Message or manipulation?
Belgian Sheepdog Adictee
Join Date: Apr 2004
Location: In Today
Posts: 6,101
(((((KE)))))
Far far from being a fool, you are a LOVING MOTHER of an ADDICT, who practices a program of recovery for her own SANITY.
You did good, you came here, you shared what happened and your fears and you got SUPPORT.
Many of you know how my 'parents and family' 'kicked me out of their lives.' As I have said it was the BEST THING that they ever did for me.
It wasn't until years into my recovery that I found out that even though I had moved across the country to California, my mother did get word of me periodically. Some day I will share the 'how she did that' but suffice it to say for now, that she used my Godfather, who had quite an information network and who had retired to Palm Springs.
Mothers do NOT stop loving their addicts. Mothers many times step away for the good of themselves and in the long run eventually most times for the good of their addict.
My mom, never stopped loving me, just as the mothers on here do not stop loving their addicts. I do know that for a long time my mother did DESPISE ME and the ACTIONS I was doing while under the influence of the addiction.
KE you are a loving MOM with one hell of a message, that you share freely.
Thank you so much for continuing to share you ES&H with all of us!!!!!!
Love and hugs,
I feel like a fool for letting him "get me" once again.
You did good, you came here, you shared what happened and your fears and you got SUPPORT.
Many of you know how my 'parents and family' 'kicked me out of their lives.' As I have said it was the BEST THING that they ever did for me.
It wasn't until years into my recovery that I found out that even though I had moved across the country to California, my mother did get word of me periodically. Some day I will share the 'how she did that' but suffice it to say for now, that she used my Godfather, who had quite an information network and who had retired to Palm Springs.
Mothers do NOT stop loving their addicts. Mothers many times step away for the good of themselves and in the long run eventually most times for the good of their addict.
My mom, never stopped loving me, just as the mothers on here do not stop loving their addicts. I do know that for a long time my mother did DESPISE ME and the ACTIONS I was doing while under the influence of the addiction.
KE you are a loving MOM with one hell of a message, that you share freely.
Thank you so much for continuing to share you ES&H with all of us!!!!!!
Love and hugs,
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Join Date: May 2008
Location: Burnsville, MN
Posts: 966
Kindeyes,
I also wanted to share my respect for you and for your compassionate posts filled with your experience, strength and hope. I enjoy reading your replies to members because I know they will be well thought out and useful.
I'm so glad this was just a bump in what appears to be your very strong dedication to yourself and your serenity. You are a good example to live up to!
Thanks.
I also wanted to share my respect for you and for your compassionate posts filled with your experience, strength and hope. I enjoy reading your replies to members because I know they will be well thought out and useful.
I'm so glad this was just a bump in what appears to be your very strong dedication to yourself and your serenity. You are a good example to live up to!
Thanks.
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Join Date: Dec 2004
Location: The Burgh
Posts: 1,991
(((KE)))
You are no fool.
I shudder to think of the day that I have hardened my heart to the point of not feeling an emotional when something happens, such as what happened with the box. We are a bit smarter than before, but we are still human, with emotions.
I don't ever want to not feel.
I'm glad things worked out as best they could.
You are no fool.
I shudder to think of the day that I have hardened my heart to the point of not feeling an emotional when something happens, such as what happened with the box. We are a bit smarter than before, but we are still human, with emotions.
I don't ever want to not feel.
I'm glad things worked out as best they could.
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Join Date: Mar 2012
Location: MI
Posts: 452
KE, just saw this thread. Wow, you've been through the wringer! So sorry that you had to go through this, and grateful and relieved that your son is apparently alive and functioning. Such a cruel manipulation, but better than the alternative. Praying for you, your husband, and your son.
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Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: Louisiana
Posts: 216
KE:
I just read the post and glad it wasn't the worst. Your gentle words have always settled my soul in my darkest moments, as many other post have.
As CeCe so wisely put it "we are still human, with emotions". I am thankful that today I can have emotions. For so long I walked around in a void bc it was all too painful. I still grieve for my losses daily, but I do not stay in it as long. This board has helped me to survive what felt like "the daily burial of my ACs".
Huggs to all,
Hope
I just read the post and glad it wasn't the worst. Your gentle words have always settled my soul in my darkest moments, as many other post have.
As CeCe so wisely put it "we are still human, with emotions". I am thankful that today I can have emotions. For so long I walked around in a void bc it was all too painful. I still grieve for my losses daily, but I do not stay in it as long. This board has helped me to survive what felt like "the daily burial of my ACs".
Huggs to all,
Hope
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Join Date: Dec 2007
Location: The Jungle
Posts: 5,435
I continue to be so very grateful for each and every single one of you. I'm not really hurting at this point. Relieved. Perhaps. Angry. Have to admit that, yah, I'm a bit angry. My dear husband said "Sweetie......it's about time to use some anger. Get mad. It's ok." Gosh I love that man.
Laurie - I am always particularly grateful for the double winners here on SR F&FSA. It was recovering addicts who first started me on the path to recognize my own participation in the dance of addiction. I will be forever grateful for their honesty and helping to open my eyes to my own denial. Denial runs deep. Your kind words expressing your own experiences are very helpful. Thank you.
again....thank you all for your love and compassion.
gentle hugs
ke
Laurie - I am always particularly grateful for the double winners here on SR F&FSA. It was recovering addicts who first started me on the path to recognize my own participation in the dance of addiction. I will be forever grateful for their honesty and helping to open my eyes to my own denial. Denial runs deep. Your kind words expressing your own experiences are very helpful. Thank you.
again....thank you all for your love and compassion.
gentle hugs
ke
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Join Date: Sep 2010
Location: Ireland
Posts: 1,641
Kindeyes, glad you are okay.
You are a good egg.
Thinking, I think it is really different being a mother. That little brat was inside you for 9 months. I think you guys need your own book.
Slightly more complicated than with BF/GF, husband/wife/ or sibling even.
The other really complicated one is a parent. When they get old and helpless.
okay, thinking........
You are a good egg.
Thinking, I think it is really different being a mother. That little brat was inside you for 9 months. I think you guys need your own book.
Slightly more complicated than with BF/GF, husband/wife/ or sibling even.
The other really complicated one is a parent. When they get old and helpless.
okay, thinking........
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