My wife left me
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Originally Posted by Steely 
I don't think alcohol is all that discerning when it comes to career choice Algorithm. I think police officers, ambulance drivers, etc. have a high incidence of alcohol abuse due to the stress involved in protecting the public, and maybe further support is needed in terms of (perhaps) PTSD, etc.
Maybe Mester, the Police Dept would have a counselling service?
Maybe Mester, the Police Dept would have a counselling service?
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I went to a meeting tonight. It wasn't an AA meeting. My sponsor came over and I invited my closest friends. Told them everything. They were very supporting. My sponsor explained to them how to help me best. Hold me accountable. Check in with me. I trust these people with my life and they trust me with theirs. So you see, you don't always have to go to an AA meeting to get sober. You just have to have help in all the right places. That's why my sponsor is a GREAT sponsor
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Originally Posted by biminiblue
Your anger, resentments and fear are coming through loud and clear to me; I can imagine your wife and kids have had to deal with these issues too. As a woman, that kind of behavior from a spouse is frightening - especially from a man who uses firearms in his job. I can imagine she has learned from past experience that when you are drinking it is worse..
As far as the firearm. I've never pointed my firearm at anyone that I didn't have the intention of destroying. Have I pointed my firearm while working? Yes. I'm fortunate I've never had to pull the trigger yet.
My wife has her own firearm. I've taught her how to use it. She's just as good a shot as me. And we keep them locked up while at home because we have 3 kids
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Originally Posted by ScottFromWI
Yet they still are. And holding them to a higher standard really doensn't matter - they are still addicts and addiction really dosen't care what you do - as long as you drink.
Thank God I still have my job.
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Mester, sounds like you've got a good support system this time around. After nearly 30 years of drinking, I got sober with just the help of friends and family and SR. I'm now 7+ years sober. The first few days/weeks/months are the hardest, but once you get through them, it does get easier.
I wish you all the best.
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Originally Posted by ScottfromWI
Yet they still are. And holding them to a higher standard really doensn't matter - they are still addicts and addiction really dosen't care what you do - as long as you drink.
Originally Posted by Mester
We are held to a higher standard. I NEVER drank on the 6 days I worked. It would it cost me too much. I NEVER drove when I was drinking either. I have my own personal Portable Breath Test. If it was ever over 0.0 I never got behind the wheel. I'd be fired immediately if they found out as we have a zero tolerance policy
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The idea that there exists some 'process ' , that something other than deciding to quit , deciding that no matter what I would never put alcohol in mouth again and not change my mind on that decision, that is what kept me from deciding.
I would say my process was the time it took me to realize there really wasn't one, just choose never again and live it.
I would say my process was the time it took me to realize there really wasn't one, just choose never again and live it.
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Hi Mester,
I just wanted to pop my head above the parapets to say: the meeting you described in post#82 sounds pretty good to me. I've often wanted to just have that kind of thing, at home, with a few trusted supporters. Your sponsor sounds terrific, in my opinion. In fact, that more casual model is really all that Bill W and the early mob did, long before it all got rather too programmatic. The last thing Dr Bob said to Bill, many years later on Bob's deathbed, was about just that: 'just keep it simple, for heaven's sake' (or along those lines).
Re your work, I've noticed that here in my city, there's a monthly closed meeting for all emergency services people, cops, doctors, ambos, firies, etc. (That's a mere afterthought to my post).
All the best, Mester. I reckon you'll be OK. Sounds to me you know what you need to do and how to do it.
I just wanted to pop my head above the parapets to say: the meeting you described in post#82 sounds pretty good to me. I've often wanted to just have that kind of thing, at home, with a few trusted supporters. Your sponsor sounds terrific, in my opinion. In fact, that more casual model is really all that Bill W and the early mob did, long before it all got rather too programmatic. The last thing Dr Bob said to Bill, many years later on Bob's deathbed, was about just that: 'just keep it simple, for heaven's sake' (or along those lines).
Re your work, I've noticed that here in my city, there's a monthly closed meeting for all emergency services people, cops, doctors, ambos, firies, etc. (That's a mere afterthought to my post).
All the best, Mester. I reckon you'll be OK. Sounds to me you know what you need to do and how to do it.
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