Gabe's Starting Over
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Originally Posted by Sober45 
Go for it, Gabe. Yesterday, I walked on a nature trail for the first time in years. Felt really good. I still need to try meditation and yoga.
My appearance went downhill with drinking. My hair is turning grey now and I haven't done my nails since I was a teenager. I'm so frugal I even started buying all my clothes at thrift stores. My perfectly straight teeth are not looking too good either. I've been thinking a lot about doing a complete makeover to celebrate the new me. I want to look sexy! lol It's just so damn good to be in a position where I can think about these things and not be affected by the chains of alcoholism. I never realized how far removed I was from living life until I got some sober time. The realizations just keep coming
My appearance went downhill with drinking. My hair is turning grey now and I haven't done my nails since I was a teenager. I'm so frugal I even started buying all my clothes at thrift stores. My perfectly straight teeth are not looking too good either. I've been thinking a lot about doing a complete makeover to celebrate the new me. I want to look sexy! lol It's just so damn good to be in a position where I can think about these things and not be affected by the chains of alcoholism. I never realized how far removed I was from living life until I got some sober time. The realizations just keep coming
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Also try this....it's short and relatively easy....a great way to get into yoga
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yzm3...ogaWithAdriene
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yzm3...ogaWithAdriene
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DAY 9....
I am really tired today. We are doing so many things by Zoom, that I am just feeling frazzled all the time.
Things I have noticed though......still not feeling any excitement about being sober but feeling really present, which I think is a good thing. I don't want to think about the future, different scenarios where I will be around alcohol, or any of that stuff. That is quite unusual for me and I feel like that is progress because there isn't the same anxiety around it. I'm not sure. I might be wrong!
I also properly acknowledged to myself this morning how much easier life is when I am sober. It's more manageable, less stressful, I don't need all these strategies to cope and get through the day. It is just straight forward. I am really appreciating that just now. I think the more simple the better at the moment. What's keep me sober day to day, is just that acknowledgment that I don't want to go back to things being that hard. It's good enough for just now
I am really tired today. We are doing so many things by Zoom, that I am just feeling frazzled all the time.
Things I have noticed though......still not feeling any excitement about being sober but feeling really present, which I think is a good thing. I don't want to think about the future, different scenarios where I will be around alcohol, or any of that stuff. That is quite unusual for me and I feel like that is progress because there isn't the same anxiety around it. I'm not sure. I might be wrong!
I also properly acknowledged to myself this morning how much easier life is when I am sober. It's more manageable, less stressful, I don't need all these strategies to cope and get through the day. It is just straight forward. I am really appreciating that just now. I think the more simple the better at the moment. What's keep me sober day to day, is just that acknowledgment that I don't want to go back to things being that hard. It's good enough for just now
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Yes Gabe!!! Focusing on the here and now was instrumental to my own recovery, and I think it's a solid strategy for the early days. Don't think about tomorrow or the next day or next week or whenever. Just focus on today and what you will do today to support your recovery. The whole "one day at a time" thing is cliche, but extremely helpful imo. Stay grounded.
Sounds like you're doing well!!
Sounds like you're doing well!!
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Originally Posted by dpac414
Yes Gabe!!! Focusing on the here and now was instrumental to my own recovery, and I think it's a solid strategy for the early days. Don't think about tomorrow or the next day or next week or whenever. Just focus on today and what you will do today to support your recovery. The whole "one day at a time" thing is cliche, but extremely helpful imo. Stay grounded.
Sounds like you're doing well!!
Sounds like you're doing well!!
I am just trying to trust myself and how things are going just now. I'm definitely in a different space than I have been before. There is sense of realism, and realism is not my default!
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Hi Gabe! 
I've completed 1 month today. I also felt tired during day 10 to day 15. And mood swings up to day 20.
It's normal to feel down and anxious. There's a lot going on inside you. Things will get better, just be focus on stacking up the sober days. Before you'll know it, you'll get 1 month too!
I've completed 1 month today. I also felt tired during day 10 to day 15. And mood swings up to day 20.
It's normal to feel down and anxious. There's a lot going on inside you. Things will get better, just be focus on stacking up the sober days. Before you'll know it, you'll get 1 month too!
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DAY 9....
I am really tired today. We are doing so many things by Zoom, that I am just feeling frazzled all the time.
Things I have noticed though......still not feeling any excitement about being sober but feeling really present, which I think is a good thing. I don't want to think about the future, different scenarios where I will be around alcohol, or any of that stuff. That is quite unusual for me and I feel like that is progress because there isn't the same anxiety around it. I'm not sure. I might be wrong!
I also properly acknowledged to myself this morning how much easier life is when I am sober. It's more manageable, less stressful, I don't need all these strategies to cope and get through the day. It is just straight forward. I am really appreciating that just now. I think the more simple the better at the moment. What's keep me sober day to day, is just that acknowledgment that I don't want to go back to things being that hard. It's good enough for just now
I am really tired today. We are doing so many things by Zoom, that I am just feeling frazzled all the time.
Things I have noticed though......still not feeling any excitement about being sober but feeling really present, which I think is a good thing. I don't want to think about the future, different scenarios where I will be around alcohol, or any of that stuff. That is quite unusual for me and I feel like that is progress because there isn't the same anxiety around it. I'm not sure. I might be wrong!
I also properly acknowledged to myself this morning how much easier life is when I am sober. It's more manageable, less stressful, I don't need all these strategies to cope and get through the day. It is just straight forward. I am really appreciating that just now. I think the more simple the better at the moment. What's keep me sober day to day, is just that acknowledgment that I don't want to go back to things being that hard. It's good enough for just now
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Originally Posted by Renegade2
Hi Gabe!
I've completed 1 month today. I also felt tired during day 10 to day 15. And mood swings up to day 20.
It's normal to feel down and anxious. There's a lot going on inside you. Things will get better, just be focus on stacking up the sober days. Before you'll know it, you'll get 1 month too!
I've completed 1 month today. I also felt tired during day 10 to day 15. And mood swings up to day 20.
It's normal to feel down and anxious. There's a lot going on inside you. Things will get better, just be focus on stacking up the sober days. Before you'll know it, you'll get 1 month too!
Yeah, I am just trying to take it as it comes and not get too stressed out about things. It's helping that I am only working part time now. That was tough at first, managing having that free time, but I am in a better routine and I am enjoying that.
Awesome job on 1 month - Congratulations!
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DAY 10.....
Tidy house, pot of soup and have my work stuff in order. It's been a while since all that was the case. I feel a lot more settled in my routine now. I'm a bit bored but that's okay. Watching documentaries and trying to enjoy just having time now.
I think my anxiety meds have leveled out and I am coping much better, mental health wise. I am not sure how much of what happened was down to that, changing my medication was traumatic but I think it just brought underlying things to the surface, that I didn't want to deal with. I am dealing with them now though.
Tidy house, pot of soup and have my work stuff in order. It's been a while since all that was the case. I feel a lot more settled in my routine now. I'm a bit bored but that's okay. Watching documentaries and trying to enjoy just having time now.
I think my anxiety meds have leveled out and I am coping much better, mental health wise. I am not sure how much of what happened was down to that, changing my medication was traumatic but I think it just brought underlying things to the surface, that I didn't want to deal with. I am dealing with them now though.
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Originally Posted by Gabe1980
DAY 10.....
Tidy house, pot of soup and have my work stuff in order. It's been a while since all that was the case. I feel a lot more settled in my routine now. I'm a bit bored but that's okay. Watching documentaries and trying to enjoy just having time now.
I think my anxiety meds have leveled out and I am coping much better, mental health wise. I am not sure how much of what happened was down to that, changing my medication was traumatic but I think it just brought underlying things to the surface, that I didn't want to deal with. I am dealing with them now though.
Tidy house, pot of soup and have my work stuff in order. It's been a while since all that was the case. I feel a lot more settled in my routine now. I'm a bit bored but that's okay. Watching documentaries and trying to enjoy just having time now.
I think my anxiety meds have leveled out and I am coping much better, mental health wise. I am not sure how much of what happened was down to that, changing my medication was traumatic but I think it just brought underlying things to the surface, that I didn't want to deal with. I am dealing with them now though.
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Gabe, it sounds like you're doing well. And, I do think things come to the surface at certain times, and I think it means that you're ready to deal with them. I'm glad you're settling into your new routine.
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Gabe! So happy to hear this. I look at boredom as natural and important state of being. It’s my signal to start exploring the possibilities of where I can place my energy going forward. What can I do to achieve more growth?
. I look at boredom as natural and important state of being. It’s my signal to start exploring the possibilities of where I can place my energy going forward. What can I do to achieve more growth? 
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Originally Posted by ALBAdrunk
The opposite is messy house, takeaway boxes, stuff lying everywhere. No energy. No direction. No routine. No sleeping pattern. No hope.
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Originally Posted by Anna
Gabe, it sounds like you're doing well. And, I do think things come to the surface at certain times, and I think it means that you're ready to deal with them. I'm glad you're settling into your new routine.
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Originally Posted by Sober45
Gabe! So happy to hear this. I look at boredom as natural and important state of being. It’s my signal to start exploring the possibilities of where I can place my energy going forward. What can I do to achieve more growth?
. I look at boredom as natural and important state of being. It’s my signal to start exploring the possibilities of where I can place my energy going forward. What can I do to achieve more growth?Working part-time is good. Having time to myself, when Steve is working is good too. I don't feel like there is no space for anything anymore. I think I need a fair amount of time on my own, not isolation, just space. Thanks Sober
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