24 Hour Recovery Connections Part 394
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Good Morning Everyone. 24 more sober hours for me please. I won't be drinking today.
Congratulations to the milestoners today and those committing to another day of sobriety. Well done.
Praying for those who are struggling, sick and/or sad.
7:10 a.m.
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Congratulations to the milestoners today and those committing to another day of sobriety. Well done.
Praying for those who are struggling, sick and/or sad.
7:10 a.m.
EST
Hope you two had a good day out on the water.
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Originally Posted by Kris47 
24 more please, Dear God.
My days are a bit of a challenge right now.
I hold you all close in my heart.
My days are a bit of a challenge right now.
I hold you all close in my heart.
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Join Date: Jan 2016
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I need some advice please.
One of my besties is turning 40 in August. She knows I don't go out and drink, she's knows about my recovery and has been very supportive. Well her husband sent me a text this morning inviting me and my husband to her Birthday Cruise- on a Friday night in August.
"We're going to get together and take one of those harbor cruises with dinner and drinks...and maybe some dancing (if we drink enough).."
I don't know how to respond to this. I'm surprised that he doesn't know I don't drink (but I respect the fact that she never shared that with him.) For starters, we have never had anyone put the boys to bed. Our youngest is 3 and while they also have a 3 year old who spends the night many times at her parent's house, my parents have never done that and I'm not sure my youngest is ready for it (very attached to me still.)
Secondly and most obviously, I don't want to go out at night and be around drinkers. I don't do that stuff anymore, I haven't gone out for a late night since I had kids honestly and especially since getting sober 13 months ago. I know some people can still live that kind of lifestyle and just not drink but it doesn't appeal to me.
I don't know how to say "no" in a text message.
I know that his wife will understand because she knows me well enough and knows I don't go out for these types of things.
I guess I just don't know how to respond in these situations. Any advice? I'm not good with wording as I tend to overthink these things. Thanks guys...
One of my besties is turning 40 in August. She knows I don't go out and drink, she's knows about my recovery and has been very supportive. Well her husband sent me a text this morning inviting me and my husband to her Birthday Cruise- on a Friday night in August.
"We're going to get together and take one of those harbor cruises with dinner and drinks...and maybe some dancing (if we drink enough).."
I don't know how to respond to this. I'm surprised that he doesn't know I don't drink (but I respect the fact that she never shared that with him.) For starters, we have never had anyone put the boys to bed. Our youngest is 3 and while they also have a 3 year old who spends the night many times at her parent's house, my parents have never done that and I'm not sure my youngest is ready for it (very attached to me still.)
Secondly and most obviously, I don't want to go out at night and be around drinkers. I don't do that stuff anymore, I haven't gone out for a late night since I had kids honestly and especially since getting sober 13 months ago. I know some people can still live that kind of lifestyle and just not drink but it doesn't appeal to me.
I don't know how to say "no" in a text message.
I know that his wife will understand because she knows me well enough and knows I don't go out for these types of things.
I guess I just don't know how to respond in these situations. Any advice? I'm not good with wording as I tend to overthink these things. Thanks guys...
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Hi Sunflower! 
I'm presuming you've decided not to go?
I wouldn't go if it were me. That kind of party is just way out of my comfort zones and it sounds like alcohol will be just everywhere with no escape.
I'm assuming it's your method of declining the invitation that is stressing you out?
If it's a surprise party and your friend doesn't know about it then your main contact is the husband yes? I would call him back and make a big deal of the boys and be very apologetic but you daren't leave them. Then explain properly to your friend once the party is over.
If your friend knows about the party then you can call her and tell her exactly what you've explained to us. Absolutely no shame in that and I'm sure she will completely understand. You and your friend can perhaps have a nice special day out together instead.
Safety first dear.
I honestly think they will be very sweet about it ❤❤❤
I'm presuming you've decided not to go?
I wouldn't go if it were me. That kind of party is just way out of my comfort zones and it sounds like alcohol will be just everywhere with no escape.
I'm assuming it's your method of declining the invitation that is stressing you out?
If it's a surprise party and your friend doesn't know about it then your main contact is the husband yes? I would call him back and make a big deal of the boys and be very apologetic but you daren't leave them. Then explain properly to your friend once the party is over.
If your friend knows about the party then you can call her and tell her exactly what you've explained to us. Absolutely no shame in that and I'm sure she will completely understand. You and your friend can perhaps have a nice special day out together instead.
Safety first dear.
I honestly think they will be very sweet about it ❤❤❤
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