Kermie---for me I was soooo happy it was over--I had a party with my closests friends--then I pawned my wedding ring and bought a bottle of wine ( i am not an alcoholic)---for the party---and we burned my wedding dress in a barell in the backyard--I just had to have some kind of ceremony.....But I understand it is alot more difficult for most---my EXAH was one mean abusive man--I was happy to be away from him-not sad--a new door was opening up for me--I could finally have a 'normal''life without all the melodrama---I remember it landed on the 13 th of a month so 13 has always been my luckey number..........Sorry for your pain though and I hope you can turn it around and see that yes it is time for YOU now....