Relapsed
Finding out what happened is important. There are generally multiple events and choices we make leading up to the actual decision to drink.
Look back and see if you can find clues - not with the purpose of shaming or blaming, but so you can recognize the pattern and prevent it from happening again. For example, it doesn't look like you had been posting here for several days until your post last night - what happended there? Are there other parts of your plan that you were also neglecting by chance?
In any case, learn from it and adjust your plan as needed.
Look back and see if you can find clues - not with the purpose of shaming or blaming, but so you can recognize the pattern and prevent it from happening again. For example, it doesn't look like you had been posting here for several days until your post last night - what happended there? Are there other parts of your plan that you were also neglecting by chance?
In any case, learn from it and adjust your plan as needed.
Sorry everyone but slowly getting better. I missed a few days of work and I don't know what to say when they ask "I took sick days". My job requires me to use my head/analyze numbers so i'm think of saying I get terrible migraines so often. They can't officially ask but of course they are going to want to know.
So glad you're back Vincent. My friend occasionally gets debilitating migraines, he thinks from allergies.
I still suggest figuring out what the thought process was that led up to your relapse, so you can be aware next time.
Glad you're back in one piece.
I still suggest figuring out what the thought process was that led up to your relapse, so you can be aware next time.
Glad you're back in one piece.
I think it was a a combination of a few little things more than any one big one.
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I'm also glad you are back. If I understand correctly, you are worried about what specific sickness to bring up if they ask what exactly was going on? I don't know if migraines usually last days on debilitating levels... Also, I may be wrong, but "getting terrible migraines" almost sounds like you want to use this excuse repeatedly? Please don't go down that road, I was a chronic liar to cover up my drinking and it didn't do much good to help me get out of the real problem, more the opposite, because people bought my lies and excuses, or sometimes just had no other choice. But if you have to make up something, maybe use a one-time event such as a bad stomach bug - something systemic like that can also knock people out for days, including cognitively and energy-wise. Just make sure to say something that won't make them ask for a doctor's note.
Most importantly, I hope you feel better from the relapse and can use it as a learning experience, to prevent it in the future. I changed my recovery approach quite dramatically after my recent relapse and the new one is actually much easier for me, also more satisfying. You were actually one of the people giving me great advice
Most importantly, I hope you feel better from the relapse and can use it as a learning experience, to prevent it in the future. I changed my recovery approach quite dramatically after my recent relapse and the new one is actually much easier for me, also more satisfying. You were actually one of the people giving me great advice
I'm also glad you are back. If I understand correctly, you are worried about what specific sickness to bring up if they ask what exactly was going on? I don't know if migraines usually last days on debilitating levels... Also, I may be wrong, but "getting terrible migraines" almost sounds like you want to use this excuse repeatedly? Please don't go down that road, I was a chronic liar to cover up my drinking and it didn't do much good to help me get out of the real problem, more the opposite, because people bought my lies and excuses, or sometimes just had no other choice. But if you have to make up something, maybe use a one-time event such as a bad stomach bug - something systemic like that can also knock people out for days, including cognitively and energy-wise. Just make sure to say something that won't make them ask for a doctor's note.
Most importantly, I hope you feel better from the relapse and can use it as a learning experience, to prevent it in the future. I changed my recovery approach quite dramatically after my recent relapse and the new one is actually much easier for me, also more satisfying. You were actually one of the people giving me great advice
Most importantly, I hope you feel better from the relapse and can use it as a learning experience, to prevent it in the future. I changed my recovery approach quite dramatically after my recent relapse and the new one is actually much easier for me, also more satisfying. You were actually one of the people giving me great advice
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Fantasy was also a big part of my escapism and trigger combinations in the past. I just had to completely cut it off and stop allowing myself to engage (I even pulled other real people into it with me). It was addictive on its own, and often took place together with my binges. It had to let it go completely, much like dealing with the drinking urges directly.
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Maybe you could turn yourself into your own role model, and then live in your real dream, sober?
Honestly you can just tell them you had a personal medical issue to attend to. It's true. They don't need to know which one and yes I've had a migraine that's lasted two days. Usually in my eye socket and overall into my entire head. Now I haven't had those in years. Unless they are looking for violating HiPPA (are you in the states?) your medical problems don't need to be detailed in depth to your employer. If your sick days are PTO days (combined any reason sick/vacation days) you can just say you need personal PTO. Most people won't care much after maybe some mild jibbing in the ribs. I don't know your work environment. After drinking - anxiety is going to run high and probably make things seem worse than they actually are.
I've really enjoyed your posts over the year. Sort of Zen, minimalist and different thinking. So you have already have been an inspiration. So hang in there - you haven't lost everything. Wishing you all the best.
I've really enjoyed your posts over the year. Sort of Zen, minimalist and different thinking. So you have already have been an inspiration. So hang in there - you haven't lost everything. Wishing you all the best.
Honestly you can just tell them you had a personal medical issue to attend to. It's true. They don't need to know which one and yes I've had a migraine that's lasted two days. Usually in my eye socket and overall into my entire head. Now I haven't had those in years. Unless they are looking for violating HiPPA (are you in the states?) your medical problems don't need to be detailed in depth to your employer. If your sick days are PTO days (combined any reason sick/vacation days) you can just say you need personal PTO. Most people won't care much after maybe some mild jibbing in the ribs. I don't know your work environment. After drinking - anxiety is going to run high and probably make things seem worse than they actually are.
I've really enjoyed your posts over the year. Sort of Zen, minimalist and different thinking. So you have already have been an inspiration. So hang in there - you haven't lost everything. Wishing you all the best.
I've really enjoyed your posts over the year. Sort of Zen, minimalist and different thinking. So you have already have been an inspiration. So hang in there - you haven't lost everything. Wishing you all the best.
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