What now?
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Join Date: Dec 2012
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I can definitely relate Weasel. I was carted off to jail last Christmas for punching my brother and throwing my plate across the room. I have never been violent when sober. Booze turns the nicest people into rage filled lunatics. I just had a relapse myself that resulted in being fired. Let's put this all behind us and move forward.
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Join Date: Dec 2012
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I'm so sorry for what happened to you. I wish you a speedy recovery. And only sober days ahead. I got pretty busted up myself the other night,I blacked out,fell,and got banged up quite nicely. Yesterday was hell on earth. I'm still reeling from that one. But,better 2day. And hanging on for my life. Working on my recovery again. One day,one moment at a time. Will be praying for you.
A simple guy making his way
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Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: Maine
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A new day today. Making the doctors appointment for my nose. Vision is blurry. Head hurts.
But this has changed me. This is the worst thing that ever happened. That should be telling me something. And it does.
You all have been with me for this rise. You will get to see something good come from this. I promise myself that.
Thank you for your support and love. It mean so very much to me.
Off to work to lie lie lie.
K
But this has changed me. This is the worst thing that ever happened. That should be telling me something. And it does.
You all have been with me for this rise. You will get to see something good come from this. I promise myself that.
Thank you for your support and love. It mean so very much to me.
Off to work to lie lie lie.
K
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Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: NJ
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Simply say you had an accident and had to go to the hospital. It's not a lie.
And yes we are here for you. I remember how helpful you were to me during the recent hurricane, i so enjoyed reading your posts, thinking this guy can do it and he lives near the Long Island medium.
And yes we are here for you. I remember how helpful you were to me during the recent hurricane, i so enjoyed reading your posts, thinking this guy can do it and he lives near the Long Island medium.
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Join Date: Oct 2012
Location: In the world in my eyes...Somewhere I've never been before...
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Hi, Ken.
Do not overthink what you have to tell people about your accident, focus on sobriety, your health, and fixing all this. I once hit the floor of the swimming pool with my forehead, and had a big bruise after it. I was tired to explain that it wasn't from somebody's fist.
Take care. We are here for you)
Do not overthink what you have to tell people about your accident, focus on sobriety, your health, and fixing all this. I once hit the floor of the swimming pool with my forehead, and had a big bruise after it. I was tired to explain that it wasn't from somebody's fist.
Take care. We are here for you)
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Join Date: Aug 2012
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Hang in there today Ken. We're here for you.
I once chased an old boyfriend around his apartment with a butcher knife. It was a close call. He called 911 and I hightailed it outta there so fast before they came. So I know how low we can go when we drink
I once chased an old boyfriend around his apartment with a butcher knife. It was a close call. He called 911 and I hightailed it outta there so fast before they came. So I know how low we can go when we drink
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Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: NJ
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And i hope you have a better day. Don't wallow in the incident, move forward. I know you are not going to forget the horror or embarrasment, but living inside it wont help you move forward either.
Feel free to join in the gratitude section. I find something good to be grateful for every day.
Feel free to join in the gratitude section. I find something good to be grateful for every day.
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Join Date: Oct 2012
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Good luck at work today Ken! Hope you're feeling better soon. This too shall pass. Try not to beat yourself up too much and learn from the episode. You can probably come up with a very basic story for work-glad you're well enough to go in. Make sure you get checked out, especially the blurry vision as it could be a sign of a concussion!
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Join Date: Aug 2012
Location: Michigan
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Ken, so sorry to hear what happened. But you came here, so you're not giving up. So many of us have been there, done that in one way or another. We understand what you're feeling, and will not judge you.
What's done is done, you can't change it. As hard as it may be, you need to forgive yourself, and start moving forward. The only way to guarantee that this will never happen again, is to get sober. Like you, I am not a violent, angry person when I'm sober, but when I'm drunk I turn into a different person too. I understand the guilt and shame you're feeling. Once again, forgive yourself and make some much needed changes.
You have a very large family here that has your back!
Hang in there friend!
Jaz
What's done is done, you can't change it. As hard as it may be, you need to forgive yourself, and start moving forward. The only way to guarantee that this will never happen again, is to get sober. Like you, I am not a violent, angry person when I'm sober, but when I'm drunk I turn into a different person too. I understand the guilt and shame you're feeling. Once again, forgive yourself and make some much needed changes.
You have a very large family here that has your back!
Hang in there friend!
Jaz
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Sorry to hear what happened but I'm glad that you're going to use it as a springboard to personal growth and self understanding. Alcohol isn't bad in and of itself but it doesn't mix well with folks like us. I'm pretty laid back and would never think of punching someone, but about 15 years ago my GF was drunk and screaming at me and I grabbed her arm and shoved her away. The next day I learned I grabbed her hard enough to leave a nasty bruise, yet I don't even remember it. That's the only time I ever verged on violence while drunk but I hated myself for a couple years. But what's done is done, all you can do is make sure to do better in the future.
I want to be encouraging, but I have to get one thing off my chest; it's really really stupid to hate being gay! There's not a thing wrong with it. It's like hating yourself for being white or having blue eyes, it's just what you are. Accepting what you are is important, I think.
I want to be encouraging, but I have to get one thing off my chest; it's really really stupid to hate being gay! There's not a thing wrong with it. It's like hating yourself for being white or having blue eyes, it's just what you are. Accepting what you are is important, I think.
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Originally Posted by MythOfSisyphus 
I want to be encouraging, but I have to get one thing off my chest; it's really really stupid to hate being gay! There's not a thing wrong with it. It's like hating yourself for being white or having blue eyes, it's just what you are. Accepting what you are is important, I think.
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