QUACKERs.... Part 2
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Me: Everyday that you drive you put an innocent life at risk because you're drunk!
Him: I dont drive drunk drunk! I drive drunk! There is a difference!
Me: WTF is drunk drunk?!!!!!!!!!!
Him: *starts staggering towards me babbling* That's drunk drunk!
Me: You're an IDIOT! God!!!!!!!!!
Him: I dont drive drunk drunk! I drive drunk! There is a difference!
Me: WTF is drunk drunk?!!!!!!!!!!
Him: *starts staggering towards me babbling* That's drunk drunk!
Me: You're an IDIOT! God!!!!!!!!!
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I am so torn about this thread.... I have so many things that I can put here about my EXAG-but I won't. I feel like it is making fun of the handicapped. I know her comments/statements are coming from her illness.
But please keep posting- I like reading everyone else's.
But please keep posting- I like reading everyone else's.
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Originally Posted by Crazed 
I am so torn about this thread.... I have so many things that I can put here about my EXAG-but I won't. I feel like it is making fun of the handicapped. I know her comments/statements are coming from her illness.
Seeing these statements as the ludicrous quacks that they are draws the sting and allows us not to let them hurt us. It's perfectly possible to maintain a sense of compassion even while shaking our heads at the incredible things that come out of their alcoholic minds.
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I never thought about it that way, Crazed, but I think I agree with Lexie. Recognizing that the stuff that comes out of their mouths is BS is essential for healing. It isn't our fault that it is sometimes so absurd, it is comical. Plus, if I were an alcoholic who had put a loved one through hell, I much rather said loved one shared a bunch of crap I had talked, than the fact I crapped in my pants or drove drunk, or any of the other wonderful things A's can do while drunk. Where do we draw the line at what is appropriate to share? IMO, SR is anonymous so anything that helps us or others to heal is fair game.
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I feel this way about the disabled/handicapped... They don't have a choice in the matter of disability. An alcoholic does! They can put down the drink and work a program. I don't care who argues with that statement. It's my opinion and I'm not changing it.
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Whhhhhaaaaatttt!!! You are so much better than me, I could not have held that laugh, it would've came straight from my soul. Where do they come up with this stuff???
Originally Posted by rocker
Love this thread!
My AH was on the phone with his band mate in England discussing a project they're working on.
He also drank 5 beers in about 4.5 hours. Not drunk per se.. but definitely not sober either.
He comes in to talk to me:
AH: Wow, he was smoking pot while he was on the phone with me.
ME: How did that make you feel?
AH: Like he just wasn't present at all.
ME: Yeah, I bet. I totally get that.
AH: Yeah, pot is so different to alcohol. I mean.. when he's high it actually alters his belief system. Whereas, alcohol makes you kinda sober.
ME: (Quietly nodding my head and paying attention to washing dishes in sink because if I start laughing and or calling him out... it will turn into a huge argument.)
WOW.
Alcohol makes you kinda sober.
There's one for the books eh?
My AH was on the phone with his band mate in England discussing a project they're working on.
He also drank 5 beers in about 4.5 hours. Not drunk per se.. but definitely not sober either.
He comes in to talk to me:
AH: Wow, he was smoking pot while he was on the phone with me.
ME: How did that make you feel?
AH: Like he just wasn't present at all.
ME: Yeah, I bet. I totally get that.
AH: Yeah, pot is so different to alcohol. I mean.. when he's high it actually alters his belief system. Whereas, alcohol makes you kinda sober.
ME: (Quietly nodding my head and paying attention to washing dishes in sink because if I start laughing and or calling him out... it will turn into a huge argument.)
WOW.
Alcohol makes you kinda sober.
There's one for the books eh?
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After an unneccessary argument my AH picks up 2 of my candy bars and throws them at me
AH: This is all you want, all you care about!
Me: Obviously not cuz I haven't eaten them...
AH: When are you going to start taking better care of yourself?
Me: *blank stare* this is not a conversation we need to have sir!
AH: Rambles drunkenly!!!
*how is an A going to give me a lecture on health when his liver hates him?*
AH: This is all you want, all you care about!
Me: Obviously not cuz I haven't eaten them...
AH: When are you going to start taking better care of yourself?
Me: *blank stare* this is not a conversation we need to have sir!
AH: Rambles drunkenly!!!
*how is an A going to give me a lecture on health when his liver hates him?*
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Sitting out on the porch to be alone...
AH comes out, sits down and says, This is effed up how you are treating me! He gets back up and goes inside.
1 minute later, he comes back out, sits down and says, Everything will be okay. It will be okay! Gets back up and goes inside.
1 minute later, he comes back out, sits down and says, You are such a *****! Who did you go see?! Your boyfriend?! Gets back up and goes inside.
1 minute later, he comes back out, sits down and says, I can't trust you! Gets back up and goes inside.
1 minute later, he comes back out, sits down and says, I've never loved anyone as much as I love you! Gets back up and goes inside!
Dear Lord Help Me!!! AUGH.........
AH comes out, sits down and says, This is effed up how you are treating me! He gets back up and goes inside.
1 minute later, he comes back out, sits down and says, Everything will be okay. It will be okay! Gets back up and goes inside.
1 minute later, he comes back out, sits down and says, You are such a *****! Who did you go see?! Your boyfriend?! Gets back up and goes inside.
1 minute later, he comes back out, sits down and says, I can't trust you! Gets back up and goes inside.
1 minute later, he comes back out, sits down and says, I've never loved anyone as much as I love you! Gets back up and goes inside!
Dear Lord Help Me!!! AUGH.........
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Background: exABF is in rehab for the umpteenth time. ExABF calls for support/someone to listen to, I sometimes answer. ExABF's parents don't like us being in contact as 'you are the reason he drinks'. Absurd enough, but anyways. ExABF's parents are functioning alcoholics. I'm a lawyer.
ExABF's mother on the phone to me: Don't call him, don't contact him. You're the reason he's ended up where he is.
Me: I don't think so, I didn't put the bottle in his hand. And anyway, he called me, not vice versa.
ExABF's mother: He wouldn't do that. I told him not to.
Me: He's an alcoholic...I'm not sure he can follow directions as well as most people.
ExABF's mother: He can. And I tell you, I'll come into your office and make such a scene you won't know what's hit you. I'll report you to the police.
Me: I don't really think I've done anything wrong. And definitely not anything criminal.
ExABF's mother: I'm sure there's something. I'll find something. You'll be sorry.
Me: I am a lawyer, and I really don't think there's anything wrong here.
[ExABF's mother hangs up the phone]
I'm still waiting to see a writ, police turn up at my door, etc. Nothing yet.
ExABF's mother on the phone to me: Don't call him, don't contact him. You're the reason he's ended up where he is.
Me: I don't think so, I didn't put the bottle in his hand. And anyway, he called me, not vice versa.
ExABF's mother: He wouldn't do that. I told him not to.
Me: He's an alcoholic...I'm not sure he can follow directions as well as most people.
ExABF's mother: He can. And I tell you, I'll come into your office and make such a scene you won't know what's hit you. I'll report you to the police.
Me: I don't really think I've done anything wrong. And definitely not anything criminal.
ExABF's mother: I'm sure there's something. I'll find something. You'll be sorry.
Me: I am a lawyer, and I really don't think there's anything wrong here.
[ExABF's mother hangs up the phone]
I'm still waiting to see a writ, police turn up at my door, etc. Nothing yet.
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Quacking at the hospital...
"Gee they won't even let me have wine with my meal. Not that I care about the wine, of course."
Next time I call, "they are giving me these terrific antianxiety shots now, boy do they ever work great! They put a shot in my IV every 8 hours. They said I can't drink with it though because it is like Antabuse."
Hmmmm...wonder why they have to give him those tranquilizer shots...
Next time I call, "they are giving me these terrific antianxiety shots now, boy do they ever work great! They put a shot in my IV every 8 hours. They said I can't drink with it though because it is like Antabuse."
Hmmmm...wonder why they have to give him those tranquilizer shots...
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I had a conversation, this week, with a neighborhood acquaintance--the day after he returned from the ER with a sutured gash on his head. He explained that he had fallen off a stool after getting drunk at a neighborhood bar. He had 2 stents replaced in his heart 2 days before and they changed his old blood pressure medication to a newer, "stronger" one.
Me: "Yes, it is very dangerous to drink on blood pressure pills"
HIM: " I absolutely agree--those blood pressure pills can be tricky"
Denial?
dandylion (shaking head)
Me: "Yes, it is very dangerous to drink on blood pressure pills"
HIM: " I absolutely agree--those blood pressure pills can be tricky"
Denial?
dandylion (shaking head)
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Coming out of lurkdom for a quack
I've been lurking, trying to muster up the courage to post (and to attend an Al-Anon meeting too). Here's a few quacks that come to my mind.
-discussion 1001 regarding my concerns with his drinking-
"I know I have a problem, and I'm going to cut down. I watched my brother become a screwed up alcoholic when we were teens. I'm not going to make his mistakes."
"You have to tell me when it's a problem, and when I need to stop."
"I quit for a couple weeks, and I was fine."
And another time, when he said his drinking wasn't a problem for him and I'd responded it's increasingly becoming a problem for me.
"I'll keep that in mind." as he buried his head in his laptop.
-discussion 1001 regarding my concerns with his drinking-
"I know I have a problem, and I'm going to cut down. I watched my brother become a screwed up alcoholic when we were teens. I'm not going to make his mistakes."
"You have to tell me when it's a problem, and when I need to stop."
"I quit for a couple weeks, and I was fine."
And another time, when he said his drinking wasn't a problem for him and I'd responded it's increasingly becoming a problem for me.
"I'll keep that in mind." as he buried his head in his laptop.
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