Living In Sobriety Part 23
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Originally Posted by nelco 
Good morning Stone I hope you are feeling good today. I enjoyed the Bob talk also. that site is a very useful one.....especially when ironing lol. enjoy your walk.
Couldn't walk much the spray was soaking me. Thanks, I am feeling pretty good today.
Originally Posted by Believe808
I'm glad you are getting to another meeting tonight Stone. That's nice you are close to the beach, I'm 1 hour away. I love the calmness and peace that I get from the beach.
Yea, the beach sorts my head out.
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I MUCKED UP MY SOBRIETY DATE: I HAVE HAD IT IN MY HEAD ALL THIS TIME IT WAS AUGUST 12TH, WHEN IN FACT IT IS AUGUST 26TH
i came across a note i had written myself after my first meeting.... it was dated the 26th
i came across a note i had written myself after my first meeting.... it was dated the 26th
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Family can be hard. I haven't had to deal with any issues YET.
morning Nan......as Bee said we will be here lol. You may be one of the lucky ones who have a family that are pretty much together.
In dysfuntional families... We change and they dont...sometimes thats difficult because we see a lot of crazy stuff we missed before. But if you accept you cannot change anyone else but you and stay focused on yourself all will be as it should.
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Originally Posted by nelco
i like when the sea is wild like that. that was possibly me splashing you from the other side. lol
later everyone xx
later everyone xx
Me too, but there was only a narrow space to walk on and it was too close to the waves. I found a dry place and just watched for a while.
Splashing from the other side, how surreal!
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Morning!
Thank you for sharing Nel and you, too, Bee. I, too, come from a dysfunctional family. For a long while, I blamed my alcoholism on my genes. I think that I have finally realized that where it came from and why are irrelevant...what does matter is how I deal with it. To own it as mine, I guess. My family does offer me examples of various stages and forms of alcoholism: never recovered, never acknowledged, recovered, but dry. But you are right, we cannot control others' lives...why is that so hard to accept? Those 2 words that you used, Nell, popped out of your post for me: lack of control and acceptance. These two concepts continue to come up for me and my HP is using a cosmic highlighter to point them out again and again.
Bro...I'm glad that you are posting and trying to understand the crack that undermined you. I am convinced that sobriety is a process. In my meetings, many have said...it took every drink I had to get here. I think that there is value in trying to figure out our weak spots, but equal value in jumping over the whys and just accepting the fact that we can't drink. But honestly, that final, unequivocal acceptance is a mystery and, I think, very individual. Yet it is the one necessary piece of the jigsaw, IMHO.
The beach and ocean...ahhhhhhhh, yes....well I think it reminds us of how insignificant we are. All of it's moods are so profound and it just stretches on and on..
Obviously, Ro...I got mine and your profundity dosage this a.m.....
Thank you for sharing Nel and you, too, Bee. I, too, come from a dysfunctional family. For a long while, I blamed my alcoholism on my genes. I think that I have finally realized that where it came from and why are irrelevant...what does matter is how I deal with it. To own it as mine, I guess. My family does offer me examples of various stages and forms of alcoholism: never recovered, never acknowledged, recovered, but dry. But you are right, we cannot control others' lives...why is that so hard to accept? Those 2 words that you used, Nell, popped out of your post for me: lack of control and acceptance. These two concepts continue to come up for me and my HP is using a cosmic highlighter to point them out again and again.
Bro...I'm glad that you are posting and trying to understand the crack that undermined you. I am convinced that sobriety is a process. In my meetings, many have said...it took every drink I had to get here. I think that there is value in trying to figure out our weak spots, but equal value in jumping over the whys and just accepting the fact that we can't drink. But honestly, that final, unequivocal acceptance is a mystery and, I think, very individual. Yet it is the one necessary piece of the jigsaw, IMHO.
The beach and ocean...ahhhhhhhh, yes....well I think it reminds us of how insignificant we are. All of it's moods are so profound and it just stretches on and on..
Obviously, Ro...I got mine and your profundity dosage this a.m.....
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Lis, you have been very deep lately in your posts. Doing a lot of soul searching which is a good thing. 
I look at the ocean, and if ever I had any questions of a HP, there are none, both the beauty and the danger of the ocean, the vastness, those amazing waves, how it can go from calm to completely stormy in a matter of minutes, just totally amazes me. It is so beautiful but so deadly in the same minute. For me, being on a beach brings the silence I so search for sometimes, its there, right there.
I look at the ocean, and if ever I had any questions of a HP, there are none, both the beauty and the danger of the ocean, the vastness, those amazing waves, how it can go from calm to completely stormy in a matter of minutes, just totally amazes me. It is so beautiful but so deadly in the same minute. For me, being on a beach brings the silence I so search for sometimes, its there, right there.
going over to the aunt's soon - emptying out a big empty moldy trunk full of mismatched ice skates. 
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Morning peeps!
Funny you're talking about family. The meeting last night was Step 12 and spreading the message, and I kept thinking about my dad. Maybe in more time my dad will feel more comfortable in being honest with me because he can trust me. Even when my dad was sober, he always feels like the outcast of the family, the one with the drinking problem, and uses that to be secretive.
Anyway, I will be picking up a 30 day chip next week. Can I ask for one at 28 days?
Funny you're talking about family. The meeting last night was Step 12 and spreading the message, and I kept thinking about my dad. Maybe in more time my dad will feel more comfortable in being honest with me because he can trust me. Even when my dad was sober, he always feels like the outcast of the family, the one with the drinking problem, and uses that to be secretive.
Anyway, I will be picking up a 30 day chip next week. Can I ask for one at 28 days?
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Why would you want to pick up a 30 day chip at 28 days, stay where your feet are Scoob, today is 28 days not 30. For me, I don't believe in accepting a coin/chip before the exact date, I'd rather pick it up later than earlier.
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Originally Posted by Believe808
Lis, you have been very deep lately in your posts. Doing a lot of soul searching which is a good thing.
I look at the ocean, and if ever I had any questions of a HP, there are none, both the beauty and the danger of the ocean, the vastness, those amazing waves, how it can go from calm to completely stormy in a matter of minutes, just totally amazes me. It is so beautiful but so deadly in the same minute. For me, being on a beach brings the silence I so search for sometimes, its there, right there.
I look at the ocean, and if ever I had any questions of a HP, there are none, both the beauty and the danger of the ocean, the vastness, those amazing waves, how it can go from calm to completely stormy in a matter of minutes, just totally amazes me. It is so beautiful but so deadly in the same minute. For me, being on a beach brings the silence I so search for sometimes, its there, right there.
Marlee...I'm sure Bee and Nel will have an answer for that...I was thinking the same thing, though...Does 28 days, 30 or 31 count as amonth...or do you go by date? Welcome to Anal Alcoholics Anonymous!
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My buddy Orland asked me last night if I had a month yet, I said next week was 4 weeks and he mentioned getting a chip. I don't know. I guess the answer is no then? I will wait until Friday if I make that meeting. Was just askin.
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No worries.
Bee, that was basically my question also, would/should I ask for it on Tuesday or wait? I didn't know if I misunderstood him or not.
I'm not trying to step ahead on anything, i'm too ignorant of the process for that.
Bee, that was basically my question also, would/should I ask for it on Tuesday or wait? I didn't know if I misunderstood him or not.
I'm not trying to step ahead on anything, i'm too ignorant of the process for that.
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