The Power Of Sobriety Thread (POST!) #4
non-drinker
Join Date: Jul 2009
Location: Milwaukee, Wisconsin, USA
Posts: 13,845
Fran is now home! Got to pop-in and say "Hi" yesterday afternoon. Even got to meet one of the nurses that will be in on a daily basis. So good to see her back where she belongs. Thanks for all of your concern.
Have a great day, all!
Have a great day, all!
Member
Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: New England, USA
Posts: 3,958
Hi everyone,
Fbl - Great news on Fran’s return home.
I’m living the sober life here. Work is good. Family is good. House is good.
Yet I could relate to some of the conversation about feeling moody. Here’s what I’m learning: low moods will come and go. I don’t need to fix them. I can’t fix them. I can accept them by downshifting to a slower pace, changing my expectations, accepting the outcome, and practicing gratitude. It’s a real gift that I no longer need to drink because I’m in a slump!!
Halloween was great in my new neighborhood. My friends came over with their kids. It warmed my heart to have the whole crew together in my home.
I hope everyone has a good day!
Fbl - Great news on Fran’s return home.
I’m living the sober life here. Work is good. Family is good. House is good.
Yet I could relate to some of the conversation about feeling moody. Here’s what I’m learning: low moods will come and go. I don’t need to fix them. I can’t fix them. I can accept them by downshifting to a slower pace, changing my expectations, accepting the outcome, and practicing gratitude. It’s a real gift that I no longer need to drink because I’m in a slump!!
Halloween was great in my new neighborhood. My friends came over with their kids. It warmed my heart to have the whole crew together in my home.
I hope everyone has a good day!
Member
Join Date: Nov 2016
Location: Canada
Posts: 6,869
I'm very happy for you FormerBeerLover! 
I'm trying to have more gratitude too Gleefan.
It's not natural for me but I'm getting better at it every day =)
I couldn't find anything to be grateful for in the first days.
Now, you have to stop me when I make a list lol
Have a good November start everybody
I'm trying to have more gratitude too Gleefan.
It's not natural for me but I'm getting better at it every day =)
I couldn't find anything to be grateful for in the first days.
Now, you have to stop me when I make a list lol
Have a good November start everybody
p***enger
Join Date: Nov 2012
Location: NYC
Posts: 19,044
I'm not posting much lately, due to being caught up in my own little life and the concerns of a few others. Things have been more than ordinarily busy, and stressful, but I'm not drinking.
Glee & JL, I'm glad you & your families had fun on Halloween. NYC had the attack and that injected a dose of real terror into the festivities. I'm just glad the police got the guy right away and he survived to be put on trial.
Glee & JL, I'm glad you & your families had fun on Halloween. NYC had the attack and that injected a dose of real terror into the festivities. I'm just glad the police got the guy right away and he survived to be put on trial.
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Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: Ashburn, VA
Posts: 30,196
I’m pretty swamped myself. I’m not exactly gushing forth wisdom: I’m too busy panting from exertion to have anything of substance to say! Not bad—just busy.
School is going somewhat better; in some areas I see that this redoubled Herculean effort is beginning to pay off—just a bit, but a tangible bit nevertheless.
One question, Courage: awhile ago you mentioned being in a good mood, but were reluctant to discuss it because you were afraid it was somehow off-kilter.
How are you doing now? Has the stress and fast pace squashed it, or is it still providing a nice lift?
It’s a really nice day here—feels like spring. As soon as I get the house picked up I’m going to go outside.
School is going somewhat better; in some areas I see that this redoubled Herculean effort is beginning to pay off—just a bit, but a tangible bit nevertheless.
One question, Courage: awhile ago you mentioned being in a good mood, but were reluctant to discuss it because you were afraid it was somehow off-kilter.
How are you doing now? Has the stress and fast pace squashed it, or is it still providing a nice lift?
It’s a really nice day here—feels like spring. As soon as I get the house picked up I’m going to go outside.
Member
Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: New England, USA
Posts: 3,958
CK - Congrats on 11 months. Isn’t it nice to take a step back and see how far you’ve come?
I’ve been busy too. There’s just a lot to do. I’m in a good, steady stride - things challenging enough to keep me engaged, but not so much that they are overwhelming.
It takes me a lot of work for me to keep my boundaries just right, in the middle of the road, on the beam. The nice thing about accumulating some time in recovery is that this work becomes rather automatic, a hum in the background. For me being accountable keeps the motor humming.
I’ve been working on tempering justifiable anger I’ve been feeling over some situations that I cannot control. When I actually catch myself, I try to let my higher power in. Usually though I don’t catch myself until I’ve already told everyone I’m right. The thing I find tricky about justifiable anger is that these are things it makes sense to be angry about.
Step six reminds me: “Self-righteous anger can also be very enjoyable. In a perverse way we can actually take satisfaction from the fact that many people annoy us, for it brings a comfortable feeling of superiority.”
So yeah, I’ve got those troubling alcoholic paradoxes inside of me, still. There’s a long way to go towards serenity. I’m grateful to get to work on it every day.
I’ve been busy too. There’s just a lot to do. I’m in a good, steady stride - things challenging enough to keep me engaged, but not so much that they are overwhelming.
It takes me a lot of work for me to keep my boundaries just right, in the middle of the road, on the beam. The nice thing about accumulating some time in recovery is that this work becomes rather automatic, a hum in the background. For me being accountable keeps the motor humming.
I’ve been working on tempering justifiable anger I’ve been feeling over some situations that I cannot control. When I actually catch myself, I try to let my higher power in. Usually though I don’t catch myself until I’ve already told everyone I’m right. The thing I find tricky about justifiable anger is that these are things it makes sense to be angry about.
Step six reminds me: “Self-righteous anger can also be very enjoyable. In a perverse way we can actually take satisfaction from the fact that many people annoy us, for it brings a comfortable feeling of superiority.”
So yeah, I’ve got those troubling alcoholic paradoxes inside of me, still. There’s a long way to go towards serenity. I’m grateful to get to work on it every day.
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