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Even if you feel like you want to drink, you don't have to. Just because you have thoughts doesn't mean you have to act on them. Tell your mom you no longer drink and she'll have to accept that. And if she doesn't accept that, that's on her, not you. Stay true to yourself.

jr67

Guess what Mom. I don't drink any more.

[or]

Guess what Mom. I'm doing a Dry January.

[or]

I'm gonna pass on the wine. I'm trying to lose a few pounds.

I'm new here, Sohard, but may I ask how old you are? Not that it matters, but I'm just wondering whether your mother is a older person, set in her stubborn ways, or what.

But I say "not that it matters," because however old you are, or she is, you are the one who knows what best for you.

Do you agree with that? Then please do what is best for you. And you know what that is.

Pinky1

The thing is that one glass of wine will never be enough and when you wake up tomorrow the beast will already be awake and you will be thinking about where you are going to get your next glass/bottle from.
I hope you didn't drink, whether you made up an excuse to your mum or was honest as to why you don't drink now.
Stay strong, you will be thankful you did in the morning

ScottFromWI

You are right, she probably won’t understand. Most people do not understand addiction and never will.

Having said that, it really doesn’t matter if she does or not: Your sobriety is a choice that you have made for yourself. Whether your mother understands why is irrelevant. You know exacltv what will happen if you drink, that’s why you came here for help. We do understand - and that’s why everyone is telling you that you’ll never have just one....one sip and game over.

What you tell her doesn’t matter, just don’t drink the wine.

DriGuy

Leave the house. Leave for good if you have to. We talk about having and escape plan in a high risk situation. The plan is exactly for this situation. It's something we have to do to survive in early sobriety. We talk about letting go of high risk friends. This includes family. We don't talk about this to sound all dramatic to make a point. These are things we must learn to do. We do it to survive. As an alternative, you can get drunk. It's always your decision. If you want to get sober, you will have to learn to avoid high risk situations. You will have to plan ahead. Avoid or escape. Avoiding should be your first choice. If you stay alert and plan ahead to avoid risk, you won't find your self in these situations by accident. Such "accidents" are avoidable. Right now, my advice is to run. Run as fast as you can.

Sohard

Sohard

Derringer

This is why I often tell people not to underestimate this thing.

Have you told her yet ?

The relief will be immense, I know because I've been there too.

HeadEast

Whatever works!! Don't be at all embarrassed. We are all happy you didn't drink.

Cityboy

Thank you for staying strong. Your giving me strength also.

fishkiller

Awesome!!

fishkiller

Yes we are!

I have never tried to talk anyone out of drinking before.

I must say you helped me feel good tonight.

Thanks for that

Sohard

Derringer

It's a better option than the other.

Well done on reaching out for help when you really needed it.

That marks new territory.

Pinky1

I've done things like that before, lime and soda in a wine glass. Whatever works it's just great you haven't had a drink. That's what matters.

fishkiller

Here's to day 258

jr67

That's so great, Sohard.

There's nothing to be embarrased about. You should be proud of yourself. I know I am proud of you, and relieved.

Keep it up! Keep checking in.

How long are you staying at your mother's house?

Gettingcloser

This is so good to hear that you didn't drink! Do what you have to do. You have won a huge battle. I can't wait to read your posts when you wake up celebrating another sober day. You will be jumping for joy

JK130

This whole conversation would be a good one to save.

Anna

I think don't believe your AV. It's lying to you that it would be a comfort to drink today. It's diabolical and relentless, but you know it for what it is. So, let it go. The voice is your enemy.