Class of February 2016 Part 10
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Hi Sadie, are you still around?
Were you drinking today?
Come on Sadie, dig deep and pull yourself together, no drinking tomorrow, ok!
Watching too many depressing 'state of nation' programmes and cable news would make anybody sick with worry. I think you may need to turn it off and step away. How about going to bed an hour or 2 before you normally go to sleep and reading something uplifting? Make a cup of tea or ice tea, go to bed and read.
I would hate to think that you use the bad state of the nation and your worried feelings about it as an excuse to drink alcohol. Dont do that Sadie. Don't fall for that old trick.
Its a real cop out to say a person might as well get drunk because things are so bad around them. You know that's utter rubbish. If that were true then EVERYBODY might as well get drunk all day everyday because everybody has problems, worries, stresses, troubles etc. BUT everybody doesn't get drunk all day everyday do they. Most people handle issues without trying to blur them away temporarily with drugs or alcohol.
As for your marriage, accidents and fear of cats. All of those things will vastly improve if you remain sober long term / permanently.
Do ONE thing at a time. You need to do the most important thing first, which stay sober long term. You can do it.
Were you drinking today?
Come on Sadie, dig deep and pull yourself together, no drinking tomorrow, ok!
Watching too many depressing 'state of nation' programmes and cable news would make anybody sick with worry. I think you may need to turn it off and step away. How about going to bed an hour or 2 before you normally go to sleep and reading something uplifting? Make a cup of tea or ice tea, go to bed and read.
I would hate to think that you use the bad state of the nation and your worried feelings about it as an excuse to drink alcohol. Dont do that Sadie. Don't fall for that old trick.
Its a real cop out to say a person might as well get drunk because things are so bad around them. You know that's utter rubbish. If that were true then EVERYBODY might as well get drunk all day everyday because everybody has problems, worries, stresses, troubles etc. BUT everybody doesn't get drunk all day everyday do they. Most people handle issues without trying to blur them away temporarily with drugs or alcohol.
As for your marriage, accidents and fear of cats. All of those things will vastly improve if you remain sober long term / permanently.
Do ONE thing at a time. You need to do the most important thing first, which stay sober long term. You can do it.
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Hey OT
Stay well away from ANYBODY who takes issue with your sexuality. NOBODY has the right to judge you (or anybody) for that. We aren't living in the middle ages. I wouldn't allow ANYBODY to look down their nose at me, or think I was mentally ill, or whatever they think, just because I was gay!
Stay well away from ANYBODY who takes issue with your sexuality. NOBODY has the right to judge you (or anybody) for that. We aren't living in the middle ages. I wouldn't allow ANYBODY to look down their nose at me, or think I was mentally ill, or whatever they think, just because I was gay!
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Originally Posted by Outonthetiles 
Hi Sadie, sorry for the late response.
1. Marriage. You're staying in the marriage because you're afraid of alcohol related accidents, and you don't want to be eaten by felines if you died alone. Not sure if you're serious about this, but here goes: if you stick with SR you'll be sober, thus eliminating drunken accidents. Only after you've been sober should you evaluate your marriage and whether you want to stay in it. Until then, you're acting out of fear, which is how people make serious mistakes.
2. Being eaten by cats: after you're sober, you can avoid drunken falls, so being eaten becomes a more remote possibility.
3. Politics (I assume that's what you're talking about): GET RID OF YOUR ******* TV, ESPECIALLY THE CABLE ***** It's all ******** and I believe that you're making yourself sick by paying attention to that crap. Just ******* throw out your TV. I got rid of TV three years ago, and even though I was barely functional due to drinking, I nevertheless felt mentally better after I pulled the plug. Especially the cable news ****, which is toxic and mentally damaging. You may be concerned about the state of the country, but you;re just making yourself sick worrying about it.
Also, your preoccupation with politics is a form of avoidance or procrastination. Your only job is to get sober and stay sober, not to worry about some high functioning socieopathical politician. By worrying about that sh!t, you're just avoiding your own problems, so don't do it.
1. Marriage. You're staying in the marriage because you're afraid of alcohol related accidents, and you don't want to be eaten by felines if you died alone. Not sure if you're serious about this, but here goes: if you stick with SR you'll be sober, thus eliminating drunken accidents. Only after you've been sober should you evaluate your marriage and whether you want to stay in it. Until then, you're acting out of fear, which is how people make serious mistakes.
2. Being eaten by cats: after you're sober, you can avoid drunken falls, so being eaten becomes a more remote possibility.
3. Politics (I assume that's what you're talking about): GET RID OF YOUR ******* TV, ESPECIALLY THE CABLE ***** It's all ******** and I believe that you're making yourself sick by paying attention to that crap. Just ******* throw out your TV. I got rid of TV three years ago, and even though I was barely functional due to drinking, I nevertheless felt mentally better after I pulled the plug. Especially the cable news ****, which is toxic and mentally damaging. You may be concerned about the state of the country, but you;re just making yourself sick worrying about it.
Also, your preoccupation with politics is a form of avoidance or procrastination. Your only job is to get sober and stay sober, not to worry about some high functioning socieopathical politician. By worrying about that sh!t, you're just avoiding your own problems, so don't do it.
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Good morning all.
Just reading back through the posts this morning. Sorry I don't manage to keep up with you all, but life is so busy. With the AA thing, it is just SUGGESTED that women keep to women and men to men with sponsoring. Of course that makes it difficult when you are attracted to the same sex!
My thoughts are that I personally wouldn't care who it was sponsoring me, as long as they carried the message and took me through the steps properly. I've just recently got a new sponsor and we are working together one night a week. She is kind and caring and serious about recovery. That's all I need. We don't have to be best friends or anything. In fact I'm very wary of forming too close an attachment to her, because...well she is an alkie after all...and my last one relapsed after 7 years and then fired me. That still hurts a lot.
Anyway, I'm sorry for your pain Sadie. Getting sober seems to uncover problems that we drank to numb ourselves from. I know it did for me. When I sobered up the first time, I had to seek counselling and that really helped. I don't think I was ready to face anything whilst I was newly sober...it takes a while for the fog to clear.
Stay close. We are all in this together.
Ugh, I've got a horrible meeting with a stroppy parent today (I work in a school). I'm hoping she has forgotten about it...but I'm managing my stress levels much better this week, so it should be ok.
Have a good day my friends ❤️
Just reading back through the posts this morning. Sorry I don't manage to keep up with you all, but life is so busy. With the AA thing, it is just SUGGESTED that women keep to women and men to men with sponsoring. Of course that makes it difficult when you are attracted to the same sex!
My thoughts are that I personally wouldn't care who it was sponsoring me, as long as they carried the message and took me through the steps properly. I've just recently got a new sponsor and we are working together one night a week. She is kind and caring and serious about recovery. That's all I need. We don't have to be best friends or anything. In fact I'm very wary of forming too close an attachment to her, because...well she is an alkie after all...and my last one relapsed after 7 years and then fired me. That still hurts a lot.
Anyway, I'm sorry for your pain Sadie. Getting sober seems to uncover problems that we drank to numb ourselves from. I know it did for me. When I sobered up the first time, I had to seek counselling and that really helped. I don't think I was ready to face anything whilst I was newly sober...it takes a while for the fog to clear.
Stay close. We are all in this together.
Ugh, I've got a horrible meeting with a stroppy parent today (I work in a school). I'm hoping she has forgotten about it...but I'm managing my stress levels much better this week, so it should be ok.
Have a good day my friends ❤️
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Originally Posted by Cococo
OOTT - teacher had to edit quite a lot of your 'strong' language. Lucky you didn't get detention after school. lol.
I wasn't going to mention it because the passive aggression I get in return is often more trouble than it's worth ....but one of the rules here is the family friendly worksafe rule.
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This thread may just be someones first experience of SR
Now everyone knows the rule, I'd really appreciate it if you follow it.
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Morning all! One month today!! I'm thinking back to that second visit to my doctor because I'd been having convulsions with my withdrawal. I was a nervous, suicidal wreck and I was trying to hold my hands down because they were wracked with tremors. It's hard to believe that was all not that long ago. There's no way I want to go back to that!
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Originally Posted by OldTomato
Morning all! One month today!! I'm thinking back to that second visit to my doctor because I'd been having convulsions with my withdrawal. I was a nervous, suicidal wreck and I was trying to hold my hands down because they were wracked with tremors. It's hard to believe that was all not that long ago. There's no way I want to go back to that!
Wow to your brief story. You have certainly come a long way. Enjoy your cake love, you deserve it, make a right glutton of yourself lol
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Originally Posted by Jeni26
Good morning all.
Just reading back through the posts this morning. Sorry I don't manage to keep up with you all, but life is so busy. With the AA thing, it is just SUGGESTED that women keep to women and men to men with sponsoring. Of course that makes it difficult when you are attracted to the same sex!
My thoughts are that I personally wouldn't care who it was sponsoring me, as long as they carried the message and took me through the steps properly. I've just recently got a new sponsor and we are working together one night a week. She is kind and caring and serious about recovery. That's all I need. We don't have to be best friends or anything. In fact I'm very wary of forming too close an attachment to her, because...well she is an alkie after all...and my last one relapsed after 7 years and then fired me. That still hurts a lot.
Anyway, I'm sorry for your pain Sadie. Getting sober seems to uncover problems that we drank to numb ourselves from. I know it did for me. When I sobered up the first time, I had to seek counselling and that really helped. I don't think I was ready to face anything whilst I was newly sober...it takes a while for the fog to clear.
Stay close. We are all in this together.
Ugh, I've got a horrible meeting with a stroppy parent today (I work in a school). I'm hoping she has forgotten about it...but I'm managing my stress levels much better this week, so it should be ok.
Have a good day my friends ❤️
Just reading back through the posts this morning. Sorry I don't manage to keep up with you all, but life is so busy. With the AA thing, it is just SUGGESTED that women keep to women and men to men with sponsoring. Of course that makes it difficult when you are attracted to the same sex!
My thoughts are that I personally wouldn't care who it was sponsoring me, as long as they carried the message and took me through the steps properly. I've just recently got a new sponsor and we are working together one night a week. She is kind and caring and serious about recovery. That's all I need. We don't have to be best friends or anything. In fact I'm very wary of forming too close an attachment to her, because...well she is an alkie after all...and my last one relapsed after 7 years and then fired me. That still hurts a lot.
Anyway, I'm sorry for your pain Sadie. Getting sober seems to uncover problems that we drank to numb ourselves from. I know it did for me. When I sobered up the first time, I had to seek counselling and that really helped. I don't think I was ready to face anything whilst I was newly sober...it takes a while for the fog to clear.
Stay close. We are all in this together.
Ugh, I've got a horrible meeting with a stroppy parent today (I work in a school). I'm hoping she has forgotten about it...but I'm managing my stress levels much better this week, so it should be ok.
Have a good day my friends ❤️
Stroppy parents are the worst, I get them in my shop all the time. Hang in there, it's not worth getting worked up over. Good to hear you're managing your stress levels.
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Omg. I had my second dream involving drink. I woke up before I drank it but I had decided that I was going to drink a bottle of wine.
I felt like you.OT and I don't want to go there. Its worrying that I was going to drink.
I felt like you.OT and I don't want to go there. Its worrying that I was going to drink.
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Originally Posted by Dee74
Yeah, thats so not the deal here.
I wasn't going to mention it because the passive aggression I get in return is often more trouble than it's worth ....but one of the rules here is the family friendly worksafe rule.
It's our attempt to make SR as welcoming as possible for everyone - from Grandmas down to teenagers,
This thread may just be someones first experience of SR
Now everyone knows the rule, I'd really appreciate it if you follow it.
thanks
Dee
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I wasn't going to mention it because the passive aggression I get in return is often more trouble than it's worth ....but one of the rules here is the family friendly worksafe rule.
It's our attempt to make SR as welcoming as possible for everyone - from Grandmas down to teenagers,
This thread may just be someones first experience of SR
Now everyone knows the rule, I'd really appreciate it if you follow it.
thanks
Dee
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Originally Posted by OldTomato
Morning all! One month today!! I'm thinking back to that second visit to my doctor because I'd been having convulsions with my withdrawal. I was a nervous, suicidal wreck and I was trying to hold my hands down because they were wracked with tremors. It's hard to believe that was all not that long ago. There's no way I want to go back to that!
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Originally Posted by Cococo
Congrats OT!
Wow to your brief story. You have certainly come a long way. Enjoy your cake love, you deserve it, make a right glutton of yourself lol
Wow to your brief story. You have certainly come a long way. Enjoy your cake love, you deserve it, make a right glutton of yourself lol
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