Whiners Anonymous Part 15
bona fido dog-lover
Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: SF Bay area, CA
Posts: 99,784
Have laid in bed wide awake since going to bed at 11:30. I'm too tired to sit up and only want to lay my heavy head down and sleep... but can't sleep, no matter what.
I am so tired, and so tired of having trouble getting to sleep!
I am so tired, and so tired of having trouble getting to sleep!
Ann, some days, especially when I've not had much sleep, I don't even need to dress up as a cranky woman....
bona fido dog-lover
Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: SF Bay area, CA
Posts: 99,784
Not sleeping well last night probably due to 16 yr olds tantrum over my refusal to drive at night in the rain to her foster home to "get something". She knows I don't drive at night but nags and whines til I give in. I didn't give in. I paid a taxi to take her back up there so she could be where her 'things' are that she wanted so badly.
She doesn't nag mentor or foster mom cause she knows she can't get her way by whining or nagging, but whines and nags me for any little reason. We were going to spend the weekend together but I'm not caving in to a 16 yr old's tantrum. When she was very young and threw tantrums in the grocery store I left my cart where it stood and took her home immediately. Same strategy here too. I will not let her whine and nag me to get her way.
She has to learn that my 'no' means 'no', and not 'nag and whine louder'. I emailed mentor to tell her why she did not spend the night and that I refuse to cave in to her demands. I do not have to take her nasty attitude and behavior and certainly won't reward it by giving in.
My anxiety this morning is thru the roof and is literally making me sick.
She doesn't nag mentor or foster mom cause she knows she can't get her way by whining or nagging, but whines and nags me for any little reason. We were going to spend the weekend together but I'm not caving in to a 16 yr old's tantrum. When she was very young and threw tantrums in the grocery store I left my cart where it stood and took her home immediately. Same strategy here too. I will not let her whine and nag me to get her way.
She has to learn that my 'no' means 'no', and not 'nag and whine louder'. I emailed mentor to tell her why she did not spend the night and that I refuse to cave in to her demands. I do not have to take her nasty attitude and behavior and certainly won't reward it by giving in.
My anxiety this morning is thru the roof and is literally making me sick.
bona fido dog-lover
Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: SF Bay area, CA
Posts: 99,784
Thanks all! It's so damn hard to deal with this crap without going off the deep end. Just talked to youngest and we're going to try this overnight thing again tonight. I am trying to be patient and understanding of her 'issues' but without letting her do as she pleases. Am really feeling sick today. My anxiety manifests itself in physical illness. I just feel sick to my stomach all the time. Feel so sick now I'd like to lie down but am so anxious and agitated I can't sit still, much less take a nap.
Well, even if I do feel like I'm 'losing my grip' at least I won't drink over it.
Well, even if I do feel like I'm 'losing my grip' at least I won't drink over it.
Member
Join Date: Aug 2008
Location: Northeast US
Posts: 1,340
<--- in awe of parents. ESPECIALLY parents in recovery! I mean, it looks like a hard enough "job" as it is, but then keeping your sobriety through the ups and downs, man. I can't imagine.
Least, is there a thread? Parenting in recovery? Seems like there should be. I hope to be one of you someday so I'd like to hear about the issues. I'll get my lurk on.
Least, is there a thread? Parenting in recovery? Seems like there should be. I hope to be one of you someday so I'd like to hear about the issues. I'll get my lurk on.
IO Storm
Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: Southern California
Posts: 18,436
Least, my friend...
Please..I hope you take this the right way. Reading your post..I got a picture
in my head of a 16 year old girl, sitting in a shopping basket in the middle
of a store, with her legs hanging down..crying for "something".
(I watched Super Nanny last night..must be where I got it... lol)
Seems she's still doing it...
Good for you for sticking to your stuff!
That's the spirit!!
:ghug3:
Please..I hope you take this the right way. Reading your post..I got a picture
in my head of a 16 year old girl, sitting in a shopping basket in the middle
of a store, with her legs hanging down..crying for "something".
(I watched Super Nanny last night..must be where I got it... lol)
Seems she's still doing it...
Good for you for sticking to your stuff!
That's the spirit!!
:ghug3:
Old & Sober Member of AA
Join Date: Nov 2005
Location: Nursing Home in Brick, New Jersey
Posts: 5,174
Skipped through the posts...trying to read and post before we get shut down for "upgrading". Wish someone would upgrade me...I could use a major overhaul.
Have a good night, all...sleep well.
Have a good night, all...sleep well.
Guest
Join Date: Sep 2008
Posts: 4,151
Good Morning Whiners
:ghug3 for Least, Scardey, Jersey (cos she wants an overhaul!!)
My whine today.....well our clocks have gone back an hour to GMT so it'll be really dark about 4pm today....and it's raining...urggghhhh. I hate it when the clocks go back here!
:ghug3 for Least, Scardey, Jersey (cos she wants an overhaul!!)
My whine today.....well our clocks have gone back an hour to GMT so it'll be really dark about 4pm today....and it's raining...urggghhhh. I hate it when the clocks go back here!
Nature Girl
Join Date: Mar 2002
Location: By The Lake
Posts: 60,328
Ours in Ontario (maybe all of Canada?) don't go back until next weekend...they changed it from the last Sunday in Oct. to the first Sunday in Nov. I love the extra hour sleep in the fall back change.
I almost whined about the rain here but then realized that all too soon it will become snow and that's when the real Whinathon begins.
So today I am resting, gathering my strength for the annual "first snow" whine.
I almost whined about the rain here but then realized that all too soon it will become snow and that's when the real Whinathon begins.
So today I am resting, gathering my strength for the annual "first snow" whine.
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