Mags1

Welcome to the Weekenders

I can relate my Sober Recovery journey similar to peeling an onion.



Deciding that alcohol and I didn’t get on, took me many layers of the onion to reach that decision. I guess that could be vision, looking to the future without booze....but how?, it had been my life for a long time?



The next layers I knew I needed help, this was too big for me to do alone, I needed a plan...a road map.



Peeling more layers, meant one day I could be free of alcohol and the chains it had wrapped around me....Released



My next layers peeled away to reveal ‘What Next?’ How did I keep sober? How could I do this and make it work for me? Keeping doing what I needed to do to get it right, to get me on the sober path, going one way....Iteration

Finally, peeling the layers of the onion brought me results. I know I had to stay on this sober path for my happiness, my sanity, my free of alcohol life. I knew I was thankful every day for being released and getting my life back......Daily



We are all different and there’s a format to suit us all, the layers can be peeled off when you’re ready for the next layer. It leads to what we all want....Sobriety


If this is your first weekend sober, or many, come join us for support and chat...as we know the weekends can be a struggle sometimes. (We’re here all week too!)

andyh

thanks Mags.

MythOfSisyphus

Beautiful post Mags 1!

harriet11

Thanks for the new thread and great post Mags

Soberwolf

Love this thread particularly so

MLD51

I'm in! Thanks for all the congratulations in the last thread - I am pretty darn happy to have gotten to 5 years. Not always easy, but always worth it.

I love the layers chart with the labels - Vision, Roadmap, etc. I am on daily now, but it did take some time and lots of help to get here. I did have a hazy vision when I first put the booze down, but it was very difficult to have any clarity about what life was going to be like without alcohol. And I was pretty scared of it. I was more scared about NOT quitting, though, and I guess that was my tipping point. Less scared of a future without alcohol than I was of a future with it. I did need help with the rest of it - treatment, AA, support from others, SR, books - I used all of it to get to where I am. Still a work in progress, to be sure, but aren't we all?

MLD51

Oh, and - shotgun? No one else called it!

Soberwolf

Just saw this so forgive but MASSIVE WELL DONE YOU 5 YEARS WOWSERS xxxxxxxxxxxxxx my hero of today you are

biminiblue

I'm in. No drinking or drugging will be done by moi this weekend.




this is actually titled, "onion tears." I watched it eleventy times.

MLD51

awww, poor kitty.

How is your kitty today, Bim?

biminiblue

She's eating...but I'm syringe feeding her midday to be sure she is getting enough, she really isn't that interested in eating and I have to give her subcutaneous fluids and meds every day and she still seems to be heading to Heaven. I'm doing what I can. It's stressful. She is old, though. Still playing, still doing potty function.

That's probably more than you wanted. Thanks for asking. I'm gonna be a mess. I'm really glad I'm sober.

Something in my eye...

biminiblue

Also - who lets their cat be up on the kitchen counter? No!

Mags1

Aw poor kitties eyes.

Bim, it’s hearbreaking when our pets are ill and going to move on. I feel your pain and sorrow.

MLD51

Hang in there, Bim. I know how hard it is. Been there. And I'll be there again. I'm also glad you are sober. That way you can give her the best possible care.

biminiblue

Exactly. I haven't always been the best pet-mom with other past animals, but this is likely my last pet. I'm grateful to have this opportunity to serve her and give her a good death. I've had her for 17 years, she is a shelter cat, so I feel like I have done a good thing and given her a safe, long life.


Cats, though. Watch her rally for two more years.

MLD51

You have definitely done a good thing! All of my animals have been shelter or rescue pets. I have spent many hours and many dollars nursing animals in my life. It's very sad when one of them passes away, but I always remind myself they were well loved and cared for, and without me or someone like me, they would not have been with us at all.

And yes - she could rally - you never know. I had a cat once that I could have sworn was on her death bed 3 or 4 times, only to perk up and keep on going. In the end, though, I had to let her go, because I found out she had actually been suffering more than I thought. Tumors...

Forwards

Hi weekenders, I'm in.

Firstly congratulations MLD on your 5 years. Great work! Thanks Mags for the thread. I might be wrong but I think the idea is that you can revisit 'Iteration' to reinforce your plan from time to time. Otherwise, I'm now on 'Daily' thank goodness.

My weekend will be the usual mix of work and leisure. We have a relative visiting so that will be nice. I'm also starting to make plans for projects in the New Year.

Anyway must get on now.... Warm wishes to all. Forwards.

Kaily

Thanks for the new thread Mags. I think my onion is pickled!

Bim I am sorry your cat is so poorly, she is lucky to have you. I know what you mean about rallying. Several times I have thought Matilda's time had come, yet thankfully, touch wood she is still very much with me. (I never told her about the dodgy blood test results last week). In fact she is demanding dinner as I type.

Mags1

Forwards, you’re right, it is a redo or revisit, (that’s how I understood it from thesaurus) which happens sometimes, with our eye on the Daily. I’m pleased you’re there on the Daily.

saoutchik

IN!

Thanks for the new thread Mags. We are well and truly in to the party season now, our own works xmas party is tomorrow. The good news is that there will be open fire pizzas and it is close enough to where I live that I will be able to walk home if I want to. The slightly bad news is we are booked some kind of competitive game which I only found out today due to my amazing ability at being in the toilet whenever important announcements are made. It makes me even more happy that I'm not drinking.