Class of April 2018 Part One
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Join Date: May 2017
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Just found out that my 8 year old daughter’s play friend is going to have to switch schools for the rest of the school year due to family reasons.
I offered to watch her after school until her mom gets off of work for the rest of the school year.
I’m starting to question myself. Is this a good or a bad idea?
On one hand besides after school lessons and sports that she has, we are always home. I’d have to bring her friend with us to after school activities. No big deal. My daughter is like an only child. Sibling grown and out of house. She’s always bored and plays along really nicely with this friend. So that would be nice.
On the other hand I have to be logical. I’m on day 2 sober. I’m serious in my commitment but... it’s day 2! When I drink during the week I am useless. I make my daughter miss after school lessons because of my drinking a lot.
Am I making too big of a commitment here? Maybe If I go ahead with this it will give me even more reason (like I need any more reasons) to stay on the sober path? Or am I setting myself up for failure?
Thanks,
Joyful
I offered to watch her after school until her mom gets off of work for the rest of the school year.
I’m starting to question myself. Is this a good or a bad idea?
On one hand besides after school lessons and sports that she has, we are always home. I’d have to bring her friend with us to after school activities. No big deal. My daughter is like an only child. Sibling grown and out of house. She’s always bored and plays along really nicely with this friend. So that would be nice.
On the other hand I have to be logical. I’m on day 2 sober. I’m serious in my commitment but... it’s day 2! When I drink during the week I am useless. I make my daughter miss after school lessons because of my drinking a lot.
Am I making too big of a commitment here? Maybe If I go ahead with this it will give me even more reason (like I need any more reasons) to stay on the sober path? Or am I setting myself up for failure?
Thanks,
Joyful
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Originally Posted by Bumblebee2 
Well here I am, feeling the terrible feelings of day 1. Joining and needing support
I was sober 11 wonderful days in March.
Then I decided to have 2 beers in a social situation and haven’t stopped ...
I relate with this class do much.
Chickchick i have two kids..being a mom can be hard work
Nicole.. your determination is amazing, and makes me feel more comfortable trying again. Here’s to day 1!
Donny... I am also from the Pittsburgh area
Dee... you are amazing and congrats to 11 years!!!
I was sober 11 wonderful days in March.
Then I decided to have 2 beers in a social situation and haven’t stopped ...
I relate with this class do much.
Chickchick i have two kids..being a mom can be hard work
Nicole.. your determination is amazing, and makes me feel more comfortable trying again. Here’s to day 1!
Donny... I am also from the Pittsburgh area
Dee... you are amazing and congrats to 11 years!!!
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Hi Joyfulnewme 
I dunno - sounds like a nice thing you're doing for this girl and your daughter.
I guess the worst case scenario is it could make you feel like drinking on a bad day - but would you really?
You always have the choice to say no and the support here to help you stay strong
D
I dunno - sounds like a nice thing you're doing for this girl and your daughter.
I guess the worst case scenario is it could make you feel like drinking on a bad day - but would you really?
You always have the choice to say no and the support here to help you stay strong
D
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Join Date: Apr 2018
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Be strong today Strawberry18! Keep busy and don't drink, right?
I took a long nap and had a good friend over this evening. While I didn't tell her what I was really thinking about alcohol (and me) I shared some other things about my life feeling in chaos. And I talked about how ****** I had felt all day. She was a good friend, listened well and offered some sound advice. But she is a drinking friend and I wonder if those friends don't want you to quit drinking because you have fun doing it together. hhhmmm....
Finally going to bed. Looking forward to starting my Tuesday ~ Day 2 ~ with a workout and some good vibes for the day.
I am very thankful to have had this forum today. Thank you to everyone here.
I took a long nap and had a good friend over this evening. While I didn't tell her what I was really thinking about alcohol (and me) I shared some other things about my life feeling in chaos. And I talked about how ****** I had felt all day. She was a good friend, listened well and offered some sound advice. But she is a drinking friend and I wonder if those friends don't want you to quit drinking because you have fun doing it together. hhhmmm....
Finally going to bed. Looking forward to starting my Tuesday ~ Day 2 ~ with a workout and some good vibes for the day.
I am very thankful to have had this forum today. Thank you to everyone here.
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The start of day 29 for me
Had bad sleep last night- it was my dogs fault! But up early, made some breakfast, checked my bank balance and pleasantly surprised. I've more money at this time of the month than I've ever had it absolutely ages!!! I've about 2 weeks to payday and all bills paid with £150 left. That might not sound much to people but normally I'm on a third of that by now and wondering what I can sell to get more cash! This has really cheered me up!:-)
Hope everyone has a great sober day
Had bad sleep last night- it was my dogs fault! But up early, made some breakfast, checked my bank balance and pleasantly surprised. I've more money at this time of the month than I've ever had it absolutely ages!!! I've about 2 weeks to payday and all bills paid with £150 left. That might not sound much to people but normally I'm on a third of that by now and wondering what I can sell to get more cash! This has really cheered me up!:-)
Hope everyone has a great sober day
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That's a lovely thing to do joyful forme.
Your daughter will be happy your friend will be very grateful and maybe it will help you stay sober. I know I don't drink if I have to do kids stuff. Sometimes I think it doesn't matter why we don't drink in the early days as long as we just don't. As time goes on we get stronger and it becomes normal to not drink.
Your daughter will be happy your friend will be very grateful and maybe it will help you stay sober. I know I don't drink if I have to do kids stuff. Sometimes I think it doesn't matter why we don't drink in the early days as long as we just don't. As time goes on we get stronger and it becomes normal to not drink.
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Bugger Bugger i caved in last night and had a drink, why can't it be little easier like not smoking. sry dee its week 12 for no smoking i got ahead of myself and it aint 15 days anymore!
sick to my stomach that i let myself down and my daughter. So i have to restart this today before my time runs out and i wont be able to go visit daughter at the birth. What a wast of a detox! sry
sick to my stomach that i let myself down and my daughter. So i have to restart this today before my time runs out and i wont be able to go visit daughter at the birth. What a wast of a detox! sry
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Originally Posted by Erratic
Bugger Bugger i caved in last night and had a drink, why can't it be little easier like not smoking. sry dee its week 12 for no smoking i got ahead of myself and it aint 15 days anymore!
sick to my stomach that i let myself down and my daughter. So i have to restart this today before my time runs out and i wont be able to go visit daughter at the birth. What a wast of a detox! sry
sick to my stomach that i let myself down and my daughter. So i have to restart this today before my time runs out and i wont be able to go visit daughter at the birth. What a wast of a detox! sry
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Erratic...don't apologize. you are doing great. a slip is a slip....don't let it get you down. just get back to it. great job on 15 days....you can do this.
take time to think about your thoughts as you approached that drink. did you rationalize? did you argue with your conscience and give in? take time to think about it because it will likely happen again, and you will want to overpower it next time
take time to think about your thoughts as you approached that drink. did you rationalize? did you argue with your conscience and give in? take time to think about it because it will likely happen again, and you will want to overpower it next time
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Originally Posted by 3trees
Erratic...don't apologize. you are doing great. a slip is a slip....don't let it get you down. just get back to it. great job on 15 days....you can do this.
take time to think about your thoughts as you approached that drink. did you rationalize? did you argue with your conscience and give in? take time to think about it because it will likely happen again, and you will want to overpower it next time
take time to think about your thoughts as you approached that drink. did you rationalize? did you argue with your conscience and give in? take time to think about it because it will likely happen again, and you will want to overpower it next time
Say cheese!
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Thanks guys, ive dusted myself down and took myself out with my dogs to get out of the self pity and anxiety to what i have done.
U are all stars and thanks for your support strawberry , 3trees, lovehoops x
I will keep checking in here today and not hide away like i have done in the past.
hugs to all x
U are all stars and thanks for your support strawberry , 3trees, lovehoops x
I will keep checking in here today and not hide away like i have done in the past.
hugs to all x
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