Forgiving Ourselves this Weekend - Weekenders 03 - 06 February 2023
Magsie
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Forgiving Ourselves this Weekend - Weekenders 03 - 06 February 2023
Forgiving Ourselves this Weekend - Weekenders 03 - 06 February 2023
Welcome to the Weekenders
Forgiving Ourselves……I always find that very hard to do, much harder than forgiving other people in my life.
I read a topic on forgiving yourself and I found a paragraph which I found interesting.
“To release that part of your past that you need to forgive, it’s helpful to remember that we’re all doing the best we can in any moment.
If you had known that your action would cause pain to others or yourself, you probably wouldn’t have done it, right?
And even if you knew that you were causing damage at the time, you had no idea how much you would regret it in the future.
Retain what you learned from the event but release everything else”.
It went on to say,
“Appreciate your missteps for what they are—a stepping stone on your path”.
I know I’m my worst critic, I find it very hard to forgive myself.
This weekend, can we be forgiving to ourselves as much as we are to others and enjoy our Sober weekend?
If this is your first weekend sober, or many, come join us for support and chat...as we know the weekends can be a struggle sometimes. (We’re here all week too!)
Welcome to the Weekenders
Forgiving Ourselves……I always find that very hard to do, much harder than forgiving other people in my life.
I read a topic on forgiving yourself and I found a paragraph which I found interesting.
“To release that part of your past that you need to forgive, it’s helpful to remember that we’re all doing the best we can in any moment.
If you had known that your action would cause pain to others or yourself, you probably wouldn’t have done it, right?
And even if you knew that you were causing damage at the time, you had no idea how much you would regret it in the future.
Retain what you learned from the event but release everything else”.
It went on to say,
“Appreciate your missteps for what they are—a stepping stone on your path”.
I know I’m my worst critic, I find it very hard to forgive myself.
This weekend, can we be forgiving to ourselves as much as we are to others and enjoy our Sober weekend?
If this is your first weekend sober, or many, come join us for support and chat...as we know the weekends can be a struggle sometimes. (We’re here all week too!)
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Thank you Mags, may I claim Shotgun?
The guilt associated with my drinking was one of the stronger factors keeping me in the cycle of self-destruction. Now that I have freed myself and try to 'do the next best thing' every day, including making living amends, that guilt is fading and being replaced by a constructive sense of self-forgiveness.
Anyway, I'm in for another sober one! Warm wishes to all weekenders. Forwards.
The guilt associated with my drinking was one of the stronger factors keeping me in the cycle of self-destruction. Now that I have freed myself and try to 'do the next best thing' every day, including making living amends, that guilt is fading and being replaced by a constructive sense of self-forgiveness.
Anyway, I'm in for another sober one! Warm wishes to all weekenders. Forwards.
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Thanks Mags for the great opening post. I'm IN for a sober weekend.
I'm learning to forgive myself though I still get awful feelings of guilt and shame now and again. Self hatred became so deeply embedded within me and I still have problems trying not to be too hard on myself. It isn't as bad as it used to be though.
I'm learning to forgive myself though I still get awful feelings of guilt and shame now and again. Self hatred became so deeply embedded within me and I still have problems trying not to be too hard on myself. It isn't as bad as it used to be though.
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Have tried twice now to get back to sleep but nothing. 
. I'll have to stay awake all day today to even out my sleep schedule. Will tell the doctor Friday that the itching is bad enough to keep me awake.
I keep thinking, tho, that it would be so much worse if I were still drinking. So, yes, it could be a lot worse.
. I'll have to stay awake all day today to even out my sleep schedule. Will tell the doctor Friday that the itching is bad enough to keep me awake. I keep thinking, tho, that it would be so much worse if I were still drinking. So, yes, it could be a lot worse.
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Oh my gosh Purps, you just put the biggest smile on my face. Thanks!
Mags, thanks again for what you do. I sure do struggle with forgiving myself for what happened. Sigh.. But at least it does not weigh on me as much as it used to.
Mags, thanks again for what you do. I sure do struggle with forgiving myself for what happened. Sigh.. But at least it does not weigh on me as much as it used to.
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In for the weekend. I too have a hard time forgiving myself and have a self destructive tendency. It is lessening but this past week in a previous party time place has been trying. It has been a huge internal battle to not take that first drink. Been succeeding so far.
Pledging for today. Day 123. Made a mistake yesterday and got one day ahead. All went well at lunch. Today another lunch date test. Best to all.
Pledging for today. Day 123. Made a mistake yesterday and got one day ahead. All went well at lunch. Today another lunch date test. Best to all.
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Thank you, Mags! I drank the other night and I’m trying to forgive myself. Sometimes I think if I forgive myself I’m going too easy on myself and I look at not forgiving myself as a form of deserved punishment.
Least, I am hoping hard for you that your itches can be fixed. I can’t imagine how awful. Hugs.
Least, I am hoping hard for you that your itches can be fixed. I can’t imagine how awful. Hugs.
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