24 Hour Recovery Connection Part 306
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Originally Posted by Pebbles666 
24 more please.
Well done Milestoners. Fantastic achievement
Love to all. xxx
xx P xxx
Well done Milestoners. Fantastic achievement
Love to all. xxx
xx P xxx
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I had to buy a second pair of hot pink and magenta, thigh high go-go boots as I am wearing the first pair practice my disco moves!!!!!
,Donnyb
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Originally Posted by Donnyb
6:25 am here and 1 week today!! So thankful for finding SR to help
Me through and everyday starting to get a little brighter. 24 more for me!!!!
Me through and everyday starting to get a little brighter. 24 more for me!!!!
Congrats, again, Donnyb
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Originally Posted by SoberLeigh
Love to you, Neo.
Praying all goes your way tomorrow.
Breathe, my friend.
Praying all goes your way tomorrow.
Breathe, my friend.
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Originally Posted by jsm273
Well, here comes a long post. I need to get this out somehow because it’s eating me up inside. It’s a contributing factor in the last relapse.
I have brother who’s just toxic. I haven’t had any contact with him for a year now. My problems with alcohol pale in comparison with his. He drank and smoked his way into a pacemaker. He didn’t slow his drinking down until he threatened with being fired. He didn’t stop until a doctor told him he’d die if he didn’t stop drinking. He even continued drinking after the pacemaker was put in. He still doesn’t think he’s an alcoholic.
He thinks his siblings are required to take care of him because he got all the bad DNA when he was born. When my mother was still alive, there were times he would lie and con her into giving him money so, he could pay his bills and, continue drinking
A couple of weeks back he called my 66 year old sister and, suggested that she comes to his house once a week and clean, do laundry and go grocery shopping for him. This is on top of everything else that is done for him by his siblings. He makes excellent money and can pay to get these things done for him easily. My sister lives an hour away from him and, is under a lot of stress to begin with.
My sister called after this request was made and told me about it. She was quite angry. About a day later she had a TIA. Two days later she had a full blown stroke. I can’t help but wonder if his request wasn’t a factor in the stroke.
Now it’s come to light that he’s read one book on spirituality. He’s now been born again and, has turned his life over to God. He thinks God can cure everything.
My other sister has severe mental health disabilities. She’s on medication to control her behavior. She always will be. The medicine is a completely nonnegotiable point. She’s stopped taking it in the past and, it’s always turns into a disaster.
Now my brother is trying to convince her to turn her life over to god and, become a spiritual person. Because if she does, God will heal her and, she’ll be able to stop taking her medication. I’m a believer but, Gods not going to cure my sister.
He’s done other equally bizarre things too. I won’t go into those.
Needless to say my anger is through the roof right now. It’s not going away. I laid in bed last night and, thought about this and everything else that’s screwed up in my life and, just started crying. I finally took some PM cold medication to help me sleep.
I'm hoping and praying that this the bottom. I don’t know if I can take much more. All I know is I’m not going to drink today.
I have brother who’s just toxic. I haven’t had any contact with him for a year now. My problems with alcohol pale in comparison with his. He drank and smoked his way into a pacemaker. He didn’t slow his drinking down until he threatened with being fired. He didn’t stop until a doctor told him he’d die if he didn’t stop drinking. He even continued drinking after the pacemaker was put in. He still doesn’t think he’s an alcoholic.
He thinks his siblings are required to take care of him because he got all the bad DNA when he was born. When my mother was still alive, there were times he would lie and con her into giving him money so, he could pay his bills and, continue drinking
A couple of weeks back he called my 66 year old sister and, suggested that she comes to his house once a week and clean, do laundry and go grocery shopping for him. This is on top of everything else that is done for him by his siblings. He makes excellent money and can pay to get these things done for him easily. My sister lives an hour away from him and, is under a lot of stress to begin with.
My sister called after this request was made and told me about it. She was quite angry. About a day later she had a TIA. Two days later she had a full blown stroke. I can’t help but wonder if his request wasn’t a factor in the stroke.
Now it’s come to light that he’s read one book on spirituality. He’s now been born again and, has turned his life over to God. He thinks God can cure everything.
My other sister has severe mental health disabilities. She’s on medication to control her behavior. She always will be. The medicine is a completely nonnegotiable point. She’s stopped taking it in the past and, it’s always turns into a disaster.
Now my brother is trying to convince her to turn her life over to god and, become a spiritual person. Because if she does, God will heal her and, she’ll be able to stop taking her medication. I’m a believer but, Gods not going to cure my sister.
He’s done other equally bizarre things too. I won’t go into those.
Needless to say my anger is through the roof right now. It’s not going away. I laid in bed last night and, thought about this and everything else that’s screwed up in my life and, just started crying. I finally took some PM cold medication to help me sleep.
I'm hoping and praying that this the bottom. I don’t know if I can take much more. All I know is I’m not going to drink today.
What a situation, Jsm.
I pray that your sister doesn't buy into your brother's theory. I am a believer, too, but I believe that God has guided brilliant minds in the discovery of life-changing and life-saving meds. I pray that your sister continues to take the prescribed meds. I am glad that you are her voice of reason.
Have you tried meditation or meditative yoga, jsm. You may want to look into it on your area; it might help you deal with your very understandable (yet still unhealthy for you) anger.
Please don't drink AT your brother or AT the situation; it won't change the situation but it can hurt you.
Sending you love and support, my friend.
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Originally Posted by joandmelandhan
(((jsm))) that is a hell lof a lot to cope with I'm so sorry. I guess trying to seperate yourself from it is impossible if your sisters are involved amd unwell too. Gosh what a mess! I know it's hard but you can only do so much as your own sobriety and health is at risk too.
Now the anger makes sense.....but remember what you once told me (and Dee too) drinking on a resentment is like pouring poison down your throat and expecting the other person to die.
Try and rest today if possible you've got a lot to deal with. Lots of love to you xxx
Now the anger makes sense.....but remember what you once told me (and Dee too) drinking on a resentment is like pouring poison down your throat and expecting the other person to die.
Try and rest today if possible you've got a lot to deal with. Lots of love to you xxx
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Originally Posted by shortstop81
jsm - I have a sibling like that, and there's a similar family dynamic. I've personally distanced myself from her, but I feel the need to step in when she starts trying to take advantage of vulnerable family members (i.e. my elderly parents). It's been a challenge to my sobriety in the past, I must admit. I don't have much advice, other than **hugs** and I've been there before too.
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Originally Posted by Dee74
Congrats to everyone celebrating a milestone today.
Jsm I'm sorry you have to deal with this.
Try as we might, you can't control your brothers erratic behavior or even the way it impacts on your other siblings - but you can control your reaction to it all.
To me thats key - I have a challenging family - when I stay sober and calm I tend to be more effective and they tend to be more cooperative.
Prayers and best wishes for you, your brother, your sister and a full recovery for her.
D
Jsm I'm sorry you have to deal with this.
Try as we might, you can't control your brothers erratic behavior or even the way it impacts on your other siblings - but you can control your reaction to it all.
To me thats key - I have a challenging family - when I stay sober and calm I tend to be more effective and they tend to be more cooperative.
Prayers and best wishes for you, your brother, your sister and a full recovery for her.
D
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Originally Posted by SoberLeigh
Love to you, too, Pebs!!!!!
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I had to buy a second pair of hot pink and magenta, thigh high go-go boots as I am wearing the first pair practice my disco moves!!!!!
💚💛💙💚💛💙💚💛💙💚💛💙
I had to buy a second pair of hot pink and magenta, thigh high go-go boots as I am wearing the first pair practice my disco moves!!!!!
Well.... me and you are ready to rock.... the others better be rehearsing !!
Really trying to be there for everyone here... and I am.... but in such a dark place at the moment I cant seem to find the light to get out of it... but I will.
Big hugs to you.... and everyone..... xxxxx
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