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That's great Paul. But what about when you are not involved in a discussion?
I don't think about drinking, except when I'm talking about it to another alcoholic. And then it is not the kind of thinking that will get me back to a drink.
I don't think about not drinking either.
Whatever works for you I guess.
That's great Paul. But what about when you are not involved in a discussion?
I don't think about drinking, except when I'm talking about it to another alcoholic. And then it is not the kind of thinking that will get me back to a drink.
I don't think about not drinking either.
Whatever works for you I guess.
I don't think about drinking, except when I'm talking about it to another alcoholic. And then it is not the kind of thinking that will get me back to a drink.
I don't think about not drinking either.
Whatever works for you I guess.
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Don't Compare Yourself
I'm glad you are not having any problems right now.
Please don't compare your sobriety to others. It is a dangerous trap to fall into. There will always be those that have a harder time than you and there will be those that seem to have an easier time of it than yourself.
As for length of sobriety, I wouldn't put a lot of stock in that. I'v worked with guys who recovered from state of mind that takes one back to a drink real early in sobriety, two, three months or less. It left me when I was about six months sober. Yet I know people (and I know this because I hear them talk about it) who fight taking a drink years away from their last drink.
I'm not judging these people. But for myself it is a battle that I can't win. Eventually the insane urge wins out.
Peace,
Jim
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Ive been wondering how ElChupacabra is doing these days.
He started this thread last Aug. bumped it last week
and last I know....was on his way home from work
to begin Day 4 of de toxing.
Anyone have more recent news?
Please share if so.
I'm becoming concerned...
He started this thread last Aug. bumped it last week
and last I know....was on his way home from work
to begin Day 4 of de toxing.
Anyone have more recent news?
Please share if so.
I'm becoming concerned...
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I was wondering the same thing.
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If critical thinking was more freely acceptable in AA meetings then maybe we could get somewhere in having the big book rewritten making AA a whole lot better.
If you don't like our solution, find another. Why would we change what works for us???? There are over 200 12 step fellowships
First off Steve get to sleep...5:20AM come on (unless of course you were getting up for work).
Selfish, self-seeking that we thought was the root of our problem (Big Book somewhere in How It Works). I see some similarities haha. Steve nails it on the head again.
Selfish, self-seeking that we thought was the root of our problem (Big Book somewhere in How It Works). I see some similarities haha. Steve nails it on the head again.
No one is asking to change what works for you. What people are saying is that if AA publicly purports to reduce or stop drinking then it must be scrutinized as a method of treatment, because people WILL try it out as such. The 12 step industry has inflitertrated every branch of science and government, it owes us that much. If you don't believe me, go to your nearest Barnes & Noble or therapist and you'll soon discover everyone is either an addict or codependent of some type. I don't want to end up living in a society where eventually every bad behavior becomes medicalized or cured by the 12 steps, or worse, say "I'm diseased" to excuse all bad behavior.
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I was on about the first 160 odd pages by the way. This has not been rewritten merely edited.
AA History - Fourth Edition Changes to the BIG BOOK.
The effectiveness of AA is debatable. I have analysed many stats on AA. For a fair proportion (exact amount varies depending on which study you look at) of people its nothing more than a dummy pill. I don’t want anybody to bend to my knee. I’m just expressing my view which isn’t just my view but the view of many people who attend AA for the fellowship but often are too afraid to speak their mind and talk about other solutions. I think this is very unhealthy.
Any modern book on addiction, of which there are many far superior to the outdated BB, can not compete with the BB which is dragged along by the powerful fellowship indoctrinating very vulnerable people
No I don’t like the BB solution and think its dangerous it made me more depressed and I relapsed. Do you expect me to be quiet about that?? I think for certain types of alcoholics its ideas are dangerous.
AA History - Fourth Edition Changes to the BIG BOOK.
Any modern book on addiction, of which there are many far superior to the outdated BB, can not compete with the BB which is dragged along by the powerful fellowship indoctrinating very vulnerable people
No I don’t like the BB solution and think its dangerous it made me more depressed and I relapsed. Do you expect me to be quiet about that?? I think for certain types of alcoholics its ideas are dangerous.
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I'm sure many alcoholics are selfish but many aren't
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if AA publicly purports to reduce or stop drinking
The 12 step industry has inflitertrated every branch of science and government
If you don't believe me, go to your nearest Barnes & Noble or therapist and you'll soon discover everyone is either an addict or codependent of some type
I don't want to end up living in a society where eventually every bad behavior becomes medicalized or cured by the 12 steps, or worse, say "I'm diseased" to excuse all bad behavior.
Neither do I. The Big Book uses the word disease only once in the first 164 pages. Don't confuse the program with what you hear in meetings. I don't blame all my behaviors on my "disease". To do so goes against the personal responsibility the AA program teaches.
The effectiveness of AA is debatable. I have analysed many stats on AA. For a fair proportion (exact amount varies depending on which study you look at) of people its nothing more than a dummy pill. I don’t want anybody to bend to my knee. I’m just expressing my view which isn’t just my view but the view of many people who attend AA for the fellowship but often are too afraid to speak their mind and talk about other solutions. I think this is very unhealthy.
No I don’t like the BB solution and think its dangerous it made me more depressed and I relapsed. Do you expect me to be quiet about that?? I think for certain types of alcoholics its ideas are dangerous.
This is an example of a vile statement from the BB that I think should be removed.
there is no evidence to back up the theory that alcoholics are more selfish than normal people.
The Selfish Brain: Learning from Addiction by Robert L. Dupont at Questia Online Library
This is an example of a vile statement from the BB that I think should be removed. As usual with anything from the BB there is no evidence to back up the theory that alcoholics are more selfish than normal people. Describing somebody who has mental illness (which a large proportion of alcoholics have) and is using alcohol to escape it as selfish is mental abuse IMO.
I'm sure many alcoholics are selfish but many aren't
I'm sure many alcoholics are selfish but many aren't
I believe your definition of selfishness is very skewed. It was necessary to see that even when I was being "kind" I ALWAYS did it in a way in which to manipulate others. In addition, my people-pleasing behavior was always to get over on others.
It isn't the use of alcohol that is selfish. Many people use alcohol and aren't selfish people. It is our behavior where we take advantage of others, act ego-centric and have total disregard for everyone else that makes us selfish. I highly doubt that normal people go around like alcoholics do thinking that the world owes them something and that others should act as they wish.
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The Big Book has been re-written over and over and over again.
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I have and will continue to start LifeRing meetings where I live to help make it more available as an option. BYOP is as open minded, open ended and dogma free as it gets
I guess not. Maybe just hard drinkers. I knew people who were doing the same stuff that I was doing but given a strong enough reason (the consequences) they were able to stop. I was not able to stop no matter what the reason was. I had lost the power of choice in whether or not I was going to pick up at any given time.
Like it says the hard drinker can put it down when faced with a strong enough reason to do so.
Like it says the hard drinker can put it down when faced with a strong enough reason to do so.
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