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[TE=Volshen;5998606]Ended up drinking yesterday, girlfriend caught me and moved out.. Lost apartment because her grandparents were renting it to us. Moved in with my father.. He's found me an agnostic sponsor in a.a so I'm going to speak with him tomorrow... Girlfriend says she's not done with me but says this is my last chance to get it right.. She moved back in with her mother..[/QUOTE]
When your girlfriend takes off for good, your father says you've got to go and you've been sacked again from a job you'll have a better handle on what it means to be on a losing streak.
Right now it looks as if people are still buying your act
Please believe that's not going to last indefinitely
Good luck
When your girlfriend takes off for good, your father says you've got to go and you've been sacked again from a job you'll have a better handle on what it means to be on a losing streak.
Right now it looks as if people are still buying your act
Please believe that's not going to last indefinitely
Good luck
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Thanks Dee.
Hi Ken. I have realized it could be much worse, but this has still been a major wake up call for me. You're right.. People won't stick around too for many more incidents.. They have to be healthy and look out for themselves at some point. For me I believe that would be the next time I drink.. So there can't be a next time.
Thank you for the response.
Hi Ken. I have realized it could be much worse, but this has still been a major wake up call for me. You're right.. People won't stick around too for many more incidents.. They have to be healthy and look out for themselves at some point. For me I believe that would be the next time I drink.. So there can't be a next time.
Thank you for the response.
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Your still alive, may have another chance with your girlfriend, and people care enough about you to help with sponsorship. In no way have you lost everything!! Alcohol is a depressant so it is no surprise that's how you feel. I have had some low, low, low bottoms. If your still living, all is not wasted. Pick up the pieces and make your struggles a meaningful story of putting things back together that will someday help others!
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Girlfriend wants to see me doing more than just posting on SR. The potential agnostic sponsor turns out to be very busy .. is willing to talk to me but no time to sponsor. I don't feel comfortable asking random people in a meeting what their religious views are.
I tried to explain to her that the reason SR didn't keep me sober in the past is because I must not of been ready.. I'd say I was ready ... maybe that day thought I was ready ... but wasn't ready because usually the next day after posting I'd drink.
Coming back to SR genuinely ready .. genuinely sick of the insanity that is drinking .. is different. If that makes any sense. Makes sense to me but I don't know how to word it.
I tried to explain to her that the reason SR didn't keep me sober in the past is because I must not of been ready.. I'd say I was ready ... maybe that day thought I was ready ... but wasn't ready because usually the next day after posting I'd drink.
Coming back to SR genuinely ready .. genuinely sick of the insanity that is drinking .. is different. If that makes any sense. Makes sense to me but I don't know how to word it.
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Hey Volshen, sorry that the agnostic sponsor is too busy. Keep going to meetings. I had an atheist friend who did fine in AA; she just let the god stuff roll off of her.
Do you have a plan for sobriety. There is an outline on the stickies on this thread.
Do you have a plan for sobriety. There is an outline on the stickies on this thread.
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Originally Posted by Volshen 
Girlfriend wants to see me doing more than just posting on SR.
All you can do is stay sober and show, though action and through the changes in your life, that life-long sobriety is your goal.
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Originally Posted by Volshen
Girlfriend wants to see me doing more than just posting on SR. The potential agnostic sponsor turns out to be very busy .. is willing to talk to me but no time to sponsor. I don't feel comfortable asking random people in a meeting what their religious views are.
I tried to explain to her that the reason SR didn't keep me sober in the past is because I must not of been ready.. I'd say I was ready ... maybe that day thought I was ready ... but wasn't ready because usually the next day after posting I'd drink.
Coming back to SR genuinely ready .. genuinely sick of the insanity that is drinking .. is different. If that makes any sense. Makes sense to me but I don't know how to word it.
I tried to explain to her that the reason SR didn't keep me sober in the past is because I must not of been ready.. I'd say I was ready ... maybe that day thought I was ready ... but wasn't ready because usually the next day after posting I'd drink.
Coming back to SR genuinely ready .. genuinely sick of the insanity that is drinking .. is different. If that makes any sense. Makes sense to me but I don't know how to word it.
and you want to have your girlfriend in your life,
I suggest you find yourself another sponsor.
It's actually better for you to do your own legwork
in this anyway--
By the way, talk coming from us addicts is pretty cheap.
"Trying to explain" doesn't carry much value for our loved ones after we fail to stay sober
and don't keep our promises to them repeatedly.
Your track record is what counts--not what you say you will do.
They've been burned so many times.
I was too by my alcoholic mother.
She'd promise, say she'd changed, but actions were never there over time.
Congrats on your sober effort so far
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Originally Posted by Hawkeye13
There are other face-to-face sponsors--if your GF wants to see more effort,
and you want to have your girlfriend in your life,
I suggest you find yourself another sponsor.
It's actually better for you to do your own legwork
in this anyway--
By the way, talk coming from us addicts is pretty cheap.
"Trying to explain" doesn't carry much value for our loved ones after we fail to stay sober
and don't keep our promises to them repeatedly.
Your track record is what counts--not what you say you will do.
They've been burned so many times.
I was too by my alcoholic mother.
She'd promise, say she'd changed, but actions were never there over time.
Congrats on your sober effort so far
and you want to have your girlfriend in your life,
I suggest you find yourself another sponsor.
It's actually better for you to do your own legwork
in this anyway--
By the way, talk coming from us addicts is pretty cheap.
"Trying to explain" doesn't carry much value for our loved ones after we fail to stay sober
and don't keep our promises to them repeatedly.
Your track record is what counts--not what you say you will do.
They've been burned so many times.
I was too by my alcoholic mother.
She'd promise, say she'd changed, but actions were never there over time.
Congrats on your sober effort so far
^^^^^^x 1000,000,000^^^^^^^^^ I can't agree with what Hawkeye said enough!!!
I actually left my XABF less because he was using and more because of his promises that stank of broken.
If you are truly serious about getting sober, ask questions about how it is done. Don't make promises, dig deep, get humble and amass every bit of support you can.
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Day 10.
Working for a few hours this morning .. Then just going to stay busy with projects.
Only made it this far once. Last time I drank on day 12. Don't see it happening this time.
Have a great day everyone
Working for a few hours this morning .. Then just going to stay busy with projects.
Only made it this far once. Last time I drank on day 12. Don't see it happening this time.
Have a great day everyone
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I'm temporarily working part time in a grocery store while I look for a full time job. Today I caught myself reading the % of alcohol in a bottle of wine. I don't even like wine ... but that word alcohol started up my imagination. I briefly thought about what it would be like to drink ... quickly realized there is no possible way it would make any sense and I started thinking about other things.
Made me realize I've gotten kind of overconfident about not drinking because I have never made it this far before.
Made me realize I've gotten kind of overconfident about not drinking because I have never made it this far before.
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