
As far as the ex goes--
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I understand Itchy i got a call from a doc today as they cant make an immediate apt she asked about it i said
they ran a course of antibiotics (done nothing)
they gave me a steroid spray which did seem to work but as soon as i finished the course it reappeared in under a month
they then gave me a antibacterial spray and antifungal (a 2 in 1 spray) and that done nothing
today over the phone she went through how to administer my medication i said i was already doing the correct & thorough procedure to adminster
she said because the inner ear is dark wet moist etc bacteria in a infection thrives i said ive been careful i dont dunk my head underwater i try to be careful
she asked about my ent and i still wait on them after thier mix up
so the doc prescribed my 4th medicine for this and the pharmacy didnt have it as it has to be ordered in and since im taking blood tests tomorrow for my alopecia the sheet the doc gave me for the blood tests was 3 pages thier doing loads of tests in the blood tests inc liver function test (first time i get to see since getting sober)
so currently they are saying lab results are saying its fungal and they have warned me its hard to shift this may take time and im a bit worried as my hearing is affected
Itch i genuinly wholeheartedly understand this has been 2 months nearly 3 im sick of my ear
i also have to fast from 8pm tonight for blood tests at 8am tomorrow
Hope everyone is as well as they can be
they ran a course of antibiotics (done nothing)
they gave me a steroid spray which did seem to work but as soon as i finished the course it reappeared in under a month
they then gave me a antibacterial spray and antifungal (a 2 in 1 spray) and that done nothing
today over the phone she went through how to administer my medication i said i was already doing the correct & thorough procedure to adminster
she said because the inner ear is dark wet moist etc bacteria in a infection thrives i said ive been careful i dont dunk my head underwater i try to be careful
she asked about my ent and i still wait on them after thier mix up
so the doc prescribed my 4th medicine for this and the pharmacy didnt have it as it has to be ordered in and since im taking blood tests tomorrow for my alopecia the sheet the doc gave me for the blood tests was 3 pages thier doing loads of tests in the blood tests inc liver function test (first time i get to see since getting sober)
so currently they are saying lab results are saying its fungal and they have warned me its hard to shift this may take time and im a bit worried as my hearing is affected
Itch i genuinly wholeheartedly understand this has been 2 months nearly 3 im sick of my ear
i also have to fast from 8pm tonight for blood tests at 8am tomorrow
Hope everyone is as well as they can be
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SW,
I'm back at the GP's office. He gave me drops that irritate and caused half this problem a month ago.
Sounds like we both are in for the long haul with the same thing. My doc switched gears yesterday which made me come back here. Putting those neomycin drops in again started the ear canal infection again.
Thanks everyone!
I'll post later re: Culture and sensitivity. I can't type on this phone.
I'm back at the GP's office. He gave me drops that irritate and caused half this problem a month ago.
Sounds like we both are in for the long haul with the same thing. My doc switched gears yesterday which made me come back here. Putting those neomycin drops in again started the ear canal infection again.
Thanks everyone!
I'll post later re: Culture and sensitivity. I can't type on this phone.
Do your best
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It does itch im doing everything right taking medicine at right time like clockwork doing as they said i pick up new medicine tomorrow
i still have a gp apt penciled in for the 15th and i really hope i hear from ENT soon but ive prepared myself this may take a while
my medicine is going to be liquid based i think and that goes against keeping the ear dry ?
all i know is im going to be super careful now with water coming near my head
really sorry we both got this itch i know i never want another ear infection in my life after this
i have been fasting now for 2h i made sure i eat and will not eat untill after bloodtests
fingers crossed for both of us
and i hope everyone is as well as they can be
i still have a gp apt penciled in for the 15th and i really hope i hear from ENT soon but ive prepared myself this may take a while
my medicine is going to be liquid based i think and that goes against keeping the ear dry ?
all i know is im going to be super careful now with water coming near my head
really sorry we both got this itch i know i never want another ear infection in my life after this
i have been fasting now for 2h i made sure i eat and will not eat untill after bloodtests
fingers crossed for both of us
and i hope everyone is as well as they can be
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oh my, your poor guys. What a mess.
Itch, earlier tonight, I got angry with a work related problem and felt very guilty about the agressive tone I used with a business partner. I wish I could be like you when you said: I don't ever act out my frustration violently in word or body. That usually just insures resistance. Even when furious as I was today, I don't go aggressive.
I wonder if tomorrow morning when we next speak if I should apologize. I wish now that I'd been more calm and assertive...If you have any literature from your class, please post the links.
Good luck with your ears.
xo
Itch, earlier tonight, I got angry with a work related problem and felt very guilty about the agressive tone I used with a business partner. I wish I could be like you when you said: I don't ever act out my frustration violently in word or body. That usually just insures resistance. Even when furious as I was today, I don't go aggressive.
I wonder if tomorrow morning when we next speak if I should apologize. I wish now that I'd been more calm and assertive...If you have any literature from your class, please post the links.
Good luck with your ears.
xo
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Morning Overs, hope you're all well. Well, except for those who aren't, Itchy and Wolfy, hope the treatment goes well and as they say in England 'keep taking the tablets'.
I've not heard of 'cut the sprout' but I like it. I'm coming out with some right old sayings from you guys, I love learning new words so when I get one I try to use it as soon as I can.
It's easy for me to say , not having kids, but yelling mum and dads seem to have lost the plot. Kids screaming cos they want sweeties or just want aren't the naughty ones, they're lerning their boundaries. They probably know if they scream their parents give them what they want. They should've had my mum, a tyrant.lol.
Have a good Wednesday, friends, I've gotta make an appointment with a solicitor ( though I do prefer the word lawyer, sounds more professional), trying to sort do e land out for our parish. A fight on our hands, methinks.
I've not heard of 'cut the sprout' but I like it. I'm coming out with some right old sayings from you guys, I love learning new words so when I get one I try to use it as soon as I can.
It's easy for me to say , not having kids, but yelling mum and dads seem to have lost the plot. Kids screaming cos they want sweeties or just want aren't the naughty ones, they're lerning their boundaries. They probably know if they scream their parents give them what they want. They should've had my mum, a tyrant.lol.
Have a good Wednesday, friends, I've gotta make an appointment with a solicitor ( though I do prefer the word lawyer, sounds more professional), trying to sort do e land out for our parish. A fight on our hands, methinks.
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Hi Dottie. ♥
I have just been through an issue in my life where I reacted aggressively rather than calmly and assertively as well. I was very upset with myself.
I think that we can really learn from this stuff ~ remaining and acting in a calm manner makes for a far better outcome. In my situation, apology is not an option. But if it will make you feel better, and diffuse the situation at work, I agree, why not?
(See how it takes me 5 minutes to say what Dee said in just a few words?
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Love to all of the Overs,
V xx
PS. Hi Mags ♥
I'm an Aussie from British parents....so I use solicitor and lawyer, and accelerator and throttle, and all sorts of weird stuff...and as mum was Scottish, I went to school saying "Ornge" with a lovely Scottish twang... LOL.
I have just been through an issue in my life where I reacted aggressively rather than calmly and assertively as well. I was very upset with myself.
I think that we can really learn from this stuff ~ remaining and acting in a calm manner makes for a far better outcome. In my situation, apology is not an option. But if it will make you feel better, and diffuse the situation at work, I agree, why not?
(See how it takes me 5 minutes to say what Dee said in just a few words?
)Love to all of the Overs,
V xx
PS. Hi Mags ♥
I'm an Aussie from British parents....so I use solicitor and lawyer, and accelerator and throttle, and all sorts of weird stuff...and as mum was Scottish, I went to school saying "Ornge" with a lovely Scottish twang... LOL.
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Morning guys. Sorry for your troubles Itchy and Soberwolf. Earache is so horribly painful, I hope they sort it out soon. Sounds like they are working their way through all the possible treatments as they are not sure what will work. Love to you both.
InPar...sorry to hear about your ex. That is always painful. Even when a break up is our decision, it still smarts when they move on, I know that feeling.
DP...an apology, if it's meant genuinely, does sometimes free us of our guilt. We can't all be rational composed ultra professional people all the time. Hindsight is a wonderful thing. I handled a situation badly at work with someone. I was tired and stressed and didn't think it through, and I'm still getting the repercussions today. I could have handled it so much better and I regret that.
Mags...screaming children are a natural hazard at this time of year. It's our school play today, so it will be tears and tantrums all round. (And that's just the staff! Lol)
I'm really starting to feel more like myself now. Perhaps the medication has finally kicked in and doing it's job, who knows. I'm on so many different tablets now, my son commented that our kitchen looks like something from 'Breaking Bad'....
We had a fantastic breakthrough yesterday with one of our little ones...a little girl who was born very prematurely and as a result has many physical disabilities. She has just learned how to use a computer with her eyes..it's like she has finally found her voice. She can't speak, walk, or move her arms in a co-ordinated way, but she can use her eyes to great effect...and her world just opened up. I can't tell you what a thrill it is to be part of this.
Well I'd best be off to go scrape some ice off the car. Have a good day everyone
InPar...sorry to hear about your ex. That is always painful. Even when a break up is our decision, it still smarts when they move on, I know that feeling.
DP...an apology, if it's meant genuinely, does sometimes free us of our guilt. We can't all be rational composed ultra professional people all the time. Hindsight is a wonderful thing. I handled a situation badly at work with someone. I was tired and stressed and didn't think it through, and I'm still getting the repercussions today. I could have handled it so much better and I regret that.
Mags...screaming children are a natural hazard at this time of year. It's our school play today, so it will be tears and tantrums all round. (And that's just the staff! Lol)
I'm really starting to feel more like myself now. Perhaps the medication has finally kicked in and doing it's job, who knows. I'm on so many different tablets now, my son commented that our kitchen looks like something from 'Breaking Bad'....
We had a fantastic breakthrough yesterday with one of our little ones...a little girl who was born very prematurely and as a result has many physical disabilities. She has just learned how to use a computer with her eyes..it's like she has finally found her voice. She can't speak, walk, or move her arms in a co-ordinated way, but she can use her eyes to great effect...and her world just opened up. I can't tell you what a thrill it is to be part of this.
Well I'd best be off to go scrape some ice off the car. Have a good day everyone
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