Class of September 2013 - Part 14
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Originally Posted by FishnHippy 
How do you go about finding an AA meeting is there an app for something like that
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Originally Posted by LillianGish
I saw Arcade Fire on Saturday Night Live a few weeks ago, and fell in love! My husband and I both play that song "Reflecktor" all the time now. I forgot to download the rest of the album cuz it wasn't available at the time. Going to do that now, and thanks for the reminder!!
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Originally Posted by FishnHippy
How do you go about finding an AA meeting is there an app for something like that
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I've just been lying in bed all morning. I suppose I'd better get up and do... something? I know there's periods of incubation that I've found to be really valuable when trying to get back on track... Sometimes I don't like being out of the house at all.
I just had some memories of past attempts at sobriety.
My husband sometimes goes on long tours with his band, sometimes five weeks. But it's been a long time since that has happened. I just had a memory of my old "tour routine" when I was at home alone.
I'd party and drink all the first week because that was the toughest part. I'd miss him a lot and I'd just drink to deal with it. Then at the end of that week I'd dust myself off, swear off the drink, and stay sober for the next month and try to stay really busy. I wouldn't drink because I was afraid of getting too depressed and not having him there to rein me in if I got too out of control. Also, I was afraid that if I binged too much I'd gain weight and he'd see a dramatic change in me when he got back.
Then I'd get a lot done, stay straight, then he'd come back home and I'd pick up the bottle again because that first week of re-entry after a tour can be really hard. Both for the person who toured and the person who stayed at home. I'd just cope through that and then go back to my normal drinking patterns -- 1 bottle of wine on a normal, mellow day, and just whatever was in front of me on random days a few times a week.
Just weird patterns. I guess I forgot about all of this
I just had some memories of past attempts at sobriety.
My husband sometimes goes on long tours with his band, sometimes five weeks. But it's been a long time since that has happened. I just had a memory of my old "tour routine" when I was at home alone.
I'd party and drink all the first week because that was the toughest part. I'd miss him a lot and I'd just drink to deal with it. Then at the end of that week I'd dust myself off, swear off the drink, and stay sober for the next month and try to stay really busy. I wouldn't drink because I was afraid of getting too depressed and not having him there to rein me in if I got too out of control. Also, I was afraid that if I binged too much I'd gain weight and he'd see a dramatic change in me when he got back.
Then I'd get a lot done, stay straight, then he'd come back home and I'd pick up the bottle again because that first week of re-entry after a tour can be really hard. Both for the person who toured and the person who stayed at home. I'd just cope through that and then go back to my normal drinking patterns -- 1 bottle of wine on a normal, mellow day, and just whatever was in front of me on random days a few times a week.
Just weird patterns. I guess I forgot about all of this
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Originally Posted by Plenny
I've just been lying in bed all morning. I suppose I'd better get up and do... something? I know there's periods of incubation that I've found to be really valuable when trying to get back on track... Sometimes I don't like being out of the house at all.
If leaving the house is too much, how about just taking a shower and getting back in bed?
I have found that the simple act of getting up and getting dressed (even if getting dressed = getting BACK into my PJ's!!) does wonders for my mood!!
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Br00ksie, I moved to the couch!! Hahaha
Also I was going to make dinner for my landlady tonight but I rescheduled for Friday night. So in a way I did a little favor for myself.
Thanks for reminding me that it's important to do something nice for yourself every day!
Also I was going to make dinner for my landlady tonight but I rescheduled for Friday night. So in a way I did a little favor for myself.
Thanks for reminding me that it's important to do something nice for yourself every day!
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Plenny, last weekend I bought myself new flannel pajamas...so cute, with colorful macaroon cookies all over them. Then, some warm comfortable UGG slippers that have fluffy sheepskin inside.
I feel so nice wearing them.
I felt....what are the words...hmmmm....cared for. I cared for myself, and it was kind of a different feeling. Most people don't do that very often.
You're worth it! You're worth nice PJs, for the same reason you're worth sobriety.
Just wanted to share my mindset, in case it's helpful.
I feel so nice wearing them.
I felt....what are the words...hmmmm....cared for. I cared for myself, and it was kind of a different feeling. Most people don't do that very often.
You're worth it! You're worth nice PJs, for the same reason you're worth sobriety.
Just wanted to share my mindset, in case it's helpful.
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It is very helpful to be reminded of this because for my entire life I searched for someone else to take care of me, and most people aren't going to do that.
My husband came very close to it though. He cares for me. But if I look to him for too much care and become dependent it's unhealthy. So I'm with you on the nice pajamas
My husband came very close to it though. He cares for me. But if I look to him for too much care and become dependent it's unhealthy. So I'm with you on the nice pajamas
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Originally Posted by kellbell123
I found out this morning that my position at work is being eliminated due to outsourcing 
I hope they are giving you some time and severance pay....
Hang in there hon. (((kell))
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So sorry Kellbell, I know how it feels- ive been there before, hope you find the strength to stay strong. Sometimes things in life are beyond our control- job security nowadays is nearly non existent over here in UK.
Sometimes life sucks even when drink is out of the equation, we've just got to get through the storm and have faith that things will get brighter.
Sometimes life sucks even when drink is out of the equation, we've just got to get through the storm and have faith that things will get brighter.
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Thanks everyone. I'm really depressed right now. It came as a total surprise - I know it shouldn't have but it did. I get the "pleasure" of training whoever my job is being outsourced to. At least I'll have a paycheck for the time being and time to look for something else.
Right now I am taking it so personal. Everyone keeps telling me its not personal but I feel like I was kicked in the gut. I've been crying all morning and can't get myself focused.
On top of it all the other person on my team that handles the same things I do? Somehow she got a "save". They transferred her to a new job. So that leaves me with ALL the work and training someone else. I am so angry, sad and scared.
Right now I am taking it so personal. Everyone keeps telling me its not personal but I feel like I was kicked in the gut. I've been crying all morning and can't get myself focused.
On top of it all the other person on my team that handles the same things I do? Somehow she got a "save". They transferred her to a new job. So that leaves me with ALL the work and training someone else. I am so angry, sad and scared.
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Originally Posted by kellbell123
Thanks everyone. I'm really depressed right now. It came as a total surprise - I know it shouldn't have but it did. I get the "pleasure" of training whoever my job is being outsourced to. At least I'll have a paycheck for the time being and time to look for something else.
Right now I am taking it so personal. Everyone keeps telling me its not personal but I feel like I was kicked in the gut. I've been crying all morning and can't get myself focused.
On top of it all the other person on my team that handles the same things I do? Somehow she got a "save". They transferred her to a new job. So that leaves me with ALL the work and training someone else. I am so angry, sad and scared.
Right now I am taking it so personal. Everyone keeps telling me its not personal but I feel like I was kicked in the gut. I've been crying all morning and can't get myself focused.
On top of it all the other person on my team that handles the same things I do? Somehow she got a "save". They transferred her to a new job. So that leaves me with ALL the work and training someone else. I am so angry, sad and scared.
Stick close to us so you don't drink, ok?
(((Kellbell)))
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