Class of October 2014 Part 39
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Happy Birthday Arbor!!!! The big 4-0! Ah you're still a young-ish Buck, and wiser you are. Most excellent. At your age I still had the worst 8 years of drinking ahead! As much as I kid about getting more, ahem, 'seasoned' I have to say there are many things I do like about this chapter. One of those things is a bit more freedom to do things I enjoy. Your next decade will bring the same for your.
Go out and find some joy today!
PS, I do however require a bit more maintenance these days, so off to the gym I go. And where did I leave my reading glasses.....
Go out and find some joy today!
PS, I do however require a bit more maintenance these days, so off to the gym I go. And where did I leave my reading glasses.....
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Originally Posted by Arbor 
Well, guys. It had to happen....
I'm 40 today! Whoa, how'd that happen? Looking forward to the next decade. I feel wiser than I've ever been.
Have a great day all.
I'm 40 today! Whoa, how'd that happen? Looking forward to the next decade. I feel wiser than I've ever been.
Have a great day all.
, dear Arbor.
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Originally Posted by Conquest
Happy anniversary Mark and wifey! 26 years is awesome!
And thanks for the well wishes. After some allergy meds, I'm feeling much better and the kiddo seems back to his chipper, chatty self tonight.
Hopefully, everyone is feeling much better tomorrow!
And Briar, I'm on a mission to find a particular rock that my mother gave to me a couple of years ago for that exact purpose. It's here somewhere and definitely needs to come out of hiding.
Gnight all!
And thanks for the well wishes. After some allergy meds, I'm feeling much better and the kiddo seems back to his chipper, chatty self tonight.
Hopefully, everyone is feeling much better tomorrow!
And Briar, I'm on a mission to find a particular rock that my mother gave to me a couple of years ago for that exact purpose. It's here somewhere and definitely needs to come out of hiding.
Gnight all!
02.27.15 :): ▽VII△VIII
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Tough couple of days. My friend is still sick. She had an MRI yesterday. Hopefully it will find the problem.
And after four years with my therapist, it's time for me to move on to a different kind of therapy. Working with him isn't helping me anymore, and we both agree that he isn't qualified to provide the type of treatment I need. I'll be working with a Dialectical Behavior Therapy specialist who can help me manage my disorder. It's unbelievably heartbreaking to lose someone I'm so attached to, but at the same time, I understand and agree with the decision. I want to continue to get better, and this is the best way to do that. I'm going to miss him so much though.
And after four years with my therapist, it's time for me to move on to a different kind of therapy. Working with him isn't helping me anymore, and we both agree that he isn't qualified to provide the type of treatment I need. I'll be working with a Dialectical Behavior Therapy specialist who can help me manage my disorder. It's unbelievably heartbreaking to lose someone I'm so attached to, but at the same time, I understand and agree with the decision. I want to continue to get better, and this is the best way to do that. I'm going to miss him so much though.
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Thank you for the cupcake Briar. And totally guilt free. 
My sincere wish for you is that you'll find just the right therapist for the next step in your progress.
I like sticks. If my destination involves a beach I search for just the right smallish stick that's sun bleached and worn to a smooth sculptural state from the relentless surf. I've a nice few on the shelf in my study from some special corners of the world. I'm calmed when I pick one up and run my hand over the smoothed edges.....thinking about that little stick's story and what it endured to become imperfectly beautiful to my eye. (Got a few rocks too)
So I'm all scrubbed up and polished for a rather big social gathering related to an upcoming family wedding. My attendance is rather guilt-driven and I'd prefer not to go. For this type thing a 3 beer priming would have been in order and I'm feeling a bit anxious about being around all the alcohol....a rarity for me. I will make pleasantries for a bit and likely find a way to slip away having met my social obligation and presented my gift. Hopefully twilight will find me back in my garden to see a few fireflies.
My sincere wish for you is that you'll find just the right therapist for the next step in your progress. I like sticks. If my destination involves a beach I search for just the right smallish stick that's sun bleached and worn to a smooth sculptural state from the relentless surf. I've a nice few on the shelf in my study from some special corners of the world. I'm calmed when I pick one up and run my hand over the smoothed edges.....thinking about that little stick's story and what it endured to become imperfectly beautiful to my eye. (Got a few rocks too)
So I'm all scrubbed up and polished for a rather big social gathering related to an upcoming family wedding. My attendance is rather guilt-driven and I'd prefer not to go. For this type thing a 3 beer priming would have been in order and I'm feeling a bit anxious about being around all the alcohol....a rarity for me. I will make pleasantries for a bit and likely find a way to slip away having met my social obligation and presented my gift. Hopefully twilight will find me back in my garden to see a few fireflies.
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Thank you, Mark. Hang in there at your social gathering. It helps me to remember what those things were really truly like when I was drinking. I felt ok for a little while (what I thought meant feeling "good"), then I got paranoid that people would notice how drunk I was, then I would go home, throw up, pass out, and wake up hating myself. Awesome party, right? ... nope.
Come home sober and proud. Live a real life. *virtual high five*
Come home sober and proud. Live a real life. *virtual high five*
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Originally Posted by Briar
Thank you, Mark. Hang in there at your social gathering. It helps me to remember what those things were really truly like when I was drinking. I felt ok for a little while (what I thought meant feeling "good"), then I got paranoid that people would notice how drunk I was, then I would go home, throw up, pass out, and wake up hating myself. Awesome party, right? ... nope.
Come home sober and proud. Live a real life. *virtual high five*
Come home sober and proud. Live a real life. *virtual high five*
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Originally Posted by Mark1014
Thank you for the cupcake Briar. And totally guilt free. My sincere wish for you is that you'll find just the right therapist for the next step in your progress.
I like sticks. If my destination involves a beach I search for just the right smallish stick that's sun bleached and worn to a smooth sculptural state from the relentless surf. I've a nice few on the shelf in my study from some special corners of the world. I'm calmed when I pick one up and run my hand over the smoothed edges.....thinking about that little stick's story and what it endured to become imperfectly beautiful to my eye. (Got a few rocks too)
So I'm all scrubbed up and polished for a rather big social gathering related to an upcoming family wedding. My attendance is rather guilt-driven and I'd prefer not to go. For this type thing a 3 beer priming would have been in order and I'm feeling a bit anxious about being around all the alcohol....a rarity for me. I will make pleasantries for a bit and likely find a way to slip away having met my social obligation and presented my gift. Hopefully twilight will find me back in my garden to see a few fireflies.
My sincere wish for you is that you'll find just the right therapist for the next step in your progress. I like sticks. If my destination involves a beach I search for just the right smallish stick that's sun bleached and worn to a smooth sculptural state from the relentless surf. I've a nice few on the shelf in my study from some special corners of the world. I'm calmed when I pick one up and run my hand over the smoothed edges.....thinking about that little stick's story and what it endured to become imperfectly beautiful to my eye. (Got a few rocks too)
So I'm all scrubbed up and polished for a rather big social gathering related to an upcoming family wedding. My attendance is rather guilt-driven and I'd prefer not to go. For this type thing a 3 beer priming would have been in order and I'm feeling a bit anxious about being around all the alcohol....a rarity for me. I will make pleasantries for a bit and likely find a way to slip away having met my social obligation and presented my gift. Hopefully twilight will find me back in my garden to see a few fireflies.
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Originally Posted by Briar
Tough couple of days. My friend is still sick. She had an MRI yesterday. Hopefully it will find the problem.
And after four years with my therapist, it's time for me to move on to a different kind of therapy. Working with him isn't helping me anymore, and we both agree that he isn't qualified to provide the type of treatment I need. I'll be working with a Dialectical Behavior Therapy specialist who can help me manage my disorder. It's unbelievably heartbreaking to lose someone I'm so attached to, but at the same time, I understand and agree with the decision. I want to continue to get better, and this is the best way to do that. I'm going to miss him so much though.
And after four years with my therapist, it's time for me to move on to a different kind of therapy. Working with him isn't helping me anymore, and we both agree that he isn't qualified to provide the type of treatment I need. I'll be working with a Dialectical Behavior Therapy specialist who can help me manage my disorder. It's unbelievably heartbreaking to lose someone I'm so attached to, but at the same time, I understand and agree with the decision. I want to continue to get better, and this is the best way to do that. I'm going to miss him so much though.
Prayers continue for your friend..
Good luck with the new therapy, Briar; let us know how it goes.
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Briar, you forgot waking up the next morning, hating yourself, THEN picking up the bottle again only to get drunk AGAIN or even drunker, starting/repeating the same damn cycle over and over and over again. Some fun, eh?
Good luck, Mark. My guess is you'll find something positive about the experience to look back on.
Good luck, Mark. My guess is you'll find something positive about the experience to look back on.
02.27.15 :): ▽VII△VIII
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Arbor - I hope you enjoyed it!
Good news - our plums are ripe!
My daughter and I dropped some serious coin at Lush today, and we smell pretty amazing right now. Greasy though. I know to be careful about touching things. She, on the other hand, is leaving an oil slick everywhere she goes. Oh well. This is why we don't bother owning anything nice.
Where's my dear Suze?
Good news - our plums are ripe!
My daughter and I dropped some serious coin at Lush today, and we smell pretty amazing right now. Greasy though. I know to be careful about touching things. She, on the other hand, is leaving an oil slick everywhere she goes. Oh well. This is why we don't bother owning anything nice.
Where's my dear Suze?
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