hope3

Good observation, even if it is a rude

awakening...best wishes, hope3

Pick-a-name

It really freaked me out a few times when we drove into a drive-thru a few times for beer (usually he did this nightly on his way home from work) and the people working, not only recognized him but many times went right to the cooler for a case of BudLight when they saw him/his car.... this was a half-dozen or so DIFFERENT places where this happened! Oh, and for the record....he just has "a couple to relax;not a problem"; or did back then.

Thanks for this thread.

scaryclownguy

At the bar I always went to the bartenders all knew me by name. I don't know how because I never talked to anyone(that I can think of). I'd hit the stool and about the same time my drink would hit the bar.

GlassPrisoner

Pennywise is scary. King fan ?

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AcceptingChange

i was at a party with acquaintences. they are parents from my kids school, but there have been a lot of parties over the past 10 years. and 'party' means very subdued, wine glasses and hor's douvers and mostly, lots of judging.

well, i never drank too much here. i'd wait to get home to my 'secret lover jim beam'.

well, three weeks ago, they had a party. the guys were drinking beers.
i grabbed a water.
one guys head just about snapped off when he caught a glimpse
of what i was pulling out of the cooler.
i reacted too, it was so sudden and quick.

I was like 'wtf!!'.
he was stunned!! that i picked up a water.
the thing is, this guy is really proud of himself that he quit drinking a couple years ago.
in other life areas, i know he thinks he's better than me
(so there is gorilla territorial posturing going on here too).

so i found out he thinks i'm an alki (he's right).
but i thought i was hiding it (i'm wrong).

i ended up leaving kindof early, cuz i wasnt' drinking, they
were, they were getting louder, and damit, that head-snap really pissed me off (still does).
and anyway, i'm still better than him. :-)

barb dwyer

I find it ironic that:

when we were drinking, we thought no one would notice...

when we sober up .. we think everyone is watching.

fraankie

john told me
"what other people say about me is none of my business"
anyway, a long time ago
my sponsor said
"sit in front at the meeting"
so your focus is on the speaker"
still works today


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fraankie

..........."You like beer?"..........

whoa, just read your thread
you are, like,
going for some food
a remark is made
by someone who is trying to make a buck
as in, that's his job
same as with the woman who always buys oreos and milk on thursday night
"hey, lady, you like milk"
and
this is now going worldwide
i would say
you need to stop eating chinese food

lol


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sobergirl77

This thread has been so enlightening. I used to rotate liquor stores and even grocery stores when I started getting into wine and beer. Or I would go into a liquor store and purposely buy items that would make it look like I was having a party or something - the party mixes along with a bottle of vodka or whiskey. Also, I live within short walking distance of three markets that sell wine and beer. I've been known to hit each one in the space of an afternoon and buy a 40 ounce beer at one, six pack at another and bottle of wine at another.

As for the glass bottles making noise in my trash, I would purposely keep empties around until I changed my trash bags and had sufficient other garbage in the can to muffle the noise! If I had friends over I would hide my bottle of wine, or say that I bought it "a few days ago" when in fact I had bought it that day. (I rarely went to bed before I had drank myself out of liquor).

Everyone around me knew I had a problem... but most of them didn't care because they had problems of their own.

Pilgrim

I love this thread.

I would order online and yes- many bartenders in town know my name.

I never hid bottles but I am finding old lists everywhere. To Do lists. Life goal lists. Lists for things I needed to remember. I even had a list index.

Thorn

I see so much of myself in these posts.

I'd rotate liquor stores, never had to hide bottles in the house as I live alone, but would hide them in the dumpster just in case someone would see them and connect them to me! Totaly Irrational.
Heaven forbid the liquor store clerks would know I'm a drunk.

After I quit for two months, right after I joined here, when I started drinking they all asked me where I'd been!

Yes, I'm an alcoholic.

GrouchoTheCat

LoL!

A list to keep track of your lists! Brilliant! Brilliant!

Why didn't I think of that?

NOMOMERLOTMAMMA

I have to drive past my local packie to get home. Last time A and I drove past I said to her.."I'm surprised that place can stay open now that I'm not going there everyday". Sorta funny..

fraankie

rotating grocery and liquor stores
so no one suspects you are drinking
yeah, me, too
but
even if i went into a liquor store or deli to buy a beer
on the other side of town
well, guess what,
paying for a dollar beer with pennies,
or 20 nickel deposit cans,
or the wrinkled shirt,
etc
was a giveaway
but who cared

fraankie

oh, just thought of this one,
how about
it's sunday in new york..................
and
the gosh dawn delis can't sell beer before noon
it's like 10 am
and
you start itching for a beer
10:30 am
well, start counting the minutes till noon
11:15 am
start walking back and forth by the deli waiting for noon
well, by, like, 11:37 am
i just walk into the deli
grabbed a beer
as i walked to pay for it
well, pop the top
and
you got one unhappy camper
at the register
lol

i did fudge the scenario a bit
but
sunday in new york is a bummer
before noon
when you are a alcoholic

thank my higher power
i don't have to live like that anymore
and
thanks to sr.com
for giving me the opportunity to share


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sobergirl77

Isn't it so ironic that so many of us felt we had to hide it? I remember being grateful for this one store that would put my alcohol in a black plastic bag, so when I walked down the street, nobody would know what was in it. Also, when I bought a full six pack of those tall cans, I would make conversation with the cashier at the store about how I was having friends over that night, etc. (Which wasn't true - it was all for me!) I cringe now at how transparent that probably was...

Joi

I bought my wine in the convenient 5 liter box. On Friday I would go by the store and get 3 boxes to last me for the week. I would dump the box and put those bags of wine in a work out bag because as we all know, you can't be a fitness buff like me, AND an alcoholic! Tell that to Susan Powter. Has anyone read her book on alcoholism, "Sober and staying that way" (I think that is the title). Anyway, I loved the book. A line which sticks with me is "give alcohol the f@#$%ing credit it deserves. It's a powerful demon, and a patient one."

Nuclerosis

Sorry for my lack of recent posting, comp crashed.

I too followed a lot of the behaviour that others have mentioned. Rotating supermarkets to try to avoid the staff recognising me as an alcoholic, and even rotating takeaways when I was drunk so they wouldn't realise. I'm a master of putting on a front, all four of my housemates had absolutely no idea that for 6 weeks I was drinking a bottle of vodka a day and planning to kill myself, the only time they realised that I was even drinking was when they found me passed out surrounded by empty packets of Paracetamol that I had OD'ed on and they searched to find what other drugs I had taken... they opened my wardrobe and empty bottles of vodka poured out. Psychiatrist I saw today wants me to go onto Antabuse for 6 months minimum - I've never gone sober for more than a month since I was 16.

scaryclownguy

Not really, just a clown thing

barb dwyer

LOL scaryclownguy!

I didn't go through that stuff.
The bar where I worked was packed everynight with hard core alcoholics.
Everyone there, yours truly included, knew what they were.
Are.
Whatever.
In fact, every one in town knew.

what a way to live, huh?