Addictive Voice Recognition Technique (AVRT) Discussion-Part 1
Question: Instead of buying a bottle of my favorite vodka to bring out The Beast, I started out by bringing up an image of the bottle on the internet. Looking at it made me feel like dry heaving, no exaggeration. I was flooded with all this sensory recall ranging from how the cold glass would feel in my hands, to how the red aluminum cap would unscrew to that first whiff that always made me want to puke before I could somehow get my first few drinks down. In fact, as I am typing this I just brought the image to my screen and it made me shudder. What effect am I looking for eventually? No reaction at all?
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Question: Instead of buying a bottle of my favorite vodka to bring out The Beast, I started out by bringing up an image of the bottle on the internet. Looking at it made me feel like dry heaving, no exaggeration. I was flooded with all this sensory recall ranging from how the cold glass would feel in my hands, to how the red aluminum cap would unscrew to that first whiff that always made me want to puke before I could somehow get my first few drinks down. In fact, as I am typing this I just brought the image to my screen and it made me shudder. What effect am I looking for eventually? No reaction at all?
I know exactly what you mean about the dry heaving too!
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Seeing alcohol only sometimes made my Beast want it (actual physical alcohol is disgusting to me...the smell, the taste, it's only the effect that I'm addicted to), my Beast's usual trigger is emotional. Like rejection, high stress levels, boredom...those will usually incur a Beast activity party in my head because it's so excited for the opportunity to talk me into using alcohol to feel better. It doesn't get too excited over an image of booze though because it knows it needs a stronger motivator than that to get me to move towards consuming the nasty crap.
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Just want to say that I'm more or less pleased with the way this thread has turned out, and that it hasn't devolved into an orgy of ********** HUUUGGGSSS }}}}} like many other threads. :-)
If the cut-off count from other threads is any indication, I reckon we'll be moving on to "Part 2" soon...
If the cut-off count from other threads is any indication, I reckon we'll be moving on to "Part 2" soon...
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This is why friendships and relationships based on addiction often quickly end after one member gives up their precious stuff, and is also why newly-abstinent people always want "support" from other who are newly-abstinent. What they fail to realize is that it is their Beast that wants support, a ****{HUG}}} when it "relapses" and does what comes naturally, which IT will interpret as "Congratulations!" and think "Wow, isn't this nice? I get tanked and get a hug for it! We'll have to remember this!"
There are a few sections in "RR: TNC" which deal with this phenomenon. See "Mingling of Beasts" and "The Society of Beasts" on page 161 and "Beasts in Love" on Pages 164-169.
Yeah, the actual site of the sh*t vodka I used to drink definitely does not make me want to drink....I think what *could* trigger me is seeing people drinking around the holidays, etc (people looking like they are having a good time). Maybe I'll try and find some sort of images like that and see what happens.
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Beasts in Love sounds like a good chunk of my college dating life. lol I'd meet a guy, realize we both had extreme drinking habits and we'd continually hang out and drink from then on. Instant best friend. What I knew about his personality??? Not much, nor was it important. My Beast also really loved this because not only could it get its booze fix without shame, but it also knew I felt validated by having a guy that wanted to be around me and I wouldn't remove myself from the relationship for that reason either. My Beast was really living the life then....snug as a bug in a rug, yeah I said it. lol
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Question: Instead of buying a bottle of my favorite vodka to bring out The Beast, I started out by bringing up an image of the bottle on the internet. Looking at it made me feel like dry heaving, no exaggeration. I was flooded with all this sensory recall ranging from how the cold glass would feel in my hands, to how the red aluminum cap would unscrew to that first whiff that always made me want to puke before I could somehow get my first few drinks down. In fact, as I am typing this I just brought the image to my screen and it made me shudder. What effect am I looking for eventually? No reaction at all?
If the "+" and "-" symbols on the "Relapse Anxiety Grid" don't mean much to you, replace the "+" with a and the "-" with a and you'll get the idea.
Since we are not hugging in this thread I'll ask a blunt question.
Why is it that RR can't work without bashing people, threads, forums, moderators, recovery groups, treatment centers, etc...
Whenever I've seen RR discussed over the years there is always a lot of inflated ego involved and a lot of disruption on the forums. RR is not the only topic that has had the problem. Hardliner 12 step groups also have the ego driven threads and posts that always point out flaws in others.
This is why these groups have not lasted on SR. Is there a way to use RR and AVRT without constantly pointing out the flaws in others?
Why is it that RR can't work without bashing people, threads, forums, moderators, recovery groups, treatment centers, etc...
Whenever I've seen RR discussed over the years there is always a lot of inflated ego involved and a lot of disruption on the forums. RR is not the only topic that has had the problem. Hardliner 12 step groups also have the ego driven threads and posts that always point out flaws in others.
This is why these groups have not lasted on SR. Is there a way to use RR and AVRT without constantly pointing out the flaws in others?
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Hi Morning Glory,
I guess I never saw RR as pointing out the flaws in others...maybe in other recovery groups though. I think this can happen by default because AA and RR are on polar ends of each other. It's especially difficult to switch from AA to RR without discussing why AA didn't work and how it can be toxic to what RR believes. I guess I never felt actually bashed by anyone else on this thread, even though I'm new. The way I see it, we're just trying to follow our addiction recovery method. Any pointing out of flaws is just to help with the method. Unless people are actually going around saying, "you're a dumb moron" to each other. Then, I can't stand behind that. lol
I guess I never saw RR as pointing out the flaws in others...maybe in other recovery groups though. I think this can happen by default because AA and RR are on polar ends of each other. It's especially difficult to switch from AA to RR without discussing why AA didn't work and how it can be toxic to what RR believes. I guess I never felt actually bashed by anyone else on this thread, even though I'm new. The way I see it, we're just trying to follow our addiction recovery method. Any pointing out of flaws is just to help with the method. Unless people are actually going around saying, "you're a dumb moron" to each other. Then, I can't stand behind that. lol
I understand that the groups are polar opposites, but I think we can come up with a solution that allows you all to use RR without mocking other methods that our members use here or mocking the support they give even if it's a hug that you all disagree with.
I don't mind discussions when there is confusion about changing from one method to another if it is done without mocking or calling another method nonsense.
I am not a member of any recovery group and am looking at this from the outside. I have no bias.
I don't mind discussions when there is confusion about changing from one method to another if it is done without mocking or calling another method nonsense.
I am not a member of any recovery group and am looking at this from the outside. I have no bias.
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Addicted people never tell the whole story to never-addicted people, and they themselves often don't even realize what is going on, but it is not a coincidence that April instantly recognized the truth in the mingling of Beasts analogy from her own life. AVRT requires a split between the addiction and the normal self, and it is important to recognize which part is seeking support, and for what purpose (usually diametrically opposed), in order for it to work.
Whenever I've seen RR discussed over the years there is always a lot of inflated ego involved and a lot of disruption on the forums. RR is not the only topic that has had the problem. Hardliner 12 step groups also have the ego driven threads and posts that always point out flaws in others.
This is why these groups have not lasted on SR. Is there a way to use RR and AVRT without constantly pointing out the flaws in others?
This is why these groups have not lasted on SR. Is there a way to use RR and AVRT without constantly pointing out the flaws in others?
Since we are not hugging in this thread I'll ask a blunt question.
Why is it that RR can't work without bashing people, threads, forums, moderators, recovery groups, treatment centers, etc...
Whenever I've seen RR discussed over the years there is always a lot of inflated ego involved and a lot of disruption on the forums. RR is not the only topic that has had the problem. Hardliner 12 step groups also have the ego driven threads and posts that always point out flaws in others.
This is why these groups have not lasted on SR. Is there a way to use RR and AVRT without constantly pointing out the flaws in others?
Why is it that RR can't work without bashing people, threads, forums, moderators, recovery groups, treatment centers, etc...
Whenever I've seen RR discussed over the years there is always a lot of inflated ego involved and a lot of disruption on the forums. RR is not the only topic that has had the problem. Hardliner 12 step groups also have the ego driven threads and posts that always point out flaws in others.
This is why these groups have not lasted on SR. Is there a way to use RR and AVRT without constantly pointing out the flaws in others?
I don't think I have ever personally bashed AA here, but I will say that I do believe parts of RR and it's methodology are saving my life. Literally. I was told repeatedly in AA that if I did not do it their way, I would end up in jail, dead, or in a mental institution - yet I simply could not buy their program and I felt horribly guilty for it. I really felt I only had 2 choices: to drink, or to somehow magically buy AA's program....and since AA never resonated with me, I felt destined to drink myself to death (how does one convince themself in believing in something that they just can't believe in?). I felt like there was no other way. So in finding out about RR and AVRT, to say I was consumed with relief was an understatement. To find like-minded people who had also failed at AA and yet still had a genuine desire to stop drinking was so comforting. Not "getting" AA is something a lot of us here have in common since it is the most widely prescribed and first "go to" for people with drinking problems. I suppose that is why there is some exchange about what facets of AA didn't resonate initially when one finds RR, but I think the more open-minded people here do not bash AA (it's more like "Wow, so I'm not the only one? Phew! What a relief!"). I've met some really awesome people who are sober through AA and I don't think they are stupid people....but I do think they march to a different beat than I do.
I am trying to reread recent posts to see what was offensive here but can't find it...
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It is worth noting that there is "cross-traffic" in both directions. Some people read about AVRT, don't like it, and then join a recovery group instead. There were certainly a lot of people who went over to SMART Recovery when RR shut down its meetings and made AVRT the centerpiece.
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I actually left my last AA meeting thinking the only way I could ever see myself not drinking alcohol is if I got pregnant; I couldn't possibly ever care enough about myself to stop drinking but could see myself doing it for another being. But a few days of hovering around this thread, going through the RR book(still not even the whole thing. lol) and I took to the method like a sponge to water and haven't had a drink since Friday...no self-induced pregnancy involved! lol Everything makes sense and everything that is said about AA was something I already thought about it before I read it on here or in the book. I'm with freethinking on the "Wow, there's more people like me? What a relief!" part. And I think blunt honesty is something most RR followers aren't scared of, and in my guess by judging my own personality, we actually have a great appreciation for it.
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I have stayed out of the 12-Step forum as of late so as not to divert them from their chosen method of recovery, although I will grant that I do sometimes get sucked into such threads if they show up on the main forum. I'm working on that one. :-)
Please keep it in mind that I am trying to make RR work here so those who can't use other methods get the help they need. I'm not attacking anyone. I'm trying to find a solution to avoid problems. I think it can be discussed respectfully. You can point out what may trigger 'beast" activity from other methods if it is really something you are having a problem with. General remarks against the other methods when there is no real issue from a member isn't necessary and causes problems.
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I'm relatively new to AVRT and Terminally Unique has been most hopeful. I wonder if I might post a few of my own questions before we hit the limit:
[1] I am finding myself envying those who have more time under their built. I know you'd say right away this is Beat activity. However, the reason is because my body hasn't fully reset itself from years of alcohol. Is that still Beast activity?
[1] I am finding myself envying those who have more time under their built. I know you'd say right away this is Beat activity. However, the reason is because my body hasn't fully reset itself from years of alcohol. Is that still Beast activity?
Of course, you know that you'll be dead before then, but the Beast can't comprehend that. It only sees an opportunity to drink again, and you can be certain that it will try to shorten those 100 years until it starts asking "well, why not drink tomorrow, then?" Stay in the present, and don't worry about how much "time" other people have. You will get over the short-term effects of alcohol withdrawal soon enough, usually around 90 days or so, and it will get easier.
You should, however, attribute any sadness or sense of deprivation on account of not drinking to the Beast; ie, "IT misses alcohol, because IT feels deprived and is sad because I am killing IT." Remember, the Beast, since it originates in your base brain, does have feelings, just like any other dumb animal. In fact, feelings are probably all it has. As far as it is concerned, if somethings feels good, do it, and if it feels bad, don't do it, and to hell with the consequences to you or anyone else.
[3] Does likening drinking to the ultimate immoral act help? I still think deep down the Beast has a bit of a hold on me because I don't quite fully view drinking in the light I should. One previous poster mentioned it to sleeping with her ex-husband. I think of some of the scenes in London I saw of the riots that made me feel sick…yet the idea of drinking doesn't do that. right now it's more of something i no longer do. Should it?
Abstinence is a learned skill, and the more you do it, the easier it becomes. AVRT will build on itself as you use it, until eventually you will barely even think about it. Set your confidence level arbitrarily at 100%, recognize all self-doubt as a product of the AV itself, and you will do fine. When you are confident that you will never drink again, you are as recovered as someone who has not touched a drink in 30 years. I kid you not.
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