I cant make more than two days!
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Join Date: Aug 2014
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One day at a time
My friends kept telling me to take one day at a time. The problem was that I could not go half a day without drinking, let alone a day. Many tries resulted in failure until I was able to truly understand what they meant. Now I am taking a day at a time and feeling the pains of not drinking. Each day that goes by is an added day of sobriety I celebrate and feel good good about.
5 days is my max so far and been trying on and off since July 7th. I am reading a lot about recovery and it has been very helpful as just like quitting smoking, every time I abstain, I get better at doing without a drink. I am quitting both smoking and drinking and I have stayed quit from smoking since July 7. Easier to stay quit from smoking if I don't drink. I just don't like who/what I become when I have more than one drink and I always have more than one drink. I'll plan to have one drink/maybe two and four drinks later I am laughing outside while hating myself inside. All of the reading has helped me realize how terrible booze is for the body/brain which continues to serve as a motivator.
I just eventually stopped going down to stay sober. I am now 11 months without and was down there a week ago and no cravings or trigger effects.
I would take a different route home to fool your brain or go to the gym after work anything but what you are currently doing. How about car pooling with someone so you cant stop at the booze store without asking them which would get pretty embarrassing after a while.
I too was an after work drinker but eventually lost my job and became a full time one. Its just not worth it. All the best!!
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Join Date: Sep 2014
Location: jersey shore nj
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Social situations
Finding that I haven't been able to not drink when I go out. I am doing better. At home. Not drinking every night but going out to dinner or over friends I say I'll just have one and then that turns into more..I am invited to dinner this Thursday and my friends said just bring wine.i am. Going to really try not to drink. I'll see how it goes. Any suggestions? Everyone will be drinking red wine with dinner,.
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Join Date: Feb 2014
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It's been a little while, and to be honest I'd fallen back into the 'hole' of drinking. Was back to every day. Constantly angry at myself every morning for having a drink. Yet, still going out after work to get more.
But something in me changed 5 days ago. I was meant to go visit my kids and completely forgot. Was drunk when I organized it. My daughter of 6 was counting down the 'sleeps' until daddy would be there. And I didn't show up. I didn't even find until two days later.
So, I haven't had a drink in 5 days. It's evening here now, and I know I'm not drinking tonight. And that's not something I've been used to saying with confidence.
I'm still just going to take this one day at a time.
But something in me changed 5 days ago. I was meant to go visit my kids and completely forgot. Was drunk when I organized it. My daughter of 6 was counting down the 'sleeps' until daddy would be there. And I didn't show up. I didn't even find until two days later.
So, I haven't had a drink in 5 days. It's evening here now, and I know I'm not drinking tonight. And that's not something I've been used to saying with confidence.
I'm still just going to take this one day at a time.
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Join Date: Nov 2014
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Welcome 1navy. This is only day two for me.... Stay on this site and talk when you feel weak, it really helps a lot. I took a bath and drank some tea last night and then read a bunch of posts on here while watching American pie instead of my usual drinks... We can do it if we all stick together.
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Join Date: Feb 2014
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I'm finally getting there!
It's been a while since I've been on here and to be honest things took a hard and fast downward spiral. Started drinking even more heavily, even while i was at work.
Then six weeks ago, I stopped.
Dropped my kids off at their mothers, after my youngests fifth birthday, went home and drank 4 bottles of wine. Woke up the next morning and said no more.
First week was so damn hard. Shaking, sweating, Craving! But running it through my head every time how the drinking just does nothing positive for me at all.
So 24th April. An easy date for me to remember.
I have never been this long without a drink. But i know this is always going to be an ongoing battle. One I'm determined to fight. Even if i should slip I know I will fight on. I am feeling better than I have in years.
Then six weeks ago, I stopped.
Dropped my kids off at their mothers, after my youngests fifth birthday, went home and drank 4 bottles of wine. Woke up the next morning and said no more.
First week was so damn hard. Shaking, sweating, Craving! But running it through my head every time how the drinking just does nothing positive for me at all.
So 24th April. An easy date for me to remember.
I have never been this long without a drink. But i know this is always going to be an ongoing battle. One I'm determined to fight. Even if i should slip I know I will fight on. I am feeling better than I have in years.
studog1, I am feeling your pain right now. I can do 1 day, then I fall. Then I make it 3 days and fall again. I do really think that the ideas about changing routines is a very strong one. Like you said, I am 100% positive that I can do it all day long while I'm work and then I get in my car...and fail. Dee74 suggested on one of the posts about some of the "sticky" things about how to make a plan. I have been reading those tonight and have hopes of being able to figure out a solid plan that is individualized to me and can really WORK once and for all. Hang in there.
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