saoutchik

7.45pm and still light

Caught glimpses of a beautiful sunset but too many high rises to enjoy

LBrain

hi everyone, Hi Jen, Hi Bim,

I guess all I got is a song for now...

Fabela

There's one thing I don't understand. This forum is so supportive and helpful, and every time I mention that I'd really like to have a tiny relapse, there are at least three people here telling me that it's not worth it and that I can manage without drinking. That's a good thing. But then I go to the Friends and Family part of the forum where people seek advice about what to do with their addicted husbands or girlfriends or whatever, and that's a completely different story. I've read responds like "your husband is never going to change" and "she's going to relapse again" and I'm like: What if that wife were me? What if my husband needed advice and he heard that? Does that mean that I by definition am going to fail? (If I could write this in Norwegian I would have been able to explain this better, I hope you get the gist)

brynn

(((((((Jen))))))) massive hugs dear girl

brynn

Fab.....I think that the advice on the F and F side is to help people who are so enmeshed/codependent with an addict see that they need to stop putting their life on hold and constantly waiting for their loved one to change. They can enact change for themselves and can live a healthy full life whether or not their addict ever changes.
Xo

brynn

Hi bim!!!
Xoxo

Ruby2

Fabela, I understand what you're saying. I started on SR, family and friends, because my husband had relapsed but stuck around because I realized I had to do something about my own drinking. Sometimes it seems counter to the message of hope we get here, hanging out on Newcomers.

Ruby2

I saw this and thought it was cool.

Behan

Welcome back Jen!

Welcome back Bim!! How's she cutting? I hope you are well!!

Upward2Enlightenment

Fab ... it could be that they have been hurt so many times that they don't believe that an addict can change. Also, like in business, if you do something good you are lucky if they tell 5 people but, if you do something wrong you are lucky if they only tell 50.

LBrain

Ruby, your video was obviously inspired by Bimini making an appearance.
Off to the showers for me...
But first, if an octopus could sing...

Ruby2

Why yes, Brain, it was inspired by Bim's appearance. It was serendipitous that it popped up on my facebook feed today (and it was cool).

Wretched weather again today. Cold and snow. I wore light colored suede shoes today after being assured that there would be no wet.

Tetra

I hope you feel better Jsbodhi.
Take it from me, who 'slipped' two weeks ago, and yes I am calling it a 'slip' and not a 'relapse' as I got back on track straight away, that the anxiety and stress is just not worth it.

I have three interviews this week and I'm so stressed out. Our heating system has a mind of its own. I just had a freezing bath. The weather was lovely yesterday. It was like a summer's day bit today was like a winters day again.
Meanwhile my brother was whining on Skype that it was 26 degrees over there.
A trip to the US is sounding really good right about now.

MesaMan

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Welp ~

Just finished setting a 10' Pole in Concrete, and bracing it temporarily. So, that far Gate Antenna end of this Wireless Internet Link is more done than it was. This is just a lil Proof-of-Principle Test Post, here, since everything got rearranged.

Glad to see Bim and Bodhi_cious and Tetra here, and back on their Horses. So to speak. Gotta get on down to the Dog Park. Mebbe I'll 'fess up later to Public Sex, and the Adventures in the Back Rooms of Taiwanese 'Full Service' Barbershops. The top of the Tokyo Tower has one hella view, lemme tell ya!

'Life's no mess when you Confess' ~ Me

And, I'm having a much better day than this poor Soul...

- Motorist Avoids Malibu Cliff Plunge ~ Gets Hit By Bus -

A lil Coconut Music, Maestro...

- 'Endicott' ~ Kid Creole & The Coconuts -
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LBrain

Tetra, if your brother lives near me, 26 degrees means -3 to you... which is about right. We're supposed to get another freeze tonight with possible snow.

how about one more?

Weasel1966

Had a bit of a horrible day. Anxiety running high. Tooth cracked and at dentist earlier. What ever. So it shall pass.

Good to see everyone rally around each other!

Gonna do the mindless candy crush thing and tv.

Made up for yesterday's sucky food. Pan fried rib eye and steamed carrot. No auto carrot. Just the orange kind.

K

BixBees505

Fab, we here on newcomers are the minority of people with problems. There is nothing "by definition" or doomed about us. It is simple reality that most people fail a few times before making it...and some people take entire families down with them in the process. AND...we cannot forget that addiction is often danced as a tango with one or more codependent just as sick as the addict. So seeing the other side of the coin should be sobering (pun intended), but not discouraging at all.

Upward2Enlightenment

Speaking of that brain, can't you keep that stuff up there?

BixBees505

Bodhi et al..."deviant" does not apply unless animals or minors are involved. So now that the label is spoiled...how does that feel? I find the need for a"vice" is still very strong. I too need to solve that in a way that does not diminish me.

Ruby2

Kid Creole was reading "In Praise of Older Women"

Weasel, I'm sorry you're having a rotten day. Mindless TV sounds lovely.