There's one thing I don't understand. This forum is so supportive and helpful, and every time I mention that I'd really like to have a tiny relapse, there are at least three people here telling me that it's not worth it and that I can manage without drinking. That's a good thing. But then I go to the Friends and Family part of the forum where people seek advice about what to do with their addicted husbands or girlfriends or whatever, and that's a completely different story. I've read responds like "your husband is never going to change" and "she's going to relapse again" and I'm like: What if that wife were me? What if my husband needed advice and he heard that? Does that mean that I by definition am going to fail? (If I could write this in Norwegian I would have been able to explain this better, I hope you get the gist)