Going to Do It & Become a Didit
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didit,
good to hear from you here...and it IS all about you, which is as it “should” be in your own thread
over the years, i have noticed a lot of people drop off in posting after the initial novel sobriety, and often they don’t come back, or come back after relapse.
i believe that it serves most of us better to have an ongoing engagement with others on a site like this, or in “real life”, or both, rather than wait til things get bad. has been my experience, anyway, of what i could finally make wirk for me. i think if i left it until i felt i “needed” it, i might not do it at all.
so i admire people who know when they need some connection and then reach out, as you have done. you might find, though, that if you connect more steadily, it is not so difficult to speak of vulnerabilities when they crop up, or feelings of weakness.
you don’t sound weak to me at ALL!
you sound like a person who recently got sober and is getting hit by life as it really is. at a rather unusual time, to add. extra challenging. and you sound like a person who is assembling a toolbox, so to speak, and using the ones she has.
strength as the main or only tool, i found, was not only highly overrated but i couldn’t make that work for any length of time with regards to drinking.
keep going, stay connected.
good to hear from you here...and it IS all about you, which is as it “should” be in your own thread
over the years, i have noticed a lot of people drop off in posting after the initial novel sobriety, and often they don’t come back, or come back after relapse.
i believe that it serves most of us better to have an ongoing engagement with others on a site like this, or in “real life”, or both, rather than wait til things get bad. has been my experience, anyway, of what i could finally make wirk for me. i think if i left it until i felt i “needed” it, i might not do it at all.
so i admire people who know when they need some connection and then reach out, as you have done. you might find, though, that if you connect more steadily, it is not so difficult to speak of vulnerabilities when they crop up, or feelings of weakness.
you don’t sound weak to me at ALL!
you sound like a person who recently got sober and is getting hit by life as it really is. at a rather unusual time, to add. extra challenging. and you sound like a person who is assembling a toolbox, so to speak, and using the ones she has.
strength as the main or only tool, i found, was not only highly overrated but i couldn’t make that work for any length of time with regards to drinking.
keep going, stay connected.
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Originally Posted by Dee74 
we're recovering from years of ill treatment to body and mind - the mood swings, the irritability and the bouts of despair are all pretty normal and I think it's our minds and bodies healing.
Sometimes I will see an actor on tv in a movie, and I can't even think of their name, even though I know it. Scary sometimes the forgetfulness that comes over when I am tired.I've hurt my insides too, they definitely need to heal, I am seeing progress with that, but I have a lot more healing to do.
Originally Posted by fini
you might find, though, that if you connect more steadily, it is not so difficult to speak of vulnerabilities when they crop up, or feelings of weakness.
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It was always very difficult for me to speak up too, didit. But in this case it's imperative - and I'm so glad you wanted to talk about how you've been feeling.
You'll go through many phases as you heal - please be patient with yourself. In early recovery we're exhausted from all we've put ourselves through. You're doing an amazing thing. Congratulations on your 6 wks.
You'll go through many phases as you heal - please be patient with yourself. In early recovery we're exhausted from all we've put ourselves through. You're doing an amazing thing. Congratulations on your 6 wks.
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