Originally Posted by
least 
Even if your spouse doesn't want to get sober, you can still do it for yourself. As long as you want to be sober
more than you want to drink, you will succeed.
least posts this and I love the statement- want to be sober more than wanting to drink. that, along with willing to do whatever necessary- willing to go to any lengths- were what helped me.
personally I didn't just want to not drink. I wanted to stop feeling like a useless,worthless,hopeless,helpless POS. I didn't want to hate myself and be living in a crapton of self pity.
there are a lot of people here who have gotten sober without spousal support and with spouses that continued drinking.
you can,too, if ya WANT sobriety.