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Savage I understand what you are saying. if I were new to these boards, I too would be feeling quite uncomfortable. I took part in this thread and some of my responses were immature and over the top.
I was angry over the thread and felt as if I needed to get my word in. In hindsight it helped none of us.
I appoligize to you Savage! I wish you wouldn't have had to walk in on this.
I was angry over the thread and felt as if I needed to get my word in. In hindsight it helped none of us.
I appoligize to you Savage! I wish you wouldn't have had to walk in on this.
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Join Date: Sep 2008
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Thanks Toomutch...
I don't mean to sound fragile or something, I'm big enough and ugly enough to handle it... lol...
I have spent a lot of time reading on this forum and can very much see this thread is an exception rather than a rule so no worries there.
I can also see people trying to reason with Tomas without being personally insulting... what shocked me is the intensity of his vicious replies... and unfortunately that brings out the defence mechanism in people so of course fists will fly. I would fight back too!
Sadly, the personal attacks need to be ignored... we need to try hard not to sink to levels we wouldn't normally sink to... easier said than done when provoked... but this site is such a great site, it's nicer to see the many other threads with supportive attitudes and diplomatic critisms.
I don't mean to sound fragile or something, I'm big enough and ugly enough to handle it... lol...
I have spent a lot of time reading on this forum and can very much see this thread is an exception rather than a rule so no worries there.
I can also see people trying to reason with Tomas without being personally insulting... what shocked me is the intensity of his vicious replies... and unfortunately that brings out the defence mechanism in people so of course fists will fly. I would fight back too!
Sadly, the personal attacks need to be ignored... we need to try hard not to sink to levels we wouldn't normally sink to... easier said than done when provoked... but this site is such a great site, it's nicer to see the many other threads with supportive attitudes and diplomatic critisms.
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thats not my experience
my friend in AA when I was new,was Jim from Ohio
he was blunt to me
he loved me enough to tell me the truth
I mistook it for arrogance-it hurt my little feelings
today I see it was truth and real love for me
but then my mind was like a little child's and the truth offended me
today it sets me free,and I am grateful for Jim
It took that at the time to cut thru the thick shell of self will and get down inside me where it needed to be so I could get better and live.There was a time for a 2x4 and a time for a pat on the back,Jim knew what to do when it was nessacery
my friend in AA when I was new,was Jim from Ohio
he was blunt to me
he loved me enough to tell me the truth
I mistook it for arrogance-it hurt my little feelings
today I see it was truth and real love for me
but then my mind was like a little child's and the truth offended me
today it sets me free,and I am grateful for Jim
It took that at the time to cut thru the thick shell of self will and get down inside me where it needed to be so I could get better and live.There was a time for a 2x4 and a time for a pat on the back,Jim knew what to do when it was nessacery
Originally Posted by least 
The '2x4' method of teaching only instills fear of the teacher. I'm glad I'm not your child.
Forward we go...side by side-Rest In Peace
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Let's chill [lease
Thank you
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