Blogs


Notices

A Different Path

Old 07-10-2018, 01:07 AM
  # 261 (permalink)  
Member
 
Saskia's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2012
Location: US East Coast
Posts: 11,961
Dearest Kathy

From what I gather, you are probably going to go through various phases of dealing with this - whether you want to or not! Give your husband a gentle hug for me. You both will need lots of that. Also, sad but fortunate, you still have each other for as long as you have.

Thanks for sharing your journey with us!
Saskia is offline  
The Following 12 Users Say Thank You to Saskia For This Useful Post:
2ndhandrose (07-10-2018), Alysheba (07-10-2018), Dee74 (07-10-2018), Delilah1 (07-11-2018), Gilmer (07-10-2018), Hevyn (07-10-2018), Itchy (07-11-2018), Mags1 (07-11-2018), PhoenixJ (07-10-2018), Purplrks3647 (07-10-2018), stargazer016 (07-10-2018), STDragon (07-10-2018)
Old 07-10-2018, 03:15 AM
  # 262 (permalink)  
Guest
Thread Starter
 
Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: Ashburn, VA
Posts: 30,206
Hi, Cosima. Thank you for posting!

Thank you, Sass and Purps.
Gilmer is offline  
The Following 11 Users Say Thank You to Gilmer For This Useful Post:
2ndhandrose (07-10-2018), Alysheba (07-10-2018), Delilah1 (07-11-2018), Hevyn (07-10-2018), Itchy (07-11-2018), Mags1 (07-11-2018), PhoenixJ (07-10-2018), Purplrks3647 (07-10-2018), Saskia (07-15-2018), SoberLeigh (07-11-2018), STDragon (07-10-2018)
Old 07-10-2018, 03:33 AM
  # 263 (permalink)  
Rar
Member
 
Rar's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2014
Location: NY & FL
Posts: 3,049
Sending hugs and prayers for a good day today Gilmer.

Rar is offline  
The Following 9 Users Say Thank You to Rar For This Useful Post:
2ndhandrose (07-10-2018), Alysheba (07-10-2018), Delilah1 (07-11-2018), Gilmer (07-10-2018), Hevyn (07-10-2018), Itchy (07-11-2018), Mags1 (07-11-2018), PhoenixJ (07-10-2018), Purplrks3647 (07-10-2018)
Old 07-10-2018, 04:16 AM
  # 264 (permalink)  
Guest
Thread Starter
 
Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: Ashburn, VA
Posts: 30,206
Originally Posted by fini View Post
is part of being stoic a fear of falling apart?
I have never looked at my stoic manner of examining all available data then acting as totally unflinching.

Physically, maybe, I’ve often prided myself, but not emotionally: I usually flinch emotionally—but I view it like a prizefighter getting knocked down and doggedly getting back up again.

Interesting question about the determination not to break down emotionally.

I believe it started in kindergarten. I cried every single day at school, and the other kids would tease me.

So when I got to first grade I vowed never to cry in school again—and I didn’t (all except for once—and even then I held it off till nobody else could see).

Plus now for bipolar I’m on a mood stabilizer plus an anti-psychotic drug, and they dampen the intensity of my emotions for the most part.

Yesterday the sadness was just too much, though, and it ‘broke through.”
Gilmer is offline  
The Following 21 Users Say Thank You to Gilmer For This Useful Post:
2ndhandrose (07-10-2018), Alysheba (07-10-2018), aussieblue (03-03-2019), biminiblue (07-10-2018), courage2 (07-10-2018), Dee74 (07-10-2018), Delilah1 (07-11-2018), Erratic (07-19-2018), Hevyn (07-10-2018), Itchy (07-11-2018), Mags1 (07-11-2018), PhoenixJ (07-10-2018), Purplrks3647 (07-10-2018), Rar (07-10-2018), Ringo123 (07-10-2018), Saskia (07-15-2018), SoberLeigh (07-11-2018), stargazer016 (07-10-2018), STDragon (07-10-2018), tomsteve (07-10-2018), tootsl1 (07-10-2018)
Old 07-10-2018, 04:17 AM
  # 265 (permalink)  
Guest
Thread Starter
 
Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: Ashburn, VA
Posts: 30,206
Thank you, Rar. I hope you have a good day, too.
Gilmer is offline  
The Following 13 Users Say Thank You to Gilmer For This Useful Post:
2ndhandrose (07-10-2018), Alysheba (07-10-2018), biminiblue (07-10-2018), Dee74 (07-10-2018), Delilah1 (07-11-2018), Hevyn (07-10-2018), Itchy (07-11-2018), Mags1 (07-11-2018), PhoenixJ (07-10-2018), Purplrks3647 (07-10-2018), Rar (07-10-2018), SoberLeigh (07-11-2018), STDragon (07-10-2018)
Old 07-10-2018, 04:32 AM
  # 266 (permalink)  
Administrator
 
Dee74's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 187,807
Blog Entries: 1
Have a good day today Kathy. Carpe Diem and all that

D
Dee74 is offline  
The Following 11 Users Say Thank You to Dee74 For This Useful Post:
2ndhandrose (07-10-2018), Alysheba (07-10-2018), Delilah1 (07-11-2018), Gilmer (07-10-2018), Hevyn (07-10-2018), Itchy (07-11-2018), Mags1 (07-11-2018), PhoenixJ (07-10-2018), Purplrks3647 (07-10-2018), Rar (07-10-2018), STDragon (07-10-2018)
Old 07-10-2018, 04:40 AM
  # 267 (permalink)  
Guest
Thread Starter
 
Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: Ashburn, VA
Posts: 30,206
Thank you, Dee!

You carpe nightem!
Gilmer is offline  
The Following 13 Users Say Thank You to Gilmer For This Useful Post:
2ndhandrose (07-10-2018), Alysheba (07-10-2018), courage2 (07-10-2018), Dee74 (07-10-2018), Delilah1 (07-11-2018), Hevyn (07-10-2018), Itchy (07-11-2018), Mags1 (07-11-2018), PhoenixJ (07-10-2018), Purplrks3647 (07-10-2018), Rar (07-10-2018), SoberLeigh (07-11-2018), STDragon (07-10-2018)
Old 07-10-2018, 04:43 AM
  # 268 (permalink)  
Administrator
 
Dee74's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 187,807
Blog Entries: 1


D
Dee74 is offline  
The Following 11 Users Say Thank You to Dee74 For This Useful Post:
2ndhandrose (07-10-2018), Alysheba (07-10-2018), Delilah1 (07-11-2018), Gilmer (07-10-2018), Hevyn (07-10-2018), Itchy (07-11-2018), Mags1 (07-11-2018), PhoenixJ (07-10-2018), Purplrks3647 (07-10-2018), Saskia (07-15-2018), STDragon (07-10-2018)
Old 07-10-2018, 04:49 AM
  # 269 (permalink)  
Say cheese!
 
Erratic's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2005
Location: Scotland
Posts: 2,025
Blog Entries: 11
Wow Gilmer i just saw this post x i do hope ur able to find something.

My thoughts are with u hun and ur family. Tx for being there for me in the past and we are here for u if u need us xx

Have u looked into partial transplant of the liver? Birmingham university does alot of research in the liver, i know ur not in UK but u never know if they link with any other medical centres in this research xx

https://www.birmingham.ac.uk/news/la...ves-saved.aspx

Last edited by Erratic; 07-10-2018 at 04:55 AM. Reason: add a link
Erratic is offline  
The Following 13 Users Say Thank You to Erratic For This Useful Post:
2ndhandrose (07-10-2018), Alysheba (07-10-2018), Dee74 (07-10-2018), Delilah1 (07-11-2018), Gilmer (07-10-2018), Hevyn (07-10-2018), Itchy (07-11-2018), Mags1 (07-11-2018), PhoenixJ (07-10-2018), Purplrks3647 (07-10-2018), Rar (07-10-2018), stargazer016 (07-11-2018), STDragon (07-10-2018)
Old 07-10-2018, 05:06 AM
  # 270 (permalink)  
Guest
Thread Starter
 
Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: Ashburn, VA
Posts: 30,206
Thank you, Erratic.

I will look into it.
Gilmer is offline  
The Following 13 Users Say Thank You to Gilmer For This Useful Post:
2ndhandrose (07-10-2018), Alysheba (07-10-2018), Dee74 (07-10-2018), Delilah1 (07-11-2018), Erratic (07-10-2018), Hevyn (07-10-2018), Itchy (07-11-2018), Mags1 (07-11-2018), PhoenixJ (07-10-2018), Purplrks3647 (07-10-2018), Rar (07-10-2018), SoberLeigh (07-11-2018), STDragon (07-10-2018)
Old 07-10-2018, 06:03 AM
  # 271 (permalink)  
EnjoyingTheJourney
 
bandicoot2's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2015
Posts: 3,272
(((Gilmer))) You've been such an inspiration to me on the 24-hr. thread. Thank you for being here and showing us sobriety can be achieved with truth, dignity and humor.
bandicoot2 is offline  
The Following 15 Users Say Thank You to bandicoot2 For This Useful Post:
2ndhandrose (07-10-2018), Alysheba (07-10-2018), Dee74 (07-10-2018), Delilah1 (07-11-2018), Erratic (07-10-2018), Gilmer (07-10-2018), Hevyn (07-10-2018), Itchy (07-11-2018), Mags1 (07-11-2018), PhoenixJ (07-10-2018), Purplrks3647 (07-10-2018), Rar (07-10-2018), Ringo123 (07-10-2018), stargazer016 (07-11-2018), STDragon (07-10-2018)
Old 07-10-2018, 06:08 AM
  # 272 (permalink)  
Guest
Thread Starter
 
Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: Ashburn, VA
Posts: 30,206
Thanks, Bandi!
Gilmer is offline  
The Following 12 Users Say Thank You to Gilmer For This Useful Post:
2ndhandrose (07-10-2018), Alysheba (07-10-2018), Dee74 (07-10-2018), Delilah1 (07-11-2018), Erratic (07-10-2018), Hevyn (07-10-2018), Itchy (07-11-2018), Mags1 (07-11-2018), PhoenixJ (07-10-2018), Purplrks3647 (07-10-2018), SoberLeigh (07-11-2018), STDragon (07-10-2018)
Old 07-10-2018, 06:19 AM
  # 273 (permalink)  
Member
 
badgerden's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2016
Location: eastern oregon
Posts: 1,934
Blog Entries: 1
Good Morning Gilmer!

badgerden is offline  
The Following 14 Users Say Thank You to badgerden For This Useful Post:
2ndhandrose (07-10-2018), Alysheba (07-10-2018), Caramel (07-10-2018), Dee74 (07-10-2018), Delilah1 (07-11-2018), Erratic (07-10-2018), Gilmer (07-10-2018), Hevyn (07-10-2018), Itchy (07-11-2018), Mags1 (07-11-2018), PhoenixJ (07-10-2018), Purplrks3647 (07-10-2018), Rar (07-10-2018), STDragon (07-10-2018)
Old 07-10-2018, 06:49 AM
  # 274 (permalink)  
Guest
Thread Starter
 
Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: Ashburn, VA
Posts: 30,206
That’s so funny, Badge!

I once took one of those online quizzes, “What’s your spirit animal?”

I was surprised at the results: the snake.

So I said to my son, “Guess what spirit animal I got!”

He paused a minute: “The sloth?”

LOL!
Gilmer is offline  
The Following 18 Users Say Thank You to Gilmer For This Useful Post:
2ndhandrose (07-10-2018), Alysheba (07-10-2018), aussieblue (03-03-2019), badgerden (07-10-2018), courage2 (07-10-2018), Dee74 (07-10-2018), Delilah1 (07-11-2018), Erratic (07-10-2018), Hevyn (07-10-2018), Itchy (07-11-2018), Mags1 (07-11-2018), Obladi (07-10-2018), PhoenixJ (07-10-2018), Purplrks3647 (07-10-2018), Rar (07-11-2018), SoberLeigh (07-11-2018), STDragon (07-10-2018), tootsl1 (07-10-2018)
Old 07-10-2018, 05:20 PM
  # 275 (permalink)  
p***enger
 
courage2's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2012
Location: NYC
Posts: 16,153
How has your day been, Gilmer?
courage2 is offline  
The Following 11 Users Say Thank You to courage2 For This Useful Post:
Alysheba (07-10-2018), Dee74 (07-10-2018), Delilah1 (07-11-2018), Gilmer (07-10-2018), Hevyn (07-10-2018), Itchy (07-11-2018), Mags1 (07-11-2018), PhoenixJ (07-10-2018), Purplrks3647 (07-10-2018), stargazer016 (07-11-2018), STDragon (07-10-2018)
Old 07-10-2018, 07:32 PM
  # 276 (permalink)  
Administrator
 
Anna's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2003
Location: Dancing in the Light
Posts: 53,741
I've been away Gilmer, and haven't been online much, but I've been thinking about you and sending positive vibes your way.
Anna is online now  
The Following 13 Users Say Thank You to Anna For This Useful Post:
Alysheba (07-10-2018), Ann (07-11-2018), Dee74 (07-10-2018), Delilah1 (07-11-2018), Gilmer (07-10-2018), Hevyn (07-11-2018), Itchy (07-11-2018), least (07-11-2018), Mags1 (07-11-2018), PhoenixJ (07-11-2018), Purplrks3647 (07-10-2018), stargazer016 (07-11-2018), STDragon (07-10-2018)
Old 07-10-2018, 07:42 PM
  # 277 (permalink)  
Member
 
fini's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2012
Location: canada
Posts: 6,794
what a gift to do this soberly....to know that when sadness 'breaks through', it is sadness, pure.
fini is offline  
The Following 12 Users Say Thank You to fini For This Useful Post:
Alysheba (07-11-2018), Ann (07-11-2018), Caramel (07-10-2018), Dee74 (07-10-2018), Delilah1 (07-11-2018), Gilmer (07-10-2018), Hevyn (07-11-2018), Itchy (07-11-2018), Mags1 (07-11-2018), PhoenixJ (07-11-2018), Purplrks3647 (07-10-2018), STDragon (07-10-2018)
Old 07-10-2018, 09:01 PM
  # 278 (permalink)  
Guest
Thread Starter
 
Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: Ashburn, VA
Posts: 30,206
Thanks, you guys.

Today has been busy. I ended up with a constant dull pain in my stomach and a splitting headache.

Off to bed now.

Thanks for asking!
Gilmer is offline  
The Following 14 Users Say Thank You to Gilmer For This Useful Post:
Alysheba (07-11-2018), Ann (07-11-2018), aussieblue (03-03-2019), courage2 (07-11-2018), Dee74 (07-10-2018), Delilah1 (07-11-2018), Hevyn (07-11-2018), Itchy (07-11-2018), Mags1 (07-11-2018), PhoenixJ (07-11-2018), Purplrks3647 (07-10-2018), SoberLeigh (07-11-2018), STDragon (07-11-2018), tootsl1 (07-10-2018)
Old 07-11-2018, 02:05 AM
  # 279 (permalink)  
Quit 4/17/15
 
stargazer016's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2015
Location: Pa
Posts: 9,811
Hope you feel better this morning Kathy!
stargazer016 is offline  
The Following 11 Users Say Thank You to stargazer016 For This Useful Post:
Alysheba (07-11-2018), Ann (07-11-2018), Dee74 (07-11-2018), Delilah1 (07-11-2018), Gilmer (07-11-2018), Hevyn (07-11-2018), Itchy (07-11-2018), Mags1 (07-11-2018), PhoenixJ (07-11-2018), Purplrks3647 (07-11-2018), STDragon (07-11-2018)
Old 07-11-2018, 05:23 AM
  # 280 (permalink)  
Guest
Thread Starter
 
Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: Ashburn, VA
Posts: 30,206
Thanks, SG. I do.

Life has become so rich, because people are coming forward to show their genuine concern, and the conversation tends to be deeper.
Gilmer is offline  
The Following 11 Users Say Thank You to Gilmer For This Useful Post:
Alysheba (07-11-2018), Ann (07-11-2018), aussieblue (03-03-2019), courage2 (07-11-2018), Dee74 (07-11-2018), Delilah1 (07-11-2018), Hevyn (07-11-2018), Itchy (07-11-2018), Mags1 (07-11-2018), Purplrks3647 (07-11-2018), SoberLeigh (07-11-2018)

Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
 
Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off




All times are GMT -7. The time now is 05:59 AM.