Any Moms Out There Keeping Sane While Not Using Part 28
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DAY by DAY - DAILY MEDITATIONS
May 22, 2007
Accepting Tragedy
Even clean and sober, there may be tragic experiences in our lives. Sometimes there is just no logical explanation. Unexplained misery seems cruel, and we wonder how God can do this to God's children. We don't know the answers.
We Know that many of our problems are of our own making. But what do we do about acts of God? It is said that our greatest burdens may also be our greatest gifts and that the most tragic experience can help us learn to be of service and at one with our Creator.
Am I capable of accepting tragedy?
I can't, my Higher Power can - and will - if I allow it.
Accepting Tragedy
Even clean and sober, there may be tragic experiences in our lives. Sometimes there is just no logical explanation. Unexplained misery seems cruel, and we wonder how God can do this to God's children. We don't know the answers.
We Know that many of our problems are of our own making. But what do we do about acts of God? It is said that our greatest burdens may also be our greatest gifts and that the most tragic experience can help us learn to be of service and at one with our Creator.
Am I capable of accepting tragedy?
I can't, my Higher Power can - and will - if I allow it.
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Good morning Lizz,
Good morning all....
Good morning Candy welcome to day one, I know these first few days are going to be tought ones, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
Keep posting we'll be here.
(((((((Candy))))))))
(((((((((((((mommies)))))))))))))
Good morning all....
Good morning Candy welcome to day one, I know these first few days are going to be tought ones, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
Keep posting we'll be here.
(((((((Candy))))))))
(((((((((((((mommies)))))))))))))
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Good Morning Ladies.
Anna, I really hope that you do not close this thread. It is because of this thread that I joined SR. When I first found this site, the first thread I saw was the Mommy's thread. I said to myself....NO WAY! You mean there are other Moms with alcohol addictions? I never knew another drunk Mom until this thread.
Please do not close it! You never know who this thread reaches!
Anna, I really hope that you do not close this thread. It is because of this thread that I joined SR. When I first found this site, the first thread I saw was the Mommy's thread. I said to myself....NO WAY! You mean there are other Moms with alcohol addictions? I never knew another drunk Mom until this thread.
Please do not close it! You never know who this thread reaches!
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Hi to all and this is yet another day 1 for me
Hello everyone,
I just wanted to introduce myself. I've been drinking for so many years - since college. About 14 years ago my husband and I decided to stop drinking every evening (cocktail hour you know) but I couldn't stop and have been drinking secretly (not every day, but most days) since then. I feel horrible guilt, of course, but evidently it hasn't been enough to make me stop. Finally, last fall, I blurted out the truth to my 14-year-old daughter, so she knows, but thank goodness has not told my husband or my son. I told her at the beginning of the year that I was quitting, but of course I haven't done it. Last night she caught me drinking vodka and this morning confronted me about it. She's appalled that I can't seem to stop - that I have no shred of self-discipline. I'm determined to quit - I really, really want to. I hope this site can help me, just knowing there are others out there going through the same thing. Other mothers, especially. I look forward to talking with you all and getting to know you. As my daughter said when she left for school, "Have a clean day!"
I just wanted to introduce myself. I've been drinking for so many years - since college. About 14 years ago my husband and I decided to stop drinking every evening (cocktail hour you know) but I couldn't stop and have been drinking secretly (not every day, but most days) since then. I feel horrible guilt, of course, but evidently it hasn't been enough to make me stop. Finally, last fall, I blurted out the truth to my 14-year-old daughter, so she knows, but thank goodness has not told my husband or my son. I told her at the beginning of the year that I was quitting, but of course I haven't done it. Last night she caught me drinking vodka and this morning confronted me about it. She's appalled that I can't seem to stop - that I have no shred of self-discipline. I'm determined to quit - I really, really want to. I hope this site can help me, just knowing there are others out there going through the same thing. Other mothers, especially. I look forward to talking with you all and getting to know you. As my daughter said when she left for school, "Have a clean day!"
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Hi Shirley, and welcome!
Wow...sleep sure was nice! And needed. I found by about 7:00 last night, one of the kids could say something to me and it was taking me about 30 seconds to process what they were saying....
I will post more on my saga with hubby later. For now, I just need some time to be me and not think about it too much. There's alot of thinking to be done down the road.
My latest mini crisis is the cheeta. The specialist has strongly suggested she take a year off from cheerleading. Her arm is really messed up and the constant tumbling that she does just can't be done anymore. She's devastated and told me last night she's worried about gaining weight!!! Probably because of her hefty mom!!! Last night every time I walked past her room, she was doing crunches. Me being the worry wart that I am was bothered by it. Made a note to myself to keep a close eye on eating/exercise habits....
Gonna go grab some coffee and I'll be back.
Wow...sleep sure was nice! And needed. I found by about 7:00 last night, one of the kids could say something to me and it was taking me about 30 seconds to process what they were saying....
I will post more on my saga with hubby later. For now, I just need some time to be me and not think about it too much. There's alot of thinking to be done down the road.
My latest mini crisis is the cheeta. The specialist has strongly suggested she take a year off from cheerleading. Her arm is really messed up and the constant tumbling that she does just can't be done anymore. She's devastated and told me last night she's worried about gaining weight!!! Probably because of her hefty mom!!! Last night every time I walked past her room, she was doing crunches. Me being the worry wart that I am was bothered by it. Made a note to myself to keep a close eye on eating/exercise habits....
Gonna go grab some coffee and I'll be back.
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Thanks for getting things back on track ladies.
This is an amazing thread and it's great for everyone involved.
But, I'm not a babysitter and if the sparring continues, I'm not going to let it go on. If someone posts something you don't like, please ignore it and move on.
PM me and let me know and if it breaks the rules, I'll remove the post.
This is an amazing thread and it's great for everyone involved.
But, I'm not a babysitter and if the sparring continues, I'm not going to let it go on. If someone posts something you don't like, please ignore it and move on.
PM me and let me know and if it breaks the rules, I'll remove the post.
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((((NYC))))) Good Mornin!!
WOW......I had to read back through 5 pages!!! All I can say is....WOW!
(((((Ruby))))) Prayers and hugs comin atcha'! Be strong and protect yourself!!! I have been there, done that....still have the T-Shirt.....first the plate of food...next a hard shove into the car......whats next? I see a pattern.......Either insist he gets help or get out.....Please!!!!!!!
(((((CS))))) How are you today hun? Dont beat yourself up, pick yourself up instead! Several of us mommas are going through some major BS right now and things are so hard. We are here for you and Hell NO we arent mad at you!!!
((((Beezy)))))) How are ya sweets????
((((Jules)))) ((((C'est)))) ((((Petie)))) ((((Laura)))) ((((Ig)))) ((((Jackie))))) And All my Mommas, to go back and respond to everything would take an entire new thread LOL. Ya all know I lurve you!!!!!
((((((Ayla))))) Will be returning a pm in a little bit sista.
(((Blueberry)))) Welcome!!!! Feel free to keep jumping in and sharing, this is a fantastic group of ladies here!!!!
Ok so ANY word at all on Misti and Kimmie???? I worry ya know?!
(((((Tam))))) I never did any programs or rehab, other then if you count SMART online. I would really like to get involved in f2f but with my siezures, until I get my full meds back, other then work, I stick pretty much to home.
Well, when I went to have my talk with Mom and Dad the other nite, Mom asked me to put it off....I was going to until I was standing in the kitchen with my 13 yr old and once again, my Dad made a out of line comment....I couldnt hold back. I let it all out (calmly for the most part) I set some new boundaries and told them that if we could not work together as adults to hold those boundaries, that I would need to consider moving out. Mom apoligized to me and even got aggrevated with my Dad because he could not see where his comments to my son were inapropriate. I think we finally got through to him, but we shall see.
I woke up at 2 am. yesterday with a 103 fever and what felt like a razorblade in my throat.....off to the ER...Long story short, URI and Bronchitis. They gave me some heavy duty antibiotics and took me off work until at least Wednesday or my fever is gone for 24 hours.....I feel like HELL!!!! I am going to eat a scrambled egg so I can take my medicine and lay back down for a bit.
Heads held high Mommas!!!! Have a wonderful day.....stay strong!!!!!
Love Liss
WOW......I had to read back through 5 pages!!! All I can say is....WOW!
(((((Ruby))))) Prayers and hugs comin atcha'! Be strong and protect yourself!!! I have been there, done that....still have the T-Shirt.....first the plate of food...next a hard shove into the car......whats next? I see a pattern.......Either insist he gets help or get out.....Please!!!!!!!
(((((CS))))) How are you today hun? Dont beat yourself up, pick yourself up instead! Several of us mommas are going through some major BS right now and things are so hard. We are here for you and Hell NO we arent mad at you!!!
((((Beezy)))))) How are ya sweets????
((((Jules)))) ((((C'est)))) ((((Petie)))) ((((Laura)))) ((((Ig)))) ((((Jackie))))) And All my Mommas, to go back and respond to everything would take an entire new thread LOL. Ya all know I lurve you!!!!!
((((((Ayla))))) Will be returning a pm in a little bit sista.
(((Blueberry)))) Welcome!!!! Feel free to keep jumping in and sharing, this is a fantastic group of ladies here!!!!
Ok so ANY word at all on Misti and Kimmie???? I worry ya know?!
(((((Tam))))) I never did any programs or rehab, other then if you count SMART online. I would really like to get involved in f2f but with my siezures, until I get my full meds back, other then work, I stick pretty much to home.
Well, when I went to have my talk with Mom and Dad the other nite, Mom asked me to put it off....I was going to until I was standing in the kitchen with my 13 yr old and once again, my Dad made a out of line comment....I couldnt hold back. I let it all out (calmly for the most part) I set some new boundaries and told them that if we could not work together as adults to hold those boundaries, that I would need to consider moving out. Mom apoligized to me and even got aggrevated with my Dad because he could not see where his comments to my son were inapropriate. I think we finally got through to him, but we shall see.
I woke up at 2 am. yesterday with a 103 fever and what felt like a razorblade in my throat.....off to the ER...Long story short, URI and Bronchitis. They gave me some heavy duty antibiotics and took me off work until at least Wednesday or my fever is gone for 24 hours.....I feel like HELL!!!! I am going to eat a scrambled egg so I can take my medicine and lay back down for a bit.
Heads held high Mommas!!!! Have a wonderful day.....stay strong!!!!!
Love Liss
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Big enough for Beezy and I to work our magic...with an electric fence to keep Ayla out (she burns things! lol) and stocked with frying pans!!!!
NYC...I didn't get your invitation to chat until this morning...bummer!!!!
NYC...I didn't get your invitation to chat until this morning...bummer!!!!
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Originally Posted by c'est la vie 
Considering the fact that an innocent Private Message was distorted and posted to create a rage on this thread in the not so distant past, I would say that talking directly to you about anything is NOT a good idea. I have generally passed over your posts since then, but this issue was hard to miss. I think its time to use my IGNORE button for the first time.
As per the "finding my part"... When I was doing my 4th step and came across abuse, my sponsor said that there is no excuse for abuse. Period.
As per the "finding my part"... When I was doing my 4th step and came across abuse, my sponsor said that there is no excuse for abuse. Period.
I begged Anna to remove c'est's post but she refused and I have to defend myself.
I DO NOT support the abuse of women UNDER ANY circumstances and again apologise to Ruby T and all of you except c'est. I have left SR now so that is an end to it.
All the best Kevin.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...73-bye-me.html
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Hi everyone I am back for a moment then need to get little one up for school...................
Ruby.....hang in there and know that I am praying for you today......thanks for the advise on the border collie........we have an older border collie that is ll and she is good friends with my cat........and only chases her out of friendship......they usually sleep together but not since we got the one yr old pup...........but she protects the cat by letting me know if the pup is up to no good.....................kinda funny .....and a help.......
As for the rest of you......have a good day and I will talk to you later............................I am holding out ok just for today............................Little Penguin
Ruby.....hang in there and know that I am praying for you today......thanks for the advise on the border collie........we have an older border collie that is ll and she is good friends with my cat........and only chases her out of friendship......they usually sleep together but not since we got the one yr old pup...........but she protects the cat by letting me know if the pup is up to no good.....................kinda funny .....and a help.......
As for the rest of you......have a good day and I will talk to you later............................I am holding out ok just for today............................Little Penguin
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