Should I try to get out?
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Morphine usually isn't available on the street, however, a + result for Morphine on these home tests could be the category for opiates as morphine is an opiate. Nonetheless, I think you already had your confirmation of drug use even before the drug test (behaviors, lies, etc., etc.).
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It's most likely, his drug of choice, heroin which breaks down into morphine. But you already knew this, on some level, didn't you?
Marrying someone because you believe that marriage and/or parenthood is going to compel them to change is not the best of plans.
If caring for or loving someone enough was a cure for addiction, none of us would be on this forum.
Not one of us has power over someone else's addiction. It's not about us.
Marrying someone because you believe that marriage and/or parenthood is going to compel them to change is not the best of plans.
If caring for or loving someone enough was a cure for addiction, none of us would be on this forum.
Not one of us has power over someone else's addiction. It's not about us.
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It's most likely, his drug of choice, heroin which breaks down into morphine. But you already knew this, on some level, didn't you?
Heroin metabolizes into morphine, codeine, and 6-MAM
Yes that is correct.
Heroin use was likely if there's a history of it.
Now it is The End for sure.
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and his mom emailed me.. she was a total b*tch.....
"It does not really matter. He used some sort of opiates and that is it. that is why I did not support the idea of going to quick detox. The longer you stay on methadone the better are the results of treatment. Once he is out, we will go and see the specialist."
"It does not really matter. He used some sort of opiates and that is it. that is why I did not support the idea of going to quick detox. The longer you stay on methadone the better are the results of treatment. Once he is out, we will go and see the specialist."
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Hi Dream,
I feel your pain, for the last 7 years...the eyes, the bathroom trips, (he itched lots with welts on his back when after he came down)...he kept generic benadryl....the whole nine yards. I made up my mind quickly I would not marry him after I let him live with me a year and a half when we first re-united. I kicked him out after finding paraphernalia he denied was his. So flash to now, I still held onto him and the horrid rollercoaster because "he is the love of my life". However, as time went on his denial while gazing into my eyes began to escalate into rants of him leaving, slamming the door, cursing at me loudly in front of my neighbors...then I would break up...then 2 to 3 weeks later take him back with an apology..for the last 4 years. Now the last years or so after I confronted him about using, he now has resorted to cursing at me, degrading my body, telling me he needs to find a prostitute to make him feel better, (not the man I knew before)...so now he has done this 3 times too many and I think I am finally ready to get off of the rollercoaster. I'm tired, my heart is ragged from being broken, being lied to while he looks at me....just tired. I made up my mind he wont manipulate me back again, no matter how much I love him and no matter how many sober good memories.
Every situation is different, but I think you made the right decision, and I am sorry this has happened to you too, especially the trust part....take it from me, it hurts badly.
Love,
GG
I feel your pain, for the last 7 years...the eyes, the bathroom trips, (he itched lots with welts on his back when after he came down)...he kept generic benadryl....the whole nine yards. I made up my mind quickly I would not marry him after I let him live with me a year and a half when we first re-united. I kicked him out after finding paraphernalia he denied was his. So flash to now, I still held onto him and the horrid rollercoaster because "he is the love of my life". However, as time went on his denial while gazing into my eyes began to escalate into rants of him leaving, slamming the door, cursing at me loudly in front of my neighbors...then I would break up...then 2 to 3 weeks later take him back with an apology..for the last 4 years. Now the last years or so after I confronted him about using, he now has resorted to cursing at me, degrading my body, telling me he needs to find a prostitute to make him feel better, (not the man I knew before)...so now he has done this 3 times too many and I think I am finally ready to get off of the rollercoaster. I'm tired, my heart is ragged from being broken, being lied to while he looks at me....just tired. I made up my mind he wont manipulate me back again, no matter how much I love him and no matter how many sober good memories.
Every situation is different, but I think you made the right decision, and I am sorry this has happened to you too, especially the trust part....take it from me, it hurts badly.
Love,
GG
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Dream Anger - good for you! I know that you are having mixed feelings but I hope that this brings you some peace. People that love you only want what is best for you and I bet that you will be getting a whole lot of support. I sure wish that I had sent out emails, text messages, and any other message doing the same thing that you've done. I would have saved myself a whole heap of hurting in the long run.
Glad to get your update. Hang in there!
Glad to get your update. Hang in there!
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Just checking in with you to see how you are doing. Thinking about you!
He has been in jail since wednesday..... and that was the first day he called. I did not hear anything from him today.
I went out with my friends and it was great. I think that the only time I think about him the most is when im alone....
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Good to here that you are doing so well. Also that you didn't answer the calls. Becarefull of that, I almost needed a bank loan to pay off all those long distance calls. That was my own fault, nobody was twisting my arm to pick up the phone.
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(((DreamAngel))) Keep us posted as the days go by. You have a very good head on your shoulder and are an inspiration for those needing strength.
Wow, that must have been hard to not pick up the phone!! But good for you. You are helping him, y'know.
Wow, that must have been hard to not pick up the phone!! But good for you. You are helping him, y'know.
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Keep us posted as the days go by.
Have you thought more about possibly going to check out an Alanon/Naranon meeting?
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Alanon can make you feel whole again. I urge you to put yourself on the list at this time. If you have time to take care of animals, you must make some time to take care of you! Anything you put before your recovery, you will end up losing to your disease.
Love,
KJ
Love,
KJ
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