Just be you weekender May 27th Pt 2
Giving up is NOT an option.
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Originally Posted by Venecia 
Oh, Marty. That must be painful. One thought: Guy friend has had a *very* long time to communicate the true nature of his feelings. Now that there's a prospect of you being happy with someone else, he gets around to it? Does the adage "day late and a dollar short" come to mind?
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Originally Posted by mecanix
What is this thread about ?
It is about getting through the weekend .
It starts on thursday because in NZ & Australia it's friday morning and ken and i when we started doing this weekly , we wanted everyone around the world to get the chance to think seriously about the up coming weekend and plan accordingly .
You know there are going to be cravings ,
you know you will be bored if you just sit on the sofa like you did when you drank ,
you know going to the supermarket when craving friday evening isn't a good idea ,
you know going out for a aimless drive or walk with enough money in your pocket for booze is asking for trouble ..
It's a muster call, let people touch base , sometimes in sobriety there is nothing to say and you don't want to share , so it's ok to post here and say i'm in so you are engaging even in a light way .
It's a call for mindfulness ,
it's a bit of a place to come and say hi if the rest of the newcomers area seems a bit harrowing , as it sometimes is when people are in the midst of a full on fight with their addictions .
It was partly to show people that sober weekends are possible and that there are things to do when you are sober that are , fun , touching , painful , loving , challenging . difficult , easy , interesting and boring .
It's something to read thats a bit different from the normal .. when i first came to SR it was a lifeline but one which used to make me emotionally unstable with reading about others plight , so this is just one thread to offer a bit of warmth and a safe haven .
We renew it each week so last week is consigned to the past , everyone can join in get on the sober bus again , prep and try to do it right this time
Thats what i think it means ..
m
It is about getting through the weekend .
It starts on thursday because in NZ & Australia it's friday morning and ken and i when we started doing this weekly , we wanted everyone around the world to get the chance to think seriously about the up coming weekend and plan accordingly .
You know there are going to be cravings ,
you know you will be bored if you just sit on the sofa like you did when you drank ,
you know going to the supermarket when craving friday evening isn't a good idea ,
you know going out for a aimless drive or walk with enough money in your pocket for booze is asking for trouble ..
It's a muster call, let people touch base , sometimes in sobriety there is nothing to say and you don't want to share , so it's ok to post here and say i'm in so you are engaging even in a light way .
It's a call for mindfulness ,
it's a bit of a place to come and say hi if the rest of the newcomers area seems a bit harrowing , as it sometimes is when people are in the midst of a full on fight with their addictions .
It was partly to show people that sober weekends are possible and that there are things to do when you are sober that are , fun , touching , painful , loving , challenging . difficult , easy , interesting and boring .
It's something to read thats a bit different from the normal .. when i first came to SR it was a lifeline but one which used to make me emotionally unstable with reading about others plight , so this is just one thread to offer a bit of warmth and a safe haven .
We renew it each week so last week is consigned to the past , everyone can join in get on the sober bus again , prep and try to do it right this time
Thats what i think it means ..
m
Did anyone else imagine Linus on stage for his 'What Christmas is All About' speech?
Lovely, Mex, truly lovely.
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Originally Posted by Olive1
Did anyone else imagine Linus on stage for his 'What Christmas is All About' speech?
Lovely, Mex, truly lovely.
Lovely, Mex, truly lovely.
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Geez, Marty, that didn't take long. I knew he was going to do exactly that but not this soon.
What a douchenozzle.
Him and my ex have clearly been hanging out.
Stay strong, my friend. We are going to be just fine. We're free now.
Xoxo
What a douchenozzle.
Him and my ex have clearly been hanging out.
Stay strong, my friend. We are going to be just fine. We're free now.
Xoxo
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Oh I love Linus! I actually know a really cute Australian named Linus who comes to my office occasionally....not that that has anything to do with anything, just sayin.
And douchenozzle about sums it up! Marty, That's SO sucky of him to tell you all thus stuff now and ruin what should be an amazingly happy time by planting this doubt crap in your mind! Stay focused on the new flame and enjoy it!
And douchenozzle about sums it up! Marty, That's SO sucky of him to tell you all thus stuff now and ruin what should be an amazingly happy time by planting this doubt crap in your mind! Stay focused on the new flame and enjoy it!
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PS today I would celebrate a year sober. But I drank 3 nights in February.
So I am at 96 days.
And that's ok. If I think about what I've been able to do in a year, the strong and quiet triumphs that only I saw, the work I put in, the difficult adulting, the integrity building, the recovery toolbox strengthening.... Well, I'm going to take a moment and feel strong and proud.
Bc setbacks aside, I am doing this damn thing and I'm not doing a bad job of it.
Sobriety, I think I will continue!
Thank you to everyone for this past year, and for helping me get right back on the wagon when I drank.
Xoxo
So I am at 96 days.
And that's ok. If I think about what I've been able to do in a year, the strong and quiet triumphs that only I saw, the work I put in, the difficult adulting, the integrity building, the recovery toolbox strengthening.... Well, I'm going to take a moment and feel strong and proud.
Bc setbacks aside, I am doing this damn thing and I'm not doing a bad job of it.
Sobriety, I think I will continue!
Thank you to everyone for this past year, and for helping me get right back on the wagon when I drank.
Xoxo
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Originally Posted by MLD51
To his credit, he realizes he f**ked up. He's not blaming me for anything that's happening. Not that it matters much at this point.
Sometimes it's more about us stopping throwing ourselves at a brick wall and giving ourselves permission to be free.
I'm gonna do it. I declare myself free. I'm glad you're moving on as well.
Xoxo
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Jen, MN (math nerd) sounds divine! Wish I had some math homework to send him! I could've used him about ten years ago lol!!
SU Smile! You've got us lol!!
I'm not a fan of birthdays anymore either. Remember being a kid saying you were eight and A HALF!?! Or eight and THREE QUARTERS?! You never hear adults adding the half or three quarters to their age.
SU
Smile! You've got us lol!! I'm not a fan of birthdays anymore either. Remember being a kid saying you were eight and A HALF!?! Or eight and THREE QUARTERS?! You never hear adults adding the half or three quarters to their age.
Giving up is NOT an option.
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Okay I've come up with a new nickname for the new guy. Handyman. That's what he does when he's not busting ass at the home improvement store. And he's very good at it.
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Yes Marty--what Ven says--only when you move on he speaks up?
You have been left alone and ignored too many times by this guy
to let a few sweet words sway you too much.
Let him stew for a bit and see how you like the new / old flame for a bit.
Just you and Randyman (oops, I meant Handyman) stay out of my pool, like I said before . . .
You have been left alone and ignored too many times by this guy
to let a few sweet words sway you too much.
Let him stew for a bit and see how you like the new / old flame for a bit.
Just you and Randyman (oops, I meant Handyman) stay out of my pool, like I said before . . .
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Originally Posted by Melina
We are going to be just fine.
Originally Posted by Melina
So I am at 96 days.
Bc setbacks aside, I am doing this damn thing and I'm not doing a bad job of it.
Sobriety, I think I will continue!
Originally Posted by brynn
I'm not a fan of birthdays anymore either. Remember being a kid saying you were eight and A HALF!?! Or eight and THREE QUARTERS?! You never hear adults adding the half or three quarters to their age.
Originally Posted by MLD51
I'm doing what I often do when frustrated and off-kilter. Baking. Rhubarb muffins in the oven.
Originally Posted by Hawkeye13
Just you and Randyman (oops, I meant Handyman) stay out of my pool, like I said before . . .
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I want to punch him in the face marty.
Like melina said- I knew he was gonna do this but I thought it might take later.
And I guarantee if you ditch your new man and go with him; he'll go right back to stringing you along.
Tell him you're with someone else now and this whole conversation is inappropriate.
Like melina said- I knew he was gonna do this but I thought it might take later.
And I guarantee if you ditch your new man and go with him; he'll go right back to stringing you along.
Tell him you're with someone else now and this whole conversation is inappropriate.
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Originally Posted by brynn
oh i love linus! I actually know a really cute australian named linus who comes to my office occasionally....not that that has anything to do with anything, just sayin.
And douchenozzle about sums it up! Marty, that's so sucky of him to tell you all thus stuff now and ruin what should be an amazingly happy time by planting this doubt crap in your mind! Stay focused on the new flame and enjoy it!
And douchenozzle about sums it up! Marty, that's so sucky of him to tell you all thus stuff now and ruin what should be an amazingly happy time by planting this doubt crap in your mind! Stay focused on the new flame and enjoy it!
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