One Year and Over Club- Part 6
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Manz, do t be afraid to ask for help (or a hug) if you need it
Went to a beach concert tonight. On the way out we saw a white Suv hit two cars while trying to park. Person backed out and went into a handicap spot and hit the sign. The folks we were talking to knew her and wen and got her keys. They were like "it's not like she's an alcoholic or something, she just drinks to much"...umm there were kids everywhere, the woman is an alcoholic...it made me terribly sad but also grateful I am no longer like that.
1 year 51 weeks
Went to a beach concert tonight. On the way out we saw a white Suv hit two cars while trying to park. Person backed out and went into a handicap spot and hit the sign. The folks we were talking to knew her and wen and got her keys. They were like "it's not like she's an alcoholic or something, she just drinks to much"...umm there were kids everywhere, the woman is an alcoholic...it made me terribly sad but also grateful I am no longer like that.
1 year 51 weeks
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You know what La femme, I am terrible at asking for help. I also find it hard to ask for a hug when really that is all that I need. And on top of that.....who would I ask anyways! I get hugs from my weeman, but have to be careful to not sneak too many!!
Have been crashing big time this last week if the truth be told. I feel myself hurtling towards the dark places that I can send myself. Self doubt is a bitch. And you know where all of this questioning of myself has come from....... WORK! GAH!!!!
The work that I do is wonderful, the people that I serve are uplifting to watch as they progress in their journeys of recovery. I just can not stand the office politics, the favouritism, lack of decent management......blah blah blah the list could go on. I feel hassled when I go in, I can't stand how crap it is making me feel. I have been trying to move forward from this feeling since I started there(so a friend pointed out to me) and have been pretending it is all marvelous. Then BAM! I find myself in this terribly low mood etc.
Sigh........... things will change, and change is good. This too shall pass. Right?
I did go and play badminton yesterday and it was a load of laughs. Met some lovely people, who were all glad I came up with the idea and we will make it a regular thing from now. Yay me!
I JUST NEED A HUUUUUUUUUUUUUUG.
Have been crashing big time this last week if the truth be told. I feel myself hurtling towards the dark places that I can send myself. Self doubt is a bitch. And you know where all of this questioning of myself has come from....... WORK! GAH!!!!
The work that I do is wonderful, the people that I serve are uplifting to watch as they progress in their journeys of recovery. I just can not stand the office politics, the favouritism, lack of decent management......blah blah blah the list could go on. I feel hassled when I go in, I can't stand how crap it is making me feel. I have been trying to move forward from this feeling since I started there(so a friend pointed out to me) and have been pretending it is all marvelous. Then BAM! I find myself in this terribly low mood etc.
Sigh........... things will change, and change is good. This too shall pass. Right?
I did go and play badminton yesterday and it was a load of laughs. Met some lovely people, who were all glad I came up with the idea and we will make it a regular thing from now. Yay me!
I JUST NEED A HUUUUUUUUUUUUUUG.
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Good morning Overs,
Today is one year for me off the booze. Last year I started out with a wish and a prayer not knowing how things would turn out or what the world of abstinenece would be like. I have been reading your posts for quite some time and wish to thank all for the thoughtful insights that have helped me on the Journey.
Today is one year for me off the booze. Last year I started out with a wish and a prayer not knowing how things would turn out or what the world of abstinenece would be like. I have been reading your posts for quite some time and wish to thank all for the thoughtful insights that have helped me on the Journey.
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I am super glad to see you here, dickensen. What a great way to start the week!
Manz, for whatever it's worth , I've come to look at environments the same as I look as people. They are what they are, and I will drive myself crazy if I expect them to change. I either need to accept them as they are, or keep my distance.
Manz, for whatever it's worth , I've come to look at environments the same as I look as people. They are what they are, and I will drive myself crazy if I expect them to change. I either need to accept them as they are, or keep my distance.
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Yeah dickensen!
Hugs Manz! For me, what I needed was a Life Coach, which is a different take on therapy. I had a lot of crap to work out so that I could live my life in a happy way and not drink. I'm It definitely helped me a ton. One of the things I needed to work on was how to ask for help
Hugs again!
T
Hugs Manz! For me, what I needed was a Life Coach, which is a different take on therapy. I had a lot of crap to work out so that I could live my life in a happy way and not drink. I'm It definitely helped me a ton. One of the things I needed to work on was how to ask for help
Hugs again!
T
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LS3 Glad you got back into perspective yesterday! It could have been worse, you could have never stopped drinking, and where would you be with the last year done without any sober time to even know when things are going South?
Manz, I am glad you admit here that you have difficulty asking for help. Big tip on getting hugs. Start giving them away to anybody you can for whatever reason you can. They cost you nothing and you might find those hugs being returned. The world is full of people who desperately want a hug and can't seem to start one off. Instead of looking for your own hug and feeling needy, just go find another who needs a hug. Give it to them. You will be amazed. I have never seen anybody jailed for hugging without a license. Even guys hug side to side! Don't you know someone in your life that used to irritate you because they were too huggy? Be that person for a month!
Or not. :ghug3
Manz, I am glad you admit here that you have difficulty asking for help. Big tip on getting hugs. Start giving them away to anybody you can for whatever reason you can. They cost you nothing and you might find those hugs being returned. The world is full of people who desperately want a hug and can't seem to start one off. Instead of looking for your own hug and feeling needy, just go find another who needs a hug. Give it to them. You will be amazed. I have never seen anybody jailed for hugging without a license. Even guys hug side to side! Don't you know someone in your life that used to irritate you because they were too huggy? Be that person for a month!
Or not. :ghug3
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Welcome aboard, Zee! And don't worry—we don't do anything in alphabetical order here.
Did someone say life coach? I think I could use one. A couple of hours after my zen musings to Manz, my dad called. Our conversation reminded me that some people I can neither wholly accept, nor entirely avoid... I'm way too old to have parent issues.
Did someone say life coach? I think I could use one. A couple of hours after my zen musings to Manz, my dad called. Our conversation reminded me that some people I can neither wholly accept, nor entirely avoid... I'm way too old to have parent issues.
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Dickensen...welcome aboard! And of course you too Zee.
Thanks guys & gals for the wise and zen words.
Yes acceptance is key, I know this. And R&A I agree about the parent issues...that is one issue I finally put to bed last year by fully accepting that I can not change my Mother!!!
Itchy..... I do believe in the power of hugs and offer them frequently. Apparently I rock on the hug front. But when I need one, yikes, a huge barrier comes up preventing me from sneaking one. Ho hum...... more work to be done on Manz.
I really like the idea of a life coach...wonder if I can find one that works pro bono??? bahahahahahaha.
I felt totally validated today by another colleague expressing serious concerns about the work place and management.....sigh. I HOPE that is may change some time, I think however maybe not. I am now keeping my options open.
A younger male colleague paid me acompliment on my hair today.....I have let my natural curls and waves do their thing instead of blowdrying(what a pain)......and it was very sweet to see him blush and avoid eyecontact afterwards. Haha. He is all of 23.....I dont mind him practising his skills on me.
Ah well that is my ramblings after a long but rewarding day(the team lead is away, so no real "politics" or BS).........
Thanks guys & gals for the wise and zen words.
Yes acceptance is key, I know this. And R&A I agree about the parent issues...that is one issue I finally put to bed last year by fully accepting that I can not change my Mother!!!
Itchy..... I do believe in the power of hugs and offer them frequently. Apparently I rock on the hug front. But when I need one, yikes, a huge barrier comes up preventing me from sneaking one. Ho hum...... more work to be done on Manz.
I really like the idea of a life coach...wonder if I can find one that works pro bono??? bahahahahahaha.
I felt totally validated today by another colleague expressing serious concerns about the work place and management.....sigh. I HOPE that is may change some time, I think however maybe not. I am now keeping my options open.
A younger male colleague paid me acompliment on my hair today.....I have let my natural curls and waves do their thing instead of blowdrying(what a pain)......and it was very sweet to see him blush and avoid eyecontact afterwards. Haha. He is all of 23.....I dont mind him practising his skills on me.
Ah well that is my ramblings after a long but rewarding day(the team lead is away, so no real "politics" or BS).........
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you would probably have a ZILLION HUGS coming your way!
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guys if you haven't already done so, CarolD asked me to pass on her invitation to post your story in our Stories of Recovery forum:
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If you have the time and interest...
I want to invite you to add your
journey to our SR Storeis.
Here is the link please do read it first
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...e-posting.html
I typed mine into Word first so I could edit
and get the time line correct
You only have a 15 minute window to edit
then I C&P into Stories.
Yes I Mod Storeis too...
Forward we go..side by side
I want to invite you to add your
journey to our SR Storeis.
Here is the link please do read it first
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...e-posting.html
I typed mine into Word first so I could edit
and get the time line correct
You only have a 15 minute window to edit
then I C&P into Stories.
Yes I Mod Storeis too...
Forward we go..side by side
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