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Old 01-18-2020, 02:59 PM
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Even if you feel like you want to drink, you don't have to. Just because you have thoughts doesn't mean you have to act on them. Tell your mom you no longer drink and she'll have to accept that. And if she doesn't accept that, that's on her, not you. Stay true to yourself.
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Old 01-18-2020, 03:04 PM
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Guess what Mom. I don't drink any more.

[or]

Guess what Mom. I'm doing a Dry January.

[or]

I'm gonna pass on the wine. I'm trying to lose a few pounds.

I'm new here, Sohard, but may I ask how old you are? Not that it matters, but I'm just wondering whether your mother is a older person, set in her stubborn ways, or what.

But I say "not that it matters," because however old you are, or she is, you are the one who knows what best for you.

Do you agree with that? Then please do what is best for you. And you know what that is.
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Old 01-18-2020, 03:05 PM
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The thing is that one glass of wine will never be enough and when you wake up tomorrow the beast will already be awake and you will be thinking about where you are going to get your next glass/bottle from.
I hope you didn't drink, whether you made up an excuse to your mum or was honest as to why you don't drink now.
Stay strong, you will be thankful you did in the morning
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Old 01-18-2020, 03:06 PM
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Originally Posted by Sohard View Post


no. She wonít. I wish she would, but she wouldnít. Weíve discussed addiction millions of times (again, my dad died of it). She still thinks itís crazy.

regardless if she would though, I want to.
You are right, she probably wonít understand. Most people do not understand addiction and never will.

Having said that, it really doesnít matter if she does or not: Your sobriety is a choice that you have made for yourself. Whether your mother understands why is irrelevant. You know exacltv what will happen if you drink, thatís why you came here for help. We do understand - and thatís why everyone is telling you that youíll never have just one....one sip and game over.

What you tell her doesnít matter, just donít drink the wine.
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Old 01-18-2020, 03:10 PM
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Leave the house. Leave for good if you have to. We talk about having and escape plan in a high risk situation. The plan is exactly for this situation. It's something we have to do to survive in early sobriety. We talk about letting go of high risk friends. This includes family. We don't talk about this to sound all dramatic to make a point. These are things we must learn to do. We do it to survive. As an alternative, you can get drunk. It's always your decision. If you want to get sober, you will have to learn to avoid high risk situations. You will have to plan ahead. Avoid or escape. Avoiding should be your first choice. If you stay alert and plan ahead to avoid risk, you won't find your self in these situations by accident. Such "accidents" are avoidable. Right now, my advice is to run. Run as fast as you can.
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Old 01-18-2020, 03:14 PM
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Iím feeling better for now. I really am. Thank you for all your help. Iím embarrassed. I really thought as of an hour ago that I was over it.
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Old 01-18-2020, 03:17 PM
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Originally Posted by ScottFromWI View Post
You are right, she probably wonít understand. Most people do not understand addiction and never will.

Having said that, it really doesnít matter if she does or not: Your sobriety is a choice that you have made for yourself. Whether your mother understands why is irrelevant. You know exacltv what will happen if you drink, thatís why you came here for help. We do understand - and thatís why everyone is telling you that youíll never have just one....one sip and game over.

What you tell her doesnít matter, just donít drink the wine.
i know no one will agree with this decision, but I poured ginger ale in a glass and am pretending it is wine. Itís easier. For now.
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Old 01-18-2020, 03:20 PM
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This is why I often tell people not to underestimate this thing.

Have you told her yet ?

The relief will be immense, I know because I've been there too.
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Old 01-18-2020, 03:20 PM
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i know no one will agree with this decision, but I poured ginger ale in a glass and am pretending it is wine. Itís easier. For now.
Whatever works!! Don't be at all embarrassed. We are all happy you didn't drink.
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Old 01-18-2020, 03:20 PM
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Thank you for staying strong. Your giving me strength also.
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Old 01-18-2020, 03:22 PM
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Originally Posted by Sohard View Post
Iím feeling better for now. I really am. Thank you for all your help. Iím embarrassed. I really thought as of an hour ago that I was over it.
Awesome!!
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Old 01-18-2020, 03:23 PM
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Whatever works!! Don't be at all embarrassed. We are all happy you didn't drink.
Yes we are!

I have never tried to talk anyone out of drinking before.

I must say you helped me feel good tonight.

Thanks for that
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Old 01-18-2020, 03:29 PM
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Yes we are!

I have never tried to talk anyone out of drinking before.

I must say you helped me feel good tonight.

Thanks for that
The thank you is definitely from me to you guys.

wow. this place really does work. It is amazing. Thank god for it. THANK GOD!
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Old 01-18-2020, 03:37 PM
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Originally Posted by Sohard View Post


i know no one will agree with this decision, but I poured ginger ale in a glass and am pretending it is wine. Itís easier. For now.
It's a better option than the other.

Well done on reaching out for help when you really needed it.

That marks new territory.

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Old 01-18-2020, 03:38 PM
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i know no one will agree with this decision, but I poured ginger ale in a glass and am pretending it is wine. Itís easier. For now.
I've done things like that before, lime and soda in a wine glass. Whatever works it's just great you haven't had a drink. That's what matters.
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Old 01-18-2020, 03:47 PM
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The thank you is definitely from me to you guys.

wow. this place really does work. It is amazing. Thank god for it. THANK GOD!
Here's to day 258
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Old 01-18-2020, 03:56 PM
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That's so great, Sohard.

There's nothing to be embarrased about. You should be proud of yourself. I know I am proud of you, and relieved.

Keep it up! Keep checking in.

How long are you staying at your mother's house?
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Old 01-18-2020, 03:58 PM
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This is so good to hear that you didn't drink! Do what you have to do. You have won a huge battle. I can't wait to read your posts when you wake up celebrating another sober day. You will be jumping for joy
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Old 01-18-2020, 04:04 PM
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This whole conversation would be a good one to save.
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Old 01-18-2020, 04:10 PM
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I think don't believe your AV. It's lying to you that it would be a comfort to drink today. It's diabolical and relentless, but you know it for what it is. So, let it go. The voice is your enemy.
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