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Old 07-19-2018, 08:01 AM
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Yes, I sure do remember knotty pine, Leigh!

The place I visited last weekend, the house where my mother-in-law grew up, was decorated with a plywood facsimile of knotty pine paneling!

But I certainly remember the real thing!
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Old 07-19-2018, 08:44 AM
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Good Morning Kathy

I check your thread everyday. Considering the reason that you started it, I find it quite uplifting to read all of the caring posts.

You are living your life with such grace.

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Old 07-19-2018, 10:30 AM
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Thank you, Juanita.
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Old 07-19-2018, 11:22 AM
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This talk of cigars puts me in mind of the lovely lady who used to appear at the very end of the Morecambe and Wise Show - Eric Morecambe and Ernie Wise being Britain's best-loved comedy duo:

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Old 07-19-2018, 11:44 AM
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That lady can emcee my party anytime, Caramel (but I’ll pour her some sparkling cider instead)!
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Old 07-19-2018, 11:48 AM
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^ Her brief appearances at the end of their shows were just a random bit of amusement, she had no other role than to appear, receive applause, and look gorgeous

Her name was Janet Webb :
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Janet_Webb

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Old 07-20-2018, 01:53 AM
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Kathy, my friend, I am happy that you have such a thoughtful husband and son with a great sense of humor to be with you on this journey. You are amazing!
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Old 07-20-2018, 03:43 AM
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wishing you a great weekend Gilmer

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Old 07-20-2018, 05:29 AM
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Still lurking, Gilly
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Old 07-20-2018, 05:55 AM
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Thank you guys!
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Old 07-20-2018, 07:43 AM
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good morning Gilmer! much love and blessing your way today and always!

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Old 07-20-2018, 07:52 AM
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It's taken me a few days to process these feelings and be able to write.

During the MLB All Star game there was a demonstration. I Stand Against Cancer For... It was a beautiful thing.

I stood for you, Kathy.
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Old 07-20-2018, 09:17 AM
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That is so beautiful, trachs!
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Old 07-20-2018, 09:19 AM
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Wishing you a day of love, beauty and peace, dear Kathy.
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Old 07-20-2018, 09:23 AM
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That really is beautiful, Trach. Thank you very much.

By the way, my prescription snorkel mask arrived this morning!

I’m ready for Red Reef Park!
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Old 07-20-2018, 09:37 AM
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Trach, that was beautiful.....brought tears to my eyes..

Hi Gilmer...I hope you have a lovely weekend with your family.
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Old 07-20-2018, 09:50 AM
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Snorkle on! Yay!

Go practice somewhere.

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Old 07-20-2018, 02:00 PM
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How lovely, Trach.

Kathy, your attitude is catching - I think of you when faced with challenges. I'm never going to forget what you've taught us, & the example you've set.
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I visited the palliative care oncologist today. I really, really liked him. He was a hospice physician for five years, and he is a man of faith—he is principled, and he is not just another rank-and -file medical moneychanger who is eager to pull the plug ASAP to keep costs down.

So I listened carefully when I asked him the truth about end-of-life care.

My husband takes a firm stand on what he earnestly believes is the highest moral ground: that I should continue to receive infusions of food and water via tube and IV when I become unable to feed myself naturally.

He believes that to withhold them is like starving the patient—an inadvertently cruel method of hastening death.

Many people believe this.

I used to, too.

But after having spoken with my hospice nurse and now this palliative care oncologist, I have learned some things that I was previously unaware of.

When a patient who is already in the process of dying loses the ability to feed himself, his body adjusts to the lack.

Administering food and water artificially actually can cause physical harm and increase discomfort.

When the hospice program admissions nurse told me that, I didn’t believe her. She seemed rather insensitive and callous in her general manner, so I instinctively didn’t trust her. Despite the fact that she worked for hospice, she seemed to have a complete tin ear when it came to empathy.

But when I spoke with the doctor today, I heard specifics of how the dying patient is put in more discomfort: the body no longer is able to process water properly, and excessive swelling can occur in the extremities (my left ankle is already prone to swelling)—plus, the lungs tend to fill with fluid.

So it is not a mercy to provide dying people with nutrients artificially.

It would definitely be inhumane to withhold food and water from a person who was healthy, or at least sick with hope of recovery; but when a person is already dying, it not only prolongs things, but makes them worse.

So I just wrote up an advanced directive.

When my husband comes home tonight I will let him know that what they say is really true—it is not just a cynical way to cycle stiffs through the system faster!

I had complete trust in the doctor today.

If my husband is still not convinced after we talk tonight, then I’ll make an appointment for him to see this doctor and ask questions.
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