Trying..Again.
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Trying..Again.
I've been saying for the last 6 months that "I will seriously try" to quit drinking. Let me just say it's hard for me to do in my house. My spouse drinks. I asked my SO to not have any beer in the house for a week or two. Their response "Your seriously going to make me do this with you". We got into a disagreement about taking out the garbage. Their ending statement was "why don't you just drink, geez". So, I am going alone basically. I have support from 2 close friends (1of whom has been sober for 5 years) but it isn't the same as spousal support.
Long story short, I am here for more help because I just can't do it alone.
Thanks for reading.
Also, I haven't drank since the 4th of July.
Long story short, I am here for more help because I just can't do it alone.
Thanks for reading.
Also, I haven't drank since the 4th of July.
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Welcome Gargamel 
I am sorry to hear that you do not have support at home. It is good you have the support of your friends though. You will find a lot of support and advice here.
Think about joining the July class. It is a great support system & helps with accountability. My June class has been extremely helpful.
You can do it!
I am sorry to hear that you do not have support at home. It is good you have the support of your friends though. You will find a lot of support and advice here.
Think about joining the July class. It is a great support system & helps with accountability. My June class has been extremely helpful.
You can do it!
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Hi Gargamel, there are others here with unsupportive spouses, you are not alone. It may be difficult but I have seen sobriety achieved under this circumstance. Stick with us and reach out often.
And congrats on your current sobriety
And congrats on your current sobriety
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I know a chap who a counsellor told was drinking because of his wife. He got rid of the wife. He is still drinking. His wife was not the cause. Alcoholism was the problem, and recovery from that is not dependent on other people. We can get well regardless of anyone. Our recovery is not dependent on what other people say or do, it is dependant on how much effort, what lengths we are willing to go to to get sober.
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Originally Posted by least 
Even if your spouse doesn't want to get sober, you can still do it for yourself. As long as you want to be sober more than you want to drink, you will succeed.
personally I didn't just want to not drink. I wanted to stop feeling like a useless,worthless,hopeless,helpless POS. I didn't want to hate myself and be living in a crapton of self pity.
there are a lot of people here who have gotten sober without spousal support and with spouses that continued drinking.
you can,too, if ya WANT sobriety.
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Originally Posted by Gottalife
I know a chap who a counsellor told was drinking because of his wife. He got rid of the wife. He is still drinking. His wife was not the cause. Alcoholism was the problem, and recovery from that is not dependent on other people. We can get well regardless of anyone. Our recovery is not dependent on what other people say or do, it is dependant on how much effort, what lengths we are willing to go to to get sober.
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Originally Posted by tomsteve
least posts this and I love the statement- want to be sober more than wanting to drink. that, along with willing to do whatever necessary- willing to go to any lengths- were what helped me.
personally I didn't just want to not drink. I wanted to stop feeling like a useless,worthless,hopeless,helpless POS. I didn't want to hate myself and be living in a crapton of self pity.
there are a lot of people here who have gotten sober without spousal support and with spouses that continued drinking.
you can,too, if ya WANT sobriety.
personally I didn't just want to not drink. I wanted to stop feeling like a useless,worthless,hopeless,helpless POS. I didn't want to hate myself and be living in a crapton of self pity.
there are a lot of people here who have gotten sober without spousal support and with spouses that continued drinking.
you can,too, if ya WANT sobriety.
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Glad you are here, amigo.
Sobriety is a life and death matter.
You may need to be willing to make some life changes sometime.
Stick around and let us know how you are doing.
I agree with Leigh about getting and working a recovery program.
Sobriety is a life and death matter.
You may need to be willing to make some life changes sometime.
Stick around and let us know how you are doing.
I agree with Leigh about getting and working a recovery program.
I'm pretty excited!!
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