Music Helps Sober Weekender Sept 2 Part 2
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assume... you know the old saying...
I agree with Mesa on the guy thing to a point...
The interesting thing about people is that no recipe works for everyone...
have you ever "butt dialed" someone? have you ever "butt texted" someone? I have been on the receiving end of both of those...
have you ever had your phone ring and accidentally rejected the call? have you ever read a text without reading it and it goes into the list of 'read' txts?
Let's not assume a text you sent was received. Or. don't read anything into not getting a prompt response from someone.
I got a text from my sister last night. I happened to hear the phone chime. When I read it, I also read the one she sent me three days ago that I just saw for the first time.
There are NO rules... The wimmins lib movement made all of the 'rules' null and void - accept that as fact. So don't wait for the other to 'break down' and communicate. Texting is for 14 year olds, call him.
And, I hope all are getting on through their trying times...
was at hdepot this morning around 6AM, digging through the 'scrap' wood pile - got what I needed... guess I'm still in work mode
I agree with Mesa on the guy thing to a point...
The interesting thing about people is that no recipe works for everyone...
have you ever "butt dialed" someone? have you ever "butt texted" someone? I have been on the receiving end of both of those...
have you ever had your phone ring and accidentally rejected the call? have you ever read a text without reading it and it goes into the list of 'read' txts?
Let's not assume a text you sent was received. Or. don't read anything into not getting a prompt response from someone.
I got a text from my sister last night. I happened to hear the phone chime. When I read it, I also read the one she sent me three days ago that I just saw for the first time.
There are NO rules... The wimmins lib movement made all of the 'rules' null and void - accept that as fact. So don't wait for the other to 'break down' and communicate. Texting is for 14 year olds, call him.
And, I hope all are getting on through their trying times...
was at hdepot this morning around 6AM, digging through the 'scrap' wood pile - got what I needed... guess I'm still in work mode
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Originally Posted by LBrain 
Texting is for 14 year olds, call him.
Sorry.....but this texting deal drives me insane....we need to actually talk to each other.
Rant over.
EDIT>>>> awesome song!!!!!!
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Mesa, love you buddy. Your words are soothing af to this middle aged lady dating like a teenager. You absolutely know when and how to say it, and for that, I appreciate and cherish you.
It's terrifying out there. And I decided homeboy and the ex can suck lemons. I'll just go be fabulous per usual.
Everything I'm doing everyday benefits me and the person I will eventually be with.
But most importantly, it's still a jungle in my head and that's what I'd like to continue unraveling and processing and calming down.
This guy came along as a fluke and I think I'll leave it like that.
xoxo
It's terrifying out there. And I decided homeboy and the ex can suck lemons. I'll just go be fabulous per usual.
Everything I'm doing everyday benefits me and the person I will eventually be with.
But most importantly, it's still a jungle in my head and that's what I'd like to continue unraveling and processing and calming down.
This guy came along as a fluke and I think I'll leave it like that.
xoxo
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Melina -
I figured out I wasn't ready for a full-on relationship with Handyman - I, too, still have a jungle in my head. I blamed it on him, because I felt like he was asking too much. Really, it's me who just isn't ready. I felt overwhelmed, but looking back, it wasn't really his fault. Give yourself time. That's what I'm doing. There's no rush. I understand it gets lonely sometimes. Those feelings pass. When I feel lonely I come here, or go to a meeting, or go to my supper club and have an iced tea. I'm liking the time and space to continue whacking away at the jungle in my head with a machete. Hey, if it gets bad, text me or call me!!!
I figured out I wasn't ready for a full-on relationship with Handyman - I, too, still have a jungle in my head. I blamed it on him, because I felt like he was asking too much. Really, it's me who just isn't ready. I felt overwhelmed, but looking back, it wasn't really his fault. Give yourself time. That's what I'm doing. There's no rush. I understand it gets lonely sometimes. Those feelings pass. When I feel lonely I come here, or go to a meeting, or go to my supper club and have an iced tea. I'm liking the time and space to continue whacking away at the jungle in my head with a machete. Hey, if it gets bad, text me or call me!!!
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Originally Posted by venuscat
JK is right....I promise you, there's magic out there.
Incredible love...the stuff that dreams are made of.
Trust me....I'm living proof. ♥
Incredible love...the stuff that dreams are made of.
Trust me....I'm living proof. ♥
Xoxoxoxoxo
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Originally Posted by MidnightBlue
Dates and rules....
For me it's still like another galaxy.
I have tremendous trust issues.
My ex, who is considered a good guy overall, once, in the heat of our argument, called me a "good-for-nothing person" and "impotent" because I "let my mother die of cancer".
It's been about 6 years ago. I still can't get it out of my head.
For me it's still like another galaxy.
I have tremendous trust issues.
My ex, who is considered a good guy overall, once, in the heat of our argument, called me a "good-for-nothing person" and "impotent" because I "let my mother die of cancer".
It's been about 6 years ago. I still can't get it out of my head.
Anyway he hated my smoking, so I pretended to quit and he caught me!
( surprise surprise)
He had a bit of a stammer when he got upset (cutest thing ever)
When he caught me smoking he said " I hope you get cancer and die!"
Wtf!!!!!! I just burst out laughing!! It was ridiculous!
Anyway- people say things they don't mean when they're angry- I bet he didn't mean a single word
Xoxoxoxoxo
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Originally Posted by venuscat
Midnight ~ I'm sorry that happened love. 
I think it's very important to be careful of the words that fly out of our mouths in the heat of an argument. So many of us here have been abused, and are perhaps more vulnerable than the average bear...I am SO careful not to say things I can't take back. Things that wound deeply and forever. Because those things stay with me too...I don't want to do that to someone else.
So my rules are love, honesty and kindness.
I think it's very important to be careful of the words that fly out of our mouths in the heat of an argument. So many of us here have been abused, and are perhaps more vulnerable than the average bear...I am SO careful not to say things I can't take back. Things that wound deeply and forever. Because those things stay with me too...I don't want to do that to someone else.
So my rules are love, honesty and kindness.
Easier said than done of course!
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Originally Posted by Soberwolf
Thanks guys she left not long ago I gave her snacks to take & il see her Friday
It's been a excellent summer x
It's been a excellent summer x
Xoxoxo
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Originally Posted by brynn
Morning y'all!
(((Mel))) you know you don't want the online guy if you have to make him like you. Your guy is out there somewhere sweetie. The universe is waiting for us to discover one more thing about ourselves before sending us 'the one'!
((MB))
I hate going into the office after a long weekend. So much to do and the phone is ringing even as you unlock the door. Serenity and lotsa coffee needed! xo
(((Mel))) you know you don't want the online guy if you have to make him like you. Your guy is out there somewhere sweetie. The universe is waiting for us to discover one more thing about ourselves before sending us 'the one'!
((MB))
I hate going into the office after a long weekend. So much to do and the phone is ringing even as you unlock the door. Serenity and lotsa coffee needed! xo
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Melina you're seriously hot and cool - there'll be a ton more and you'll forget all about him soon enough!
Brain!! Good advice! That bacon is perfect too!
Hi sao, behan, mart, ken, lunar! Hope I didn't miss anyone!
I only woke up once last night!
Brain!! Good advice! That bacon is perfect too!
Hi sao, behan, mart, ken, lunar! Hope I didn't miss anyone!
I only woke up once last night!
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Holy crap. There's no way I'm going to be able to catch up on all the posts.
Chicago was good. Got to hold my new baby niece. My wife says that, after four of our own, she's got no need to hold small babies any more. Me? I'm still a sucker for their little baby hands and smell and toes and skin!
Peace all. Hope everyone's weekends went well. I'll try to read back some posts later.
Chicago was good. Got to hold my new baby niece. My wife says that, after four of our own, she's got no need to hold small babies any more. Me? I'm still a sucker for their little baby hands and smell and toes and skin!
Peace all. Hope everyone's weekends went well. I'll try to read back some posts later.
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Originally Posted by Jsbodhi
I was living with a delight of a man!!! An irish guy who was the best ever.
Anyway he hated my smoking, so I pretended to quit and he caught me!
( surprise surprise)
He had a bit of a stammer when he got upset (cutest thing ever)
When he caught me smoking he said " I hope you get cancer and die!"
Wtf!!!!!! I just burst out laughing!! It was ridiculous!
Anyway- people say things they don't mean when they're angry- I bet he didn't mean a single word
Xoxoxoxoxo
Anyway he hated my smoking, so I pretended to quit and he caught me!
( surprise surprise)
He had a bit of a stammer when he got upset (cutest thing ever)
When he caught me smoking he said " I hope you get cancer and die!"
Wtf!!!!!! I just burst out laughing!! It was ridiculous!
Anyway- people say things they don't mean when they're angry- I bet he didn't mean a single word
Xoxoxoxoxo
Jen, I agree that when we are angry we tend to say lots of BS - I am far from being an angel myself. But considering that he asked his friends in intelligence to dig into records of my family, and particularly, my father who died when I was 4 years old....Hmmmm. I bet he meant what he did.
Whatever happened between us, there is no excuse to "investigate" about the person who died over 30 years ago.
Sorry. It just gets me emotional.
Love you guys)
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Slow day here in work. I'm not complaining.
After months of indecision, finally ordered a HDMI media stick of the Roku variety. We'll see how it pans out. I try not to watch too much TV.
We call bacon "rashers". Much more meat than the American cut. We mostly use that type as a condiment. He he - maybe we could have a "Bacon-off" next weekend!!!
Welcome to the Bring the Bacon weekend!!!
Despite my mostly vegetarian diet now, I do love bacon.
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After months of indecision, finally ordered a HDMI media stick of the Roku variety. We'll see how it pans out. I try not to watch too much TV.
We call bacon "rashers". Much more meat than the American cut. We mostly use that type as a condiment. He he - maybe we could have a "Bacon-off" next weekend!!!
Welcome to the Bring the Bacon weekend!!!
Despite my mostly vegetarian diet now, I do love bacon.
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