Bad anxiety and struggling for breath
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Wrapping up day two of sobriety. Anxiety is through the charts. I stopped taking the med that I think was causing the debilitating anxiety also no more huge meals at night as they were contributing to my breathing issues I think.
I will post more tomorrow. But wanted to let everyone know I’m alive.
I will post more tomorrow. But wanted to let everyone know I’m alive.
As you open up on day three I wonder if you could try an experiment to see what you can do to improve the anxiety? It may be nothing and you have to tough it out...it may be that by doing stuff you can improve how you feel? I suspect the latter but am willing to be proven wrong
Porridge for breakfast...exercise...mindfulness...exercise...ea ting well...exercise...not watching the news...watching crap on youtube/netflix...exercise...oh and SLEEP whenever you feel like it.
Well done BABM, days1-7 are THE WORST and you are 2/7 of the way through. 29%, if you will...
Hi Dee. It goes well. Kids are here so everything feels right. Had a fun and meaningful day like always. Not suffering too many withdrawal symptoms on this day three. Why is it so easy when I have the kids?? I just don’t want to let them down I guess. It’s so easy to let myself down.
I'm glad the kids are there.
I dunno about you but I had to learn to treat myself like someone I cared about.
Its like that thing - be the man your dog thinks you are - be the Dad your kids know you as.
Wasn't easy to make that switch to caring about myself but I think it's crucial to lasting success.
D
I dunno about you but I had to learn to treat myself like someone I cared about.
Its like that thing - be the man your dog thinks you are - be the Dad your kids know you as.
Wasn't easy to make that switch to caring about myself but I think it's crucial to lasting success.
D
Good morning friend. Anxiety is better. I stopped taking the med my doc prescribed which has helped, I’ve abstained from alcohol which has helped and no more big meals late at night. I need to cut back on food in general.
test will come when the kids are gone. That’s when the isolation sets in and life gets more challenging.
test will come when the kids are gone. That’s when the isolation sets in and life gets more challenging.
Hi BABM. Give a thought to how your time with the kids would be different if you were sober and healthy leading up to it. Anticipating and savoring the coming time with them. Right now I'm sure it is very meaningful and great to be with them and it is clearly so good for them to be with you. But you are still in a wounded toxic state actively trying to detox. That must really change the quality of time you have with the kids. From now on, you can properly plan their visits, do some cleaning and cooking ahead of time, plan some crafts or activities for home time, plan some hikes with their furry siblings. When I was drunk I didn't do any of those things for my kids. They would come to a dirty house and a dirty dad and I would be largely absent albeit physically present. Those years had a terrible effect on them. They're kids but like the little animals that they are, they instinctively know when they are safe and when they are not. They only feel safe when we are sober. They just know it.
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I dunno about you but I had to learn to treat myself like someone I cared about.
Its like that thing - be the man your dog thinks you are - be the Dad your kids know you as.
Wasn't easy to make that switch to caring about myself but I think it's crucial to lasting success.
Its like that thing - be the man your dog thinks you are - be the Dad your kids know you as.
Wasn't easy to make that switch to caring about myself but I think it's crucial to lasting success.
I dunno about you but I had to learn to treat myself like someone I cared about.
Its like that thing - be the man your dog thinks you are - be the Dad your kids know you as.
Wasn't easy to make that switch to caring about myself but I think it's crucial to lasting success.
Its like that thing - be the man your dog thinks you are - be the Dad your kids know you as.
Wasn't easy to make that switch to caring about myself but I think it's crucial to lasting success.
I dunno about you but I had to learn to treat myself like someone I cared about.
Its like that thing - be the man your dog thinks you are - be the Dad your kids know you as.
Wasn't easy to make that switch to caring about myself but I think it's crucial to lasting success.
Its like that thing - be the man your dog thinks you are - be the Dad your kids know you as.
Wasn't easy to make that switch to caring about myself but I think it's crucial to lasting success.
Hi BABM, glad to see you are doing well. I have a few minutes of time on SR and the first thing I do is to come check on you. Know that we care. The kids help so much so what can you do to focus on them while they are gone? What I would do is tell them I was making them something for their next visit and then do it while they are gone. Then when they aren't there you are still busy focusing on them. Just an idea.
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Good morning friend. Anxiety is better. I stopped taking the med my doc prescribed which has helped, I’ve abstained from alcohol which has helped and no more big meals late at night. I need to cut back on food in general.
test will come when the kids are gone. That’s when the isolation sets in and life gets more challenging.
test will come when the kids are gone. That’s when the isolation sets in and life gets more challenging.
Hi Dee. It goes well. Kids are here so everything feels right. Had a fun and meaningful day like always. Not suffering too many withdrawal symptoms on this day three. Why is it so easy when I have the kids?? I just don’t want to let them down I guess. It’s so easy to let myself down.
Hi BABM. Give a thought to how your time with the kids would be different if you were sober and healthy leading up to it. Anticipating and savoring the coming time with them. Right now I'm sure it is very meaningful and great to be with them and it is clearly so good for them to be with you. But you are still in a wounded toxic state actively trying to detox. That must really change the quality of time you have with the kids. From now on, you can properly plan their visits, do some cleaning and cooking ahead of time, plan some crafts or activities for home time, plan some hikes with their furry siblings. When I was drunk I didn't do any of those things for my kids. They would come to a dirty house and a dirty dad and I would be largely absent albeit physically present. Those years had a terrible effect on them. They're kids but like the little animals that they are, they instinctively know when they are safe and when they are not. They only feel safe when we are sober. They just know it.
If I could be sober in the days leading up however, my attitude would be better though. Would be short tempered when I didn’t mean to. Your points aren’t lost on me, but when it comes to the kids, I’m a stellar dad compared to most.
It’s good to see you around BABM.
I derailed about 1 1/2 weeks ago. Drank harder than ever for 4 days. Was really, really, hurting for 4-5 days trying to recover. Split some wood on day six, worst sweating ever. (I’ll do my splitting in winter, splits so much better in the cold)
Anyway, I’m on 8.5 days sober and feeling pretty decent actually.
Hope it goes really well for you.
I derailed about 1 1/2 weeks ago. Drank harder than ever for 4 days. Was really, really, hurting for 4-5 days trying to recover. Split some wood on day six, worst sweating ever. (I’ll do my splitting in winter, splits so much better in the cold)
Anyway, I’m on 8.5 days sober and feeling pretty decent actually.
Hope it goes really well for you.
Your points aren’t lost on me, but when it comes to the kids, I’m a stellar dad compared to most.
Be a stellar dad to that kid too - make Dad decisions.
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