Sober 2022
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Join Date: Dec 2021
Location: Canada
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Welcome to SR @Lollypop1931 and congrats on 67 days!
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Join Date: Apr 2021
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Well done on all your sober days everyone! I've been MIA for a about a week> Had a blip where I felt meh! It resulted in my son and my mum telling me to go back to church. I realised I missed it. Ive struggled as I had problems with the pastor at my old church. But I decided to go back today and found out he had left. I was welcomed back with open arms and I feel much calmer now.
Overall Sober Days - 322 Days
Sober Days 2022 - 64 Days
Hope you are all well xx
Overall Sober Days - 322 Days
Sober Days 2022 - 64 Days
Hope you are all well xx
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Join Date: Aug 2020
Location: Texas
Posts: 110
Good job on 90 days, Colin. Halfway to the six-month mark!
During those early months, counting sober days up was oh, so satisfying. I reached a point where, as I never plan to drink again, that became too open-ended, and I began to lose enthusiasm for the mission.
These days, I like to count days down to whatever next sobriety goal I have. Having a counter honing in on zero somehow excites me more than counting up to my next target. I know it's the same, really, but one way motivates me and the other doesn't. Checking my spreadsheet, I'm at T-minus 163 days until I'm one year sober. In just over two months, I'll have less than 100 days to go - so exciting.
It's all about finding the right mix of things that works at a given point in time. And that mix of things is constantly changing.
During those early months, counting sober days up was oh, so satisfying. I reached a point where, as I never plan to drink again, that became too open-ended, and I began to lose enthusiasm for the mission.
These days, I like to count days down to whatever next sobriety goal I have. Having a counter honing in on zero somehow excites me more than counting up to my next target. I know it's the same, really, but one way motivates me and the other doesn't. Checking my spreadsheet, I'm at T-minus 163 days until I'm one year sober. In just over two months, I'll have less than 100 days to go - so exciting.
It's all about finding the right mix of things that works at a given point in time. And that mix of things is constantly changing.
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Join Date: Mar 2014
Location: Virginia
Posts: 193
Hi Everyone!
I've actually spent a ton of time sober since I first got on here back in March of 2014. Last Summer, when my life started going really badly in several different ways, I didn't drink for 3 plus months. It wasn't even hard! Alcohol made me feel so much worse emotionally because of everything I was going through that even enjoying the occasional beers was no fun. Then when my dad died in November, that's when I started drinking heavily....more heavily than I had in years. Never a daily thing because I'm a single mom and a student...and I just can't function hungover lmao....not in my 30's....noooope.....
Now, just recently....in the last month, I have noticed a chance in myself...and have been drinking way more....really way more since my Dad died in general. I am ready to quit completely and am at the point where it's not even fun. It has nothing to offer me. Not even a temporary escape. It literally only makes me feel sad and hungover.
I initially felt ashamed to even log back in here because I've gone back and forth so many times since 2014. However, I see a lot of people have similar patterns. This time feels very different, though, I can't explain it. I plan on coming on here every day. I've been so lonely....really needing friends. I've lost a lot of loved ones and friends recently...it's hard making new ones in your 30's as a mom and an online student. Anyways, thanks everybody for being on here.
I've actually spent a ton of time sober since I first got on here back in March of 2014. Last Summer, when my life started going really badly in several different ways, I didn't drink for 3 plus months. It wasn't even hard! Alcohol made me feel so much worse emotionally because of everything I was going through that even enjoying the occasional beers was no fun. Then when my dad died in November, that's when I started drinking heavily....more heavily than I had in years. Never a daily thing because I'm a single mom and a student...and I just can't function hungover lmao....not in my 30's....noooope.....
Now, just recently....in the last month, I have noticed a chance in myself...and have been drinking way more....really way more since my Dad died in general. I am ready to quit completely and am at the point where it's not even fun. It has nothing to offer me. Not even a temporary escape. It literally only makes me feel sad and hungover.
I initially felt ashamed to even log back in here because I've gone back and forth so many times since 2014. However, I see a lot of people have similar patterns. This time feels very different, though, I can't explain it. I plan on coming on here every day. I've been so lonely....really needing friends. I've lost a lot of loved ones and friends recently...it's hard making new ones in your 30's as a mom and an online student. Anyways, thanks everybody for being on here.
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Join Date: Mar 2014
Location: Virginia
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Adair, I like your idea of the T minus counting style lol I am at the point of planning to never drink again, so yeah, you are right...that does leave things quite open-ended. I'm a math major, and I would say this leaves things INFINITELY open. For several years now, I've drank occasionally.....but have spent WAAAAY more days sober than not. So, this thread has made me realize that I can and will give myself props for that. I had always known deep down that I was an alcoholic, though, I would just never admit it out loud. Now, I am ready to do that in some way....I feel comfortable admitting it here....but I don't really want to go shouting it from the rooftop. I am ready to talk about it with my counselor, though, and I think that's a huge step. Anyways, I like your style. Keep posting. It made me smile and I needed that!
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Join Date: Jul 2011
Location: Florida
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WildChild, We all have had our ups and downs in our journey with alcohol. But if we stay sober eventually our cravings go away and our body and mind spring to life, Then we realize the positive benefits of thriving in sobriety. We feel better, look better and somehow more good things come our way.
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Join Date: Mar 2014
Location: Virginia
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Dickenson, Thanks for the encouragement! I have had such a wide experience with alcohol. I've had about a year sober with each of my pregnancies and I do remember thinking that I could care less to ever drink again. But then for whatever reason, I do. I'd even have long stretches of occasional controlled drinking. Then, out of nowhere, something happens and suddenly I'm drinking way too much at once and too often. So....the pattern has been established...and I don't think I'll gain anything by repeating the pattern anymore. I really wonder if after a year I could want to drink again....how long would it actually take? or is there a time?
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Wildchild, My own experience with resuming drinking after quitting for a year is that I start out slow but gradually increase until I am drinking the same as I did before I quit. I have done this several times. So the best thing for me is to stay sober and not go back to drinking.
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My experience with going back to drinking has been the same as yours Dickinson but without the gradual increasing, more like right back to it. Ya, not going back there again if I can help it 
Welcome @wildchild69 . Sounds like you've been having a really hard time lately. Good for you on not drinking! I've been at it since I was in my teens and I'm turning 65 in April. I've had a few multiple years of sobriety in there and a bunch of shorter periods, but mostly I was drinking. Really needed to stop now and so far so good. You're doing great, all the best with it
93 days.
Welcome @wildchild69 . Sounds like you've been having a really hard time lately. Good for you on not drinking! I've been at it since I was in my teens and I'm turning 65 in April. I've had a few multiple years of sobriety in there and a bunch of shorter periods, but mostly I was drinking. Really needed to stop now and so far so good. You're doing great, all the best with it
93 days.
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