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Old 08-26-2017, 10:04 PM
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Hi secretchord

You joined in Oct 2015. That is more or less when I first got really serious at getting sober. I also had stretches of sobriety since then, but slipped up a couple of times. I decided to get back on track again at the beginning of July, and I think I am on day 50+ now.

I can tell you now that it feels just as great, if not better, than when I did it last time round. And of course, it was just as possible as it was before.

I am rooting for you. Please keep us updated.
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Old 08-27-2017, 05:15 AM
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Thanks everyone. I appreciate your support. I don't have withdrawal since I'm not a daily drinker. I'm a binge drinker. Today is day 1. I will stay close to this forum in the next couple weeks.
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You can do this. Like others have said you have done this before. Yes it is hard getting into the mindset...but if you really try to think of all the good it will do in your life, it will help.
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Old 08-27-2017, 07:23 AM
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Originally Posted by secretchord View Post
Thanks everyone. I appreciate your support. I don't have withdrawal since I'm not a daily drinker. I'm a binge drinker. Today is day 1. I will stay close to this forum in the next couple weeks.
Good for you secretchord! Stay close and stay strong! You can do this!
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Old 08-27-2017, 10:35 AM
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Support to you. I know it is so hard but soon that intense pain and shame will go, once you can get a few days of being sober. It is the alcohol or the AV talking to you now- probably making you feel you can't do it. You can.
Please keep posting and get as much support as you can.
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Old 08-27-2017, 11:38 AM
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Originally Posted by secretchord View Post
Thanks everyone. I appreciate your support. I don't have withdrawal since I'm not a daily drinker. I'm a binge drinker. Today is day 1. I will stay close to this forum in the next couple weeks.
Good for you!! This forum has been tremendously helpful to me as well. I just had my first sober visit with my dad since I was a teenager. It was so hard, and I needed to come here for support. So glad I did because I was able to stay sober.
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Old 08-27-2017, 12:20 PM
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I'm glad to see you posting, and hurray for Day 1.
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Old 08-27-2017, 02:28 PM
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I will stay close to this forum in the next couple weeks.
it would be extremely wise to put a recovery plan/program into ACTION on top of staying close to the forum.
alcoholism looooooves a mind that still has the same thinking as when an alcoholic was drinking.
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Old 08-28-2017, 04:37 AM
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Day 2 and going good. I think this week will be easy until Friday. My binge drinking is mostly on the weekends when I'm bored.
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Old 08-28-2017, 05:03 AM
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Yay!

Make a plan for the weekend when you would normally drink. There is a lot to do out in the world that doesn't need a drink.

Bored? Hm. Have you tried volunteering?
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Old 08-29-2017, 06:48 AM
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How are you today, SC?
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Old 08-29-2017, 07:05 AM
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Hi SC,

I hope you are feeling better today- congrats on the 2 days (3 today?).
I can relate to the binge drinking when bored.

I found it was helpful to focus on activities that would keep me busy but also fulfilled. Writing, reading, going to the gym, long baths etc; are all things that help me prioritize my self-care and switch my mind off a little!

You can reach your goal of being booze-free long-term, just focus on each day.
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Old 08-30-2017, 04:45 AM
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Just checking in. I'm doing okay. Yesterday was my first day at a new job. Was pretty overwhelmed. Not going to lie, I wanted to drink but I didn't. I need to be patient with myself which is something I'm not good at.
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Old 08-30-2017, 04:48 AM
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I'm glad you didn't drink secretchord

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Old 08-30-2017, 08:28 AM
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New job That's awesome, but I understand it takes a little getting used to . I'm glad you are still not drinking.
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Old 08-30-2017, 02:31 PM
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Hi SC, congrats on day 3

I can relate as had 3.5 years then started again last year. It does seem harder this time but it can be done. Many people on SR have drunk again after long periods of sobriety but now have even longer periods of sobriety. That gives me faith and hope and belief that we can do this again. Stay strong and stay on SR
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Old 08-31-2017, 07:14 PM
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Horrible day 3 at the new job and came home to a husband that wants to divorce. I haven't drank. Barely hanging on.
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Old 08-31-2017, 07:26 PM
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I want out too and I agree every time you fail and try again it is very hard.

Sometimes I feel like stop drinking alcohol is impossible it is everywhere and I feel alone if I'm not part of the crowd.

And it's crazy because I'm not happy drinking anymore I'm in despair either drinking or sober. Good luck to you
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Old 08-31-2017, 07:39 PM
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SC, I'm sorry to hear that. I hope he'll find a way to work through this - if that's what you want.

We're here. Sober is the best and most honorable way to face this and any other problem.
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Old 08-31-2017, 08:12 PM
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I'm sorry SecretChord - but I really believe there's nothing so bad a drink can't make worse. Stay strong.

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