Going to court tomorow
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Join Date: Mar 2005
Location: Lake Luzerne
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It so hurts and it is so necessary. The process helps to being closure, maybe that's the wrong word. Maybe the word is clarity. It brings clarity. In the light of day it feels differently. I think you actualy leave court feeling lighter. It's nice to have a decree that says you aren't associated with any more os that "stuff".
You know how they say, "if I had only known then what I know now". Well, you lived through a tremendous growth experience and came out wiser.
You know how they say, "if I had only known then what I know now". Well, you lived through a tremendous growth experience and came out wiser.
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Join Date: Feb 2007
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Kermie---for me I was soooo happy it was over--I had a party with my closests friends--then I pawned my wedding ring and bought a bottle of wine ( i am not an alcoholic)---for the party---and we burned my wedding dress in a barell in the backyard--I just had to have some kind of ceremony.....But I understand it is alot more difficult for most---my EXAH was one mean abusive man--I was happy to be away from him-not sad--a new door was opening up for me--I could finally have a 'normal''life without all the melodrama---I remember it landed on the 13 th of a month so 13 has always been my luckey number..........Sorry for your pain though and I hope you can turn it around and see that yes it is time for YOU now....
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Join Date: May 2006
Location: Louisiana
Posts: 7,545
Sending thoughts & prayers Kermit that you feel all of us with you & especially that you feel the love & strength of your HP as you walk in the Court Room today.
Peace to you,
Rita
Peace to you,
Rita
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Join Date: Dec 2006
Location: Tulsa, OK
Posts: 42
I am thinking of you today.
Sometimes, no matter whether a divorce was something we wanted or not, there are so many questions and feelings to deal with. I know it is not easy, none of it.
Take care of you...
Sheila
Sometimes, no matter whether a divorce was something we wanted or not, there are so many questions and feelings to deal with. I know it is not easy, none of it.
Take care of you...
Sheila
When Pigs Fly
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Join Date: Jan 2006
Location: california
Posts: 894
Done. I arrived at 8:30 was out by 9:45, got everything I wanted he owes me around 60k, like I will ever see it. Came home and took a long nap. Thanks everyone.. I'm going to be okay
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Join Date: Jan 2006
Location: Los Angeles, CA
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You will be okay, kermit. Glad it went your way. Isn't it funny, I spent so much time being told by AH I was unreasonable (and believing it as I became yet another pretzel shape), yet every time we've been in court, the judge sees it my way.
Go figure.
Go figure.
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Join Date: Mar 2005
Location: Lake Luzerne
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Congrats and rest well! You may see the money because court does keep track that a court order is kept. Once the Judge orders it, he becomes accountable to the court. I think as much as the money is important, doesn't it feel good to have a sane Judge state that you are owed something? It feels very validating.
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Join Date: Apr 2006
Location: OHIO
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kermit - I have a suggestion tooo...when you ex comes into more real estate and if at that time he still owes you any money at all....throw a nice big fat lien on it that way he cant refinace or sell it without paying you off...this is what I am doing with my ex who still owes me arrearage on his spousal...once you have a court order like we do its easy once they have something tangible for you to attach to.
I'm glad its over for you and I know how hard it was for you to do it...hugs going out to you hun.
I'm glad its over for you and I know how hard it was for you to do it...hugs going out to you hun.
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