Just be you weekender May 27th Pt 2
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Originally Posted by MLD51 
I will feel really stupid if the thing with SS crashes and burns again.
I don't know, Marty, about guy friend. Somehow, he got in your head and that can happen to any of us, particularly if something -- be it a romantic relationship, a platonic friendship or the weird territory in between -- has gone on for a long time. You've written about your places in one another's lives with genuine gratitude. But you've also alluded to regrets connected to your pre-sobriety life -- something I get the impression he's perpetuated -- as well as times subsequently when has really let you down. Or caused you great concern.
In your rebuilt life, you've been a loyal friend to guy friend. He also has chosen not to take some steps to improve his own existence.
Perhaps there will always be a connection, even if it is one solely a matter of living in the same small location.
Enjoy SS and the opening door. You deserve to be happy, Marty.
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Originally Posted by Venecia
Don't worry about that. We have to choose between living life without risks or taking risks, knowing the spectrum of outcomes that await. Including some really nice possibilities.
I don't know, Marty, about guy friend. Somehow, he got in your head and that can happen to any of us, particularly if something -- be it a romantic relationship, a platonic friendship or the weird territory in between -- has gone on for a long time. You've written about your places in one another's lives with genuine gratitude. But you've also alluded to regrets connected to your pre-sobriety life -- something I get the impression he's perpetuated -- as well as times subsequently when has really let you down. Or caused you great concern.
In your rebuilt life, you've been a loyal friend to guy friend. He also has chosen not to take some steps to improve his own existence.
Perhaps there will always be a connection, even if it is one solely a matter of living in the same small location.
Enjoy SS and the opening door. You deserve to be happy, Marty.
I don't know, Marty, about guy friend. Somehow, he got in your head and that can happen to any of us, particularly if something -- be it a romantic relationship, a platonic friendship or the weird territory in between -- has gone on for a long time. You've written about your places in one another's lives with genuine gratitude. But you've also alluded to regrets connected to your pre-sobriety life -- something I get the impression he's perpetuated -- as well as times subsequently when has really let you down. Or caused you great concern.
In your rebuilt life, you've been a loyal friend to guy friend. He also has chosen not to take some steps to improve his own existence.
Perhaps there will always be a connection, even if it is one solely a matter of living in the same small location.
Enjoy SS and the opening door. You deserve to be happy, Marty.
And if it doesn't work with SS- make guy friend beg
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I leave everything until the last minute- I have frantically booked hotels in Atlanta, Savannah and Charleston.
I have one on new orleans- gonna wing it the rest of the way.
I just wanted to have something solid for the first few days to get my bearings
I have one on new orleans- gonna wing it the rest of the way.
I just wanted to have something solid for the first few days to get my bearings
Giving up is NOT an option.
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Thank you, Ven and Jen. But no, not going to make guy friend beg. That chapter is closed forever. We made that clear to each other today as the texting went on. Things are wrapped up now, I hope. Closure ( and I'm not a fan of that word). We both have a lot of regrets but it's time to move along.
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Originally Posted by MLD51
Thank you, Ven and Jen. But no, not going to make guy friend beg. That chapter is closed forever. We made that clear to each other today as the texting went on. Things are wrapped up now, I hope. Closure ( and I'm not a fan of that word). We both have a lot of regrets but it's time to move along.
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Ice cream. I'll eat ice cream too in Marty's name.
Marty, there will probably always be feelings about guy friend. I'd apply the gratitude stuff. He was there when you needed a friend but you've grown and he doesn't seem to be. That stretches things in weird ways. Just relax with new guy. I'm sorry. I can't call him SS. It brings to mind stormtroopers.
I got terribly sunburned. The word "dumb" actually tried to auto carrot for sunburned. And that would have been true. I forgot to put on sunscreen.
Time for ice cream. I had a good day.
Marty, there will probably always be feelings about guy friend. I'd apply the gratitude stuff. He was there when you needed a friend but you've grown and he doesn't seem to be. That stretches things in weird ways. Just relax with new guy. I'm sorry. I can't call him SS. It brings to mind stormtroopers.
I got terribly sunburned. The word "dumb" actually tried to auto carrot for sunburned. And that would have been true. I forgot to put on sunscreen.
Time for ice cream. I had a good day.
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Originally Posted by MLD51
I will feel really stupid if the thing with SS crashes and burns again.
really has been stringing you along.
Maybe no contact him for a little bit till things cool off?
It's so predictable when the "non-committers" want to hedge their
bet and then freak out when you actually want to step away and get
your life back.
You did the right thing
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Watching Banshee and got Chinese food delivered.
Weird day bc I let myself get hangry. I never got out of the house until after 7 pm and that was to get rid of a friend who wore out her welcome.
I felt trapped. It could have been a lovely visit of a couple hours but now I'm just irritated that she came over at all.
It's supposed to rain again this week and I'll be annoyed if this was the best weather day of the week. Bc it was awesome out all day.
I'm such a grump! Maybe a moat and alligators are better for me than ever giving up home turf advantage.
All's well that ends well. Just time to relax now. Maybe I'll join you all in some ice cream to even out the grumps.
Weird day bc I let myself get hangry. I never got out of the house until after 7 pm and that was to get rid of a friend who wore out her welcome.
I felt trapped. It could have been a lovely visit of a couple hours but now I'm just irritated that she came over at all.
It's supposed to rain again this week and I'll be annoyed if this was the best weather day of the week. Bc it was awesome out all day.
I'm such a grump! Maybe a moat and alligators are better for me than ever giving up home turf advantage.
All's well that ends well. Just time to relax now. Maybe I'll join you all in some ice cream to even out the grumps.
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Melina. I'm sorry you're grumpy. I always have anxiety about people overstaying their welcome. Usually they don't. My kids are enough to chase people away
There will be other nice days. And the plants i just put in could use the rain.
There will be other nice days. And the plants i just put in could use the rain.
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It felt like hanging out as teenagers, you don't know if you're gonna hang out three hours or three days! At least that's how me and my girls used to roll. Super fun!
But now at 41, fuggedaboutit... get the eff out my face so I can keep my chakras balanced
She even fell asleep! That's when I concocted my lie and I woke her up and said I had to go right now bc my ex is going to let me visit the baby. Now, right now, times a-wasting!
I know honesty is the best policy but I chickened out and had no desire to even politely suggest that I was done visiting. Decided to lie like a rug bc wussy thug life.
But now at 41, fuggedaboutit... get the eff out my face so I can keep my chakras balanced
She even fell asleep! That's when I concocted my lie and I woke her up and said I had to go right now bc my ex is going to let me visit the baby. Now, right now, times a-wasting!
I know honesty is the best policy but I chickened out and had no desire to even politely suggest that I was done visiting. Decided to lie like a rug bc wussy thug life.
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Morning everyone,
Congratulations on shotgun SUID
I think you have handled the situation in the right way Marty, he understands what it is that he's lost now
I understand about wearing out the welcome Melina but it is good to have people round too. Awkward
Real early here - 5:20am. I was woken by the torrential rain - it is like a waterfallThere will be no run for me this morning
Hawkeye - me with mullet and friend (i'm on the left)
Congratulations on shotgun SUID
I think you have handled the situation in the right way Marty, he understands what it is that he's lost now
I understand about wearing out the welcome Melina but it is good to have people round too. Awkward
Real early here - 5:20am. I was woken by the torrential rain - it is like a waterfallThere will be no run for me this morning
Hawkeye - me with mullet and friend (i'm on the left)
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