mckats

DAY 4!!!

Thanks for all the support...spent this week cleaning my room....

Found 24 bottles of beer empty and another 7 full lol

Feel great and will update as we approach the weekend....

My drunk days were usually Thursday - Saturday.

Excited and nervous

M

mckats

Still sober!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

artsoul

Excellent job - and you've already gotten through your first weekend sober!

ReadyAndAble

Way to go, mckats. There is no reason you ever have to go through that agony again. Keep up the good work.

soberlicious

yay mckats! stay strong! I'm glad you decided to quit.
The thing about moderation was, for me, I didn't want to drink 2 drinks. I wanted to be blotto. Moderation was pointless for me because that meant I couldn't get drunk. It was easier for me to quit for good.

as far as partying like a rock star...actually many real life "rockstars" have quit and more and more are quitting all the time...even the rock stars are seeing the lie of addiction.

Terminally Unique

The more one yearns to drink moderately, the less likely one is to succeed at it. By the very admission that they yearn to drink moderately, people are admitting that they can't do it. If they could moderate, they wouldn't yearn to, they would just do it.

The remarkable thing is that PhD's and MD's actually believe that this is not the case, and that they, having never been addicted, can teach others how to do it! Some people certainly "mature out" of chronic alcohol consumption - I have seen it - but they certainly didn't learn it from an addictions counselor. It just came naturally to them, so to speak.

Since addicted people are sitting ducks for any suggestion that they might be able to avoid actually quitting, the addictions "treatment" field is a huckster's paradise.

mckats

Thanks to alL!!!

Feeling alot better....also on day 5 of nicotine quitting ahahha that was due as well after 6 long years....

I found quitting both has been easier than one or the other as they were triggers for each other..if that makes sense.

GOD BLESS YOU ALL

I have a Bachelor Party to go to on Saturday...FML.....and then turkey on sunday!

Have a good thanksgiving (Canadian Peeps)!!

Dee74

Glad things are going well McKats

Remember you don't 'have' to go to the stag do if you feel it's not going to be good for your recovery - or you can leave early

Happy Thanksgiving to you

D

CaiHong

Mccats, Just read this thread

Read like an interesting novel.
When you yelled at your girlfriend early on in your attempt to modify your drinking. You said that you were disappointed in yourself for having a few drinks I immediately thought you were annoyed that you couldn't have more.

Just curious, in retrospect which was it?

Thanks so much for keeping us updated, as one poster pointed out this sharing of your experience is a help to us all.

Love this forum for helping me to stay sober
CaiHong

mckats

Naw it was more the guilt that I had let myself down.

Bachelor party went off without a hitch! everyone was wasted but i held my own.

Good luck staying sober everyone and god bless!!

M

mckats

Boy dandy did I have a wild time since I last posted.

- October - December - Partying with the "works" as in heavy alcohol consumption...sleeping in my car....party favours etc....

Somewhere along that time I made a decision to stop drinking as PART of a bigger plan.

Then on December 1st I woke up and realized I was now 27 years old and did not like the man I had become. As of December 1st, 2011

I realized that SELF AWARENESS of all mental thoughts and processes was the key and thus:
-No drinking
-Quit smoking
-Quit the favours
-Stopped Porn
-Read More
-Staying positive
-Eating healthy
-Working out consistently
-Meditate
-Reading - lots of buddhist/self help literature
-Dumped loving gf as relationship was toxic
-Set professional, personal, physical goals
-TOOK RESPONSIBILITY FOR MY LIFE

I realized that I couldn't quit one without the others...

Guess what since December 1st I HAVE SUCCEEDED IN THESE

Benefits:

-Down 15 pounds
-No more depression
-Normal sleep patterns
-"Smarter" like wtf I cant' believe how much that destructive lifestyle messed with my intelligence
-I'm nicer and more positive
-I've been serving others - helping out, giving advice, talking.

I can't help but think that way back in 09' SR planted the seed that makes this possible.

Day 60 today and counting!!! Watch out world.

THANKS TO ALL!!!!!

artsoul

Wow.... that's wonderful, mckats! Congratulations on 60 days!

One of the greatest rewards for me in sobriety is feeling good about myself and I think you really nailed it on that one! It's great to share in your success today!

Anna

Yay, be very proud of yourself!

Dee74

congratulations mckats

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Dee74

congratulations mckats

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mckats

one more recommendation that helped me....

keep a Journal....omg sooo clutch to help remember thoughts and emotions through this

and thank you guys for all your support your kind words mean sooo much to me !!

thanks!

Pigtails

Thanks for updating us, McKats. I cringed when I read about your efforts to moderate your drinking because I too had been there, done that. And then it just spirals more and more out of control. It looks like you hit your bottom and you are serious about a better life-- congratulations!!! Great job on your 60 days! Keep going!!

Dazee

Yes thank you for coming back and being so open about your struggles. For us newbies (I'm day 4) there may still be those lingering questions about moderation. Friday-Sunday was also my pattern except I kept it all secret at my house. Your story is helpful going into my first weekend.
For myself, I don't think I can drink in moderation. I drink to get plastered even if I try to trick myself into only wanting a couple.

mckats

Good look bro!!!


Another sober wkd for me!!

Jitterbugg

Hi Mckats...You are exactly like me 10 years ago. I live in Toronto too, had a great job in finance, partied like a rockstar from thursday to saturday. Things started to change for me though. I started to become a mean drunk. I would snap and lose my temper on the slightest thing. I would pic fights with friends and strangers. I was miserable the whole work week and my performance was really suffering because the weekend bender hangovers lasted longer and longer.
Pretty soon I was drinking daily...showing up late to work...and shirking responsibilities. I quit the job (before they could fire me) and drank all day, spent all my money. ended up penniless and in rehab.

Get help now! I wish I did at 26 instead of 34. You'll save a lot of anguish.