Need support, part 2
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Only a little sleep and now time to get kids to school then head to work. I want to stay home but can't risk taking more time off of work right now. But it is gonna be hard to work. I have to put on my happy face and take care of others all day.
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OT- I for one am glad you had your kids last night and couldn't rush to the hospital. You seem to be getting stronger each time. No one can do this but you. I'm praying you find the strength to leave this man soon.
I think he is a dangerous man and that he is fully aware of what he is doing to you. I worry about your mental and physical health while with him.
I think he is a dangerous man and that he is fully aware of what he is doing to you. I worry about your mental and physical health while with him.
If you can work that hard for someone who gives you nothing but pain, exhaustion and heartache, going to your job where at least you get paid and likely get a little appreciation for your efforts should be a snap.
Make the right choice. How is this time going to turn out different than the last 589, 302 times? YOU get to say!
Glad you got some rest. He's in good hands--leave him alone. According to the cops this was a typical alcohol-fueled accident. Alcoholics do all kinds of stupid stuff. Thankfully no one else was hurt (other than you).
Do NOT let him back into your home, no matter what sob story he gives you. He has USED YOU for the last time, I hope. He may very well claim this was his "wake-up call"--don't buy it. Every time he comes back he is full of promises and you wind up back in this same place.
Hugs, the work will probably be a good distraction. And nothing wrong with putting on a happy face. Sometimes when I do that, it actually does lift my mood.
Do NOT let him back into your home, no matter what sob story he gives you. He has USED YOU for the last time, I hope. He may very well claim this was his "wake-up call"--don't buy it. Every time he comes back he is full of promises and you wind up back in this same place.
Hugs, the work will probably be a good distraction. And nothing wrong with putting on a happy face. Sometimes when I do that, it actually does lift my mood.
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OT,
I have an idea, go through this thread and the other and write down 1. his reasons for leaving each time and 2. the empty promises and excuses he gives each time he returns. Maybe you will see each time it is the same ole song and dance. When he tries to come back this time, read those lists!
I have an idea, go through this thread and the other and write down 1. his reasons for leaving each time and 2. the empty promises and excuses he gives each time he returns. Maybe you will see each time it is the same ole song and dance. When he tries to come back this time, read those lists!
Well, it sounds like he was in good hands. The hospital and police can take care of him with absolutely no involvement from you.
Jobs can be an excellent distraction if you let them. I would let the police know you don't want any further phone calls regarding him, that you are no longer involved. That will stop that.
LET THIS GO, and give yourself some much needed peace.
Jobs can be an excellent distraction if you let them. I would let the police know you don't want any further phone calls regarding him, that you are no longer involved. That will stop that.
LET THIS GO, and give yourself some much needed peace.
Absolutely. Gives you something else to focus on, gives you opportunities to feel good about what you've accomplished, gives you structure, gives you interaction w/other people, gives you a change of scenery.
Again, absolutely. Simply say "I am not responsible for him. Please do not contact me again regarding him." Or don't even answer the phone. Nothing says you have to...
I would let the police know you don't want any further phone calls regarding him, that you are no longer involved.
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It has been a long day. Even though I wanted to go to the hospital i went to work, fed my kids, and we went to my son's chorus and band concert. My kids just left to sleep at my ex husbands which leaves me alone and increases my anxiety.
I don5 know it I already wrote this but the first time I called the hospital today they told me what room he was in and connected me to it but no one answered. When I called back later, they first said he wasn't there. When I said I called earlier and knew what unit and room he was in they said it was confidential. I asked them what if it was a family member who called and they said they still couldn't give the info. I asked what if I go there can I see him.and they said no. I asked well then how can I check on him and his condition. And share information wiith thr dr. And th3y said i cant
I don5 know it I already wrote this but the first time I called the hospital today they told me what room he was in and connected me to it but no one answered. When I called back later, they first said he wasn't there. When I said I called earlier and knew what unit and room he was in they said it was confidential. I asked them what if it was a family member who called and they said they still couldn't give the info. I asked what if I go there can I see him.and they said no. I asked well then how can I check on him and his condition. And share information wiith thr dr. And th3y said i cant
Maybe he asked the hospital not to give out any info. His right to do that.
I'd stop calling, stop checking. I'm glad the universe stepped in and prevented you from getting back into this.
Hope you get some good rest tonight. Everything's OK.
I'd stop calling, stop checking. I'm glad the universe stepped in and prevented you from getting back into this.
Hope you get some good rest tonight. Everything's OK.
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HIPPA is a big thing. The person who gave out the information first violated that rule. Health care providers can release information only to the patient unless the patient signs a release of information. It's ok to step back and allow him to handle his life.
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He called me last night briefly after he got to the hospital and told me he was hurt and he was at the hospital but couldn't talk. Said he would call today. I have a friend who is a police dispatcher who said since he is under arrest security might be extra tight. Also, if he was under the influence which is highly likely, and he had something illegal in his system or said he was suicidal or if the police passed on to the hospital the info about the endangered missing report I had filed on him he could have been put on a psych/behavioral health or drug /alcohol tx unit and not able to access phone. ( i had very little access to a phone when I got sent to the behavioral health hospital for 2 days). I dunno. I guess I shouldn't be thinking about it this hard.
It is just surreal. This situation. And this is the longest he has ever been gone.
Thank you all for your input and support.
It is just surreal. This situation. And this is the longest he has ever been gone.
Thank you all for your input and support.
OK, OT4Kids. I have a very off-topic post that is not about your ex. I suspect that you may appreciate it because you have kids.
You know I'm recovering from surgery right? My son has had rash on his arm and it's been there for a couple days. My husband took him to Urgent Care this afternoon. They both came home, and my son comes running up the stairs to my bedroom.
"Guess what Mom! I have strep! No school tomorrow for me!"
And he does a happy dance on my bed and gets his grimy strep-infested hands all over wall. Then he bounces downstairs and he reenacts a football play in our living room.
You bet your life I pulled out the Lysol! After, of course, reminding him to wash his hands.
I did not know that you did not have to have a sore throat and fever to have strep. I know now.
You know I'm recovering from surgery right? My son has had rash on his arm and it's been there for a couple days. My husband took him to Urgent Care this afternoon. They both came home, and my son comes running up the stairs to my bedroom.
"Guess what Mom! I have strep! No school tomorrow for me!"
And he does a happy dance on my bed and gets his grimy strep-infested hands all over wall. Then he bounces downstairs and he reenacts a football play in our living room.
You bet your life I pulled out the Lysol! After, of course, reminding him to wash his hands.
I did not know that you did not have to have a sore throat and fever to have strep. I know now.
It is just surreal.
really???? after all you have been thru with this guy's disappearing acts, the calls to the cops, missing person reports, car tows, detox, thousands of dollars wasted......you are still surprised by any of this??? it's time to connect the dots......
really???? after all you have been thru with this guy's disappearing acts, the calls to the cops, missing person reports, car tows, detox, thousands of dollars wasted......you are still surprised by any of this??? it's time to connect the dots......
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